OH complaining about my dinners

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I've just made a lovely tuna bake creamy garlicy cheese sauce sweet corn and tuna and some garlic bread.

OH left all his dinner and ate all the garlic bread and said my pasta was plain. He will quite happily Scoff his mum watery tomato pasta (vile) and will scoff maccies everyday.

I'm actually sick of cooking for him as he's always got something to complain about.

I used to get this from my ex partner.

He was an atrocious cook; many people praise my cooking. I'm asked to make stuff sometimes or provide recipes. I demonstrated food prep in front of audiences.

I think he knew I felt confident in my kitchen skills and was trying to bring me down.

@Zixxy

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My husband doesn't complain or he would find it in the dog.
Do what my sister did op, cook just enough for you and the kids and set him an empty plate with a knife and fork with a cheery ' I've not made any for you, as you wouldn't like it '
Her husband lasted a week before admitting defeat and eating everything without complaint.

I’m sorry I don’t like the sound of this dish and I like most things.
He is very rude to complain about everything though. If he doesn’t like it he should do some of the cooking

Is he kind and respectful to you otherwise, OP? Or does his ungrateful behaviour extend to other things? It's definitely time he did some cooking- don't let him get away with having cooked badly once or twice so that you wouldn't ask him to again. Oldest trick in the book!

It had been said but I will say it again: stop cooking for him! He sinks or swims! I.e learns to cook for you all himself, or learns to appreciate you!

He did complain in a very rude way, but the pasta you described sounds vile and I would not have eaten by it either. However, I would have still thanked you for cooking and probably just offered to cook next time.

@HosannainExcelSheets

He did complain in a very rude way, but the pasta you described sounds vile and I would not have eaten by it either. However, I would have still thanked you for cooking and probably just offered to cook next time.

I wouldn't either. I'm fussy as fuck, as such I cook my own meals so I'm entirely responsible for my fussiness and taste issues.

Kitchen's that way -->

I had an ex like this. It was a bloody nightmare. He moaned about everything I cooked. Claimed I'd given him food poisoning (I hadn't, turned out he'd had a dodgy kebab). Claimed I was making him put weight on (that would be all the beer he was drinking every night with workmates). The food was often cold or didn't taste nice when warmed up in the microwave (maybe get the fuck home instead of drinking every night after work...)
Everything I did was wrong. Everything I bought from the supermarket for his packed lunch was wrong. I started by making him go to the supermarket himself for packed lunch stuff. And then I told him to either cook for himself or shut the fuck up.

He did shut the fuck up but he constantly said I wasn't a real wife (we weren't married).

I put up with that shit far too long. Don't put up with it from your OH any more. He either eats what you have cooked for the family without complaining about it or he makes his own. You wouldn't put up with children complaining about every single meal so don't put up with it from him either.
That's not to say that someone can not express that they do not like a particular dish - that's fair enough - but when it descends into constant criticism and every meal has something wrong with it then they need to get tae fuck.

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WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

Thanks hun. lol.

Try not to take him eating his DM's food to heart, OP. It's recognised that the food people grow up with is regarded as 'right' even when it's objectively awful hence the number of people who are certain there is a right way to make ragu/bolognaise, cottage pie and so on which is the one they grew up with. If you and your DC enjoy it then take that as your measure.

Good luck.

Add a third of a bottle of Tabasco to the next portion of his meal.
If there is little response add the remaining two thirds to the next meal.

Note : there is normal Tabasco and EXTRA HOT... Just saying....

It's difficult, because I do believe people should be able to express likes and dislikes. Usually after cooking a new meal we discuss if we liked it or could take it or leave it. Ones we like make it into the rota.

There's a big difference though between honest feed back and turning your nose up at every single meal. The occasional dish he doesn't like is fine, but if he's being an arse for the sake of it it's just plain rude.

I'd ask him to either come up with a menu he will eat and shut up about or to sort his own food from herein.

I'm fully domesticated and can cook reasonably well. I would NEVER criticise someone else's effort in that way. Maybe he needs to learn to cook and share the workload.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Cook a meal - portion it to everyone's amount. Tub his up and put it in the freezer for you for another day. Sit down with the kids and eat. Leave his place setting empty.

This!!

When DH and I were first to together he had a habit of saying, “my mum does it like so and so”, and suggesting he liked the way she did it better.

I said “you know where she lives, off you trot then”. Soon put a stop to it!

It’s been years since DH criticised anything I cook because he knows he wouldn’t get dinner again. People putting up with this from their OH - why?

Maybe he’s lost his sense of taste? Can be a symptom..

Like everyone else, I would have made the expectation clear at the start of the relationship, that we take turns to cook.
When everyone is dishing up meals, it does tend to limit anyone criticising anyone else's cooking.

However, it does seem that you can't mention your MiL without being incredibly rude about her cooking, so maybe it's something you should both think about?

I would do exactly what everyone else has said. I’m sorry but your husband is an ungrateful sod. If he said that in my house he would be wearing the food on his head!! If he makes a comment like that again just say in future cook your own meals.

In the nicest possible way, the meal you describe wouldn’t necessarily be to everyone’s taste.

And it’s not unusual for him to enjoy his mum’s cooking - he did grow up with it.

It depends if this is regular behaviour or not. He’s allowed not to like something. He shouldn’t be rude about it. You should feel under no obligation to cook for him if you don’t want to.

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

@Zilla1 is that true? Everyone I know hates the food they grew up with 😂

Why do you cook for him? Let him make his own meal; just cook for yourself/DC if you have them.

My DH is grateful for whatever I make - and we split the cooking. If he was rude about what I cooked I wouldn’t cook for him.

Probably already been said, but cook only enough for you and the children and leave him to his own devices. When he complains tell him that you know he doesn't like your food so you're not going to subject him to it anymore.