OH complaining about my dinners

[lockdownqueen]

I've just made a lovely tuna bake creamy garlicy cheese sauce sweet corn and tuna and some garlic bread.

OH left all his dinner and ate all the garlic bread and said my pasta was plain. He will quite happily Scoff his mum watery tomato pasta (vile) and will scoff maccies everyday.

I'm actually sick of cooking for him as he's always got something to complain about.

He sounds rude but thought of tuna in cheese and garlic sauce is not at all to my taste! (I love all three separately..)

Did you ask him in advance what he wanted? Not saying you should pander to him but it is usually sensible to ha e a quick chat about what you have in mind.

Well, if he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it. But his rude comments are unnecessary.

The comments you make about his mothers' cooking - do you say that kind of thing to his face? I'm just wondering if this is his way of getting his own back?

Can you post the recipe please

I get this sometimes from various family members i tell them its not effing masterchef its Tuesday night pasta ffs

I think it is the height of rudeness to complain about DW cooking!(Or anyones come to that!) Honestly some men! Is he rude and unpleasant generally? Either LTB, or get him beans on Toast while you guys all pile into Steak and Chips!

Tell him to cook his own meals. You say what he likes is vile and what you cooked is lovely.....you'll never agree

Mine did this. Complained that it was all too much the same and we didn't have any variety. That was in January. I haven't planned a meal or organised a food shop since.

I’m married to a chef, I don’t enjoy cooking, but we share it. I cook a mean roast, sometimes better than his, which he will acknowledge. Sometimes he isn’t a fan of what I cook, but he doesn’t moan, he will say though, because otherwise he’ll get it again!

I would tell him either put up and shut up, or do it yourself.

So rude.

I would be so thin skinned on this.

If I handed up a sandwich here, my husband would be thankful.

He doesn't like cooking, even though he is well able.
He's so grateful that I do it every day, despite finding it a PITA.

Glad to read you will no longer include him.

He's probably a rude pig in other areas too.

They usually are.

JamHandPrints Is the average age of a husband now about 16? McDonalds .Sandwiches and Biscuits ? Teenagers diet surely!

DH has lots of fault but he always compliments me on a good meal, and equally if it’s not great knows when to keep quiet in case all dinners stop.

Your DH need to learn not to bite the hand that feeds him.

@stovetopespresso

I get this sometimes from various family members i tell them its not effing masterchef its Tuesday night pasta ffs

YABVU for serving Tuesday night pasta - it's Monday!

If you want to be really nice (and not make a scene in front of the kids) make him some toast and plate that up for him at the same time you are plating up yours and the kids (delicous) dinners. If asked just say "sorry I know you dont like this dish so I got you this instead." Toast is good because its not yukky but it isnt so nice that the children will want that instead of their meal (and I know that it would make more sense just to leave him with nothing but I can see that would be awkward if you normally eat together as a family)

Why doesn't he cook his own dinners, if he doesn't like the way you do it?

@lockdownqueen

The funniest thing is I'm Caribbean when we first got together I introduced him to so many different types of food and seasonings. His gone his whole life eating his mums vile frozen dinner and he has the cheek to complain.

From now on I won't cook for him I can promise you all that I've had enough!!

The kids ate all off it and so did I snd that's all that matters.

Do this and stick to it. He can cook his own meals, have leftovers if there are any or make himself a sandwich. He's a grownup. I haven't regularly cooked for OH in years.

I am not defending your DH as he was very rude but I do think it can be difficult if you genuinely don't like the way your DP cooks. My DH and I have very different tastes in food, he will happily cook, as will I, but to be brutally honest we don't really enjoy what each other cooks - married over 30 years so we just put up with it now! I tend to do more cooking as I work p/t and I actually think it's hard on my DH having to eat what I decide to cook every night - equally I really don't want to eat what he cooks. We are both good cooks but just like different things. We often now cook separately- tonight DH had mussels and I had chilli - result we are both happy!

My ex complained regularly. I cooked food that was too filling as I’d make him fat. I cooked food that wasn’t filling enough abs didn’t I realise men needed Proper Food? I didn’t cook fish often enough. What’s for dinner...fish? Can’t we have something else as I don’t really like fish. Just cook me some pasta or something.

It’s a good job he’s an ex (we split up the day after the fish/pasta incident - it was pan fried hake with minted crushed peas, boiled new buttered potatoes and crisped pancetta, but he just wanted “something proper”) else he’d have been under the patio.

(And when we DID split up he still wanted me to look dinner...)

@Ragwort

I am not defending your DH as he was very rude but I do think it can be difficult if you genuinely don't like the way your DP cooks. My DH and I have very different tastes in food, he will happily cook, as will I, but to be brutally honest we don't really enjoy what each other cooks - married over 30 years so we just put up with it now! I tend to do more cooking as I work p/t and I actually think it's hard on my DH having to eat what I decide to cook every night - equally I really don't want to eat what he cooks. We are both good cooks but just like different things. We often now cook separately- tonight DH had mussels and I had chilli - result we are both happy!

Same in our house

We eat totally different meals now.

I often complain about DP's cooking because he always cooks healthy meals with lots of vegetables, fish and lentils.

Seems like he's just being mean. Maybe he's trying to make a point.

My dh and dc2 will usually ask around 4-ish ‘what’s for tea?’. I’ve learnt to reply ‘don’t know yet’ because if I name chicken or whatever, they have a chance to say to object.

If they complain, I start playing the theme tune to Butterflies.

Put a sign up on the wall - "Tonight's menu has two options: Take it or Leave it".

What a waste of good food to cook an extra man-size portion and have it go in the bin. Nope. Stop cooking for him. Save the money.

I posted the other week about how my husband can't cook. So I'm interested in how your post goes OP.

For what it's worth, if my husband constantly slagged my food I would stop cooking and see how he likes it.

I suspect there's some underlying relationship issues here and your plain tuna isn't the real issue.

I wondered whether he was just used to eating food with jar sauces, too. Naturally cooked food can taste more bland. He's really rude though and needs to learn how to cook his own dinners.