OH complaining about my dinners

[lockdownqueen]

I've just made a lovely tuna bake creamy garlicy cheese sauce sweet corn and tuna and some garlic bread.

OH left all his dinner and ate all the garlic bread and said my pasta was plain. He will quite happily Scoff his mum watery tomato pasta (vile) and will scoff maccies everyday.

I'm actually sick of cooking for him as he's always got something to complain about.

YABU to use the word "scoff"

YANBU to be pissed off and let him take over the family's cooking

I am amazed that he found tuna pasta "plain".

Has he been feverish or coughing recently, OP?

Am I the only one who read this and was back in Ambridge?!

God I miss tuna pasta bake. I'd have loved that meal.
DH would never refuse to eat anything just for it not being to his taste but he does add chilli flakes every so often. If he complained like yours he wouldn't get fed.

Tell him to stuff it up his arse and fuck off while he’s doing it. Cheeky sod can make his own dinners

@lotsofdogshere

Nope, not just you! We all know what happens after meals with tuna bake and custard...

So don’t cook for him, simple.

Against Mumsnet guidelines 😆 we don’t eat as a family every night of the week, for various reasons. When we do it’s something we all eat . Other times he’s not home in till very late he’ll grab something on the way home or cheese on toast for something quick and he’s shattered.
I’m
If you you’re all around the table for dinner every night, can you not decide between you evening meals for the coming week?

*PurpleDaisies
So just cook enough for you and the kids.

Agree with this! My exh used to complain about every meal I made. Apparently it wasn't done the way his mother used to do it. So I stopped cooking for him. Literally never cooked another meal for him again.*

My ex was the same. Thar low level constant feeling of being criticised was horrible. Hopefully you can communicate this with him before you need to exclude him from what should be a lovely part of family life.

So bloody rude!

but he's always first to the table waiting for his dinner!!

Fuck that.

I’d love it if someone made that for me on a cold evening after work.

the pasta you described sounds vile

I think that's a bit harsh!

Admit that I don't think it would be to my taste, but you never know until you've tried it. And even if you didn't enjoy it, there are ways of saying so.

My ex used to tell me, 'I don't know why you watch cooking programmes - you can't cook' I just replied, 'Well you watch porn'

The funniest thing is I'm Caribbean when we first got together I introduced him to so many different types of food and seasonings. His gone his whole life eating his mums vile frozen dinner and he has the cheek to complain

So what is it then? Doesn't he like Caribbean food? Making excuses about food with flavour generally?

Either way I couldn't be bothered cooking for a rude man, there are better things to do. He can hardly argue about it since he doesn't like your cooking anyway.

I bet there's more to this than your cooking. He's being unkind, this is a way he's found to have a dig at you. Just stop playing the game

Serve children and you, wrap leftovers and put in fridge / freezer. Repeat next time you cook. Continue this till he has cooked, make him cooking something at least a weekly occurrence.

@lotsofdogshere

Am I the only one who read this and was back in Ambridge?!

Nope, hope she hid the knives!

@CatsOutOfTheBag

My ex used to tell me, 'I don't know why you watch cooking programmes - you can't cook' I just replied, 'Well you watch porn'

Best thing I've read all day!

@lockdownqueen

The funniest thing is I'm Caribbean when we first got together I introduced him to so many different types of food and seasonings. His gone his whole life eating his mums vile frozen dinner and he has the cheek to complain.

From now on I won't cook for him I can promise you all that I've had enough!!

The kids ate all off it and so did I snd that's all that matters.

Good. If he doesn't like your cooking then don't cook for him.

I had to completely train DH in what food should taste like when we met. His parents are fussy. No. I take that back. The word fussy doesn't cover it.

DH had a list as long as my legs of stuff he didn't like and a lot was this was something that covered a lot of different meals and whole cuisines such as garlic. Knowing what his parents are like, I asked when had he even tried garlic. He told me he'd had garlic butter at school once! He didn't like anything he'd not had before (his mum calls red, green and yellow peppers, "foreign fancy muck") so I had to introduce him to all new food and all seasonings (herbs and spices).

He did have chips and a tub of curry sauce from the Chinese on occasion though and considered that to be him having a Chinese...
I also banned salt and pepper from my house temporarily because whenever he was served anything, even a sandwich he would POUR salt and powdered pepper on before even trying it. Every meal, including a microwave curry at his house.
Thankfully he now doesn't eat like a toddler and eats a decent array of meals.

@CorianderLord I certainly hated my mums cooking. It was vile.

@CorianderLord I loved my late Mum’s cooking. I’d give anything to taste her soup again.

My ex used to tell me, 'I don't know why you watch cooking programmes - you can't cook' I just replied, 'Well you watch porn'

very funny CatsOut

Agree don't cook for him. If you make enough for him then leave it in the cooking pot rather than putting on his plate where he can poke at it & moan and keep it for your own lunch the next day.

Leftovers are often tastier

To be fair, a creamy cheesy garlicky tuna sweetcorn bake does sound 🤮🤢. I wouldnt eat it either 🤣

Start commenting on his performance in the bedroom everytime you have sex, that will soon shut him up I really don't think it's a good idea to equate chores with sex. So many posters seem to. It should be something mutually enjoyable.

@torquewench

To be fair, a creamy cheesy garlicky tuna sweetcorn bake does sound 🤮🤢. I wouldnt eat it either 🤣

Sounds delish to me! I'll have his share.

@CatsOutOfTheBag

My ex used to tell me, 'I don't know why you watch cooking programmes - you can't cook' I just replied, 'Well you watch porn'