OH complaining about my dinners

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I've just made a lovely tuna bake creamy garlicy cheese sauce sweet corn and tuna and some garlic bread.

OH left all his dinner and ate all the garlic bread and said my pasta was plain. He will quite happily Scoff his mum watery tomato pasta (vile) and will scoff maccies everyday.

I'm actually sick of cooking for him as he's always got something to complain about.

I dont eat tuna (strict veggie) but that sounded lovely.

He needs to learn to cook for the family. Do be kind if initially all he can manage is watery tomato pasta - at least you havent had to cook it!!

I would also comment based on my observations - I love a mixed dish. But my ex and DC dont. Perhaps he likes separate components - doesnt really matter - he can still cook it.

Omg this was me on Thursday...lost my shit seeing as l work too (when l was on mat leave it wasn't such a big deal), and no way did l sign up to cook every fucking night for eternity.

Honestly, why would anyone need to get advice on this issue. Clickbait Almighty, and then all replies pile in with the obvious answers. LOL.

He needs to practise, clearly. Or go back to his mother's. Or learn which side his bread is buttered.

Make what you and the kids like, tell him he's welcome to have some but no complaints. If he can't Venice about it, don't come to the table.

Or offer to let him cook.

@PurpleDaisies

So just cook enough for you and the kids.

Agree with this! My exh used to complain about every meal I made. Apparently it wasn't done the way his mother used to do it. So I stopped cooking for him. Literally never cooked another meal for him again.

Because I have to cook for the kids aswell they will always be dinner left over.

Cook less then. This really is a problem of your own making.

The funniest thing is I'm Caribbean when we first got together I introduced him to so many different types of food and seasonings. His gone his whole life eating his mums vile frozen dinner and he has the cheek to complain.

From now on I won't cook for him I can promise you all that I've had enough!!

The kids ate all off it and so did I snd that's all that matters.

Start commenting on his performance in the bedroom everytime you have sex, that will soon shut him up

I cook 90% of dinners here and in the last 20 years dh has always eaten what is put in front of him. I don't ask him what he would like I cook what I feel like. Kids are a different matter and moan but I often tell them to get something for themselves if they feel that strongly about it, which they sometimes do.

Apart from anything else, he is setting a terrible example for your kids. What would he think/do if he turned his nose up at and criticized your meals and the DC followed suit?

I dont cook for my husband anymore because of this. I tell him what I'm making but he normally says "no thanks". He eats a diet of cereal, mcdonalds, steak sandwiches and biscuits.
It's awesome. I can eat vegetables again.

Say, if you don't like it you know where the toaster is.

Hand him a bottle of chilli sauce and a cookbook.

@lowlandLucky

Start commenting on his performance in the bedroom everytime you have sex, that will soon shut him up

Absolutely this.

Uninspiring and boring. Not as good as DIY. Take the foreplay and leave the sex.

Do you live together?

I'd stop cooking for him at all. Rude twat.

Serve up for you and the kids and put his portion in the freezer first.

How rude of him. Tell him to learn some manners.

I do all the cooking in our house (partner does other chores) and he's never once turned his nose up at my dinners and they're not all winners. Plus I'm veggie whereas he isn't. He'll still say they're lovely and thank me every evening.

Your partner sounds like a pig.

@lowlandLucky

Start commenting on his performance in the bedroom everytime you have sex, that will soon shut him up

This!

Does his mom use jarred sauce may I ask? I have a friend who is so used to package/processed food that she think all non process food is bland and flavorless.

My partner does this to me all the time . He is the same with his mums cooking as well haha . If I dared to criticise his food he would go mental. I just ignore it now weighed it up against his other good qualities

@FannysSteadiedBuffs

First time DH criticises something and it's the last time I do it.

There's a huge difference between "sorry but I'm not sure I liked that grilled, I prefer it fried" and "that was disappointing, I never want to eat it again"

THIS ^

DH always says if he has particularly liked something. He rarely comments if he hasn't enjoyed it, unless it's something I haven't made before, in which case I usually ask "Would you like that again?" in which case I get "Yes" or "It's okay - not really to my taste, but if everybody else likes it, I don't mind having it occasionally" or "Sorry I wasn't keen on that at all". And he tells me because he knows that if I think everybody likes it (and I've enjoyed it) then we will be having it again.

He isn't negative about my cooking because he knows I'm doing my best and it isn't my fault that I'm like her off "Butterflies" he has a good meal put in front of him, and if he really can't eat it, he can sodding well make himself a jam sandwich.

But if he found something to complain about every single night I would take his plate off the table from in front of him and give it to the dog.

Well that sounds delicious and I would be chuffed to come home and find that at the table.

I think you've spoilt him and he needs to practice and some good signature dishes for the family. DH does take turns cooking and through our marriage its something we've shared between us and I must admit there's nothing better than sitting down to a lovely meal that I haven't had to prepare.

This is why my dh now does all the cooking. He has never actually made rude comments about the taste of what's on the plate (he values his life too highly for that) but he would give me little "tips" when I was cooking, e.g. "I usually add a bit of... " or "I'd turn that down a bit in case it catches" or "Are you not putting mushrooms in that?"
Result: he does ALL the cooking, although when he was away for the weekend once, and I cooked the dinner (for his extended family as well), they all said, "Wow, Mum/Ange, but you're a really good cook! these roasties are much nicer than Dad's "
Shhhh...

he needs to go back to mummy.