I was dumped for being on a zero-hour contract.

[zerohourperson]

Hello,
I'm 26 and I'm a teacher who graduated 2 years ago and I have struggled to find a permanent job in the North West. So, I have been on supply which I love! The only thing I don't like is the inconsistency. I get good reviews from schools and I am regularly asked back to schools I have been to.

I am applying for permanent jobs and I have an interview next week. To be honest, with the amount of people applying for teaching jobs, having my own class feels a lifetime away. There always seems to be someone else who is a 'better fit' and the schools I regularly supply at are never hiring.

I have been busier than I expected despite covid, however at the same time there are some slower weeks than others and I do feel anxious sometimes. For example, no work today but I spend my time applying for jobs and doing some continuous provision and I start a masters in January as I felt, with covid, now would be the perfect time to start an online-masters.

Boyfriend is also on a zero hours contract but in factory work. I have noticed he has been quieter with me lately but didn't think much of it.
We don't live together but he rang me this morning for our usual good morning phone call and he was being really short with me. After I asked what was wrong, he told me he isn't happy and one of the main reasons is that we're both on zero-hour contracts and he doesn't know how we will ever get our own house and he would rather at least one of us have a permanent job.

I have savings (around £4000) and I am quite careful with money and i have made these savings up with supply. When I started supply after being a student, I had -£900 in my bank account.

Anyway, of course his reason for breaking up with me may be absolute rubbish and it could be something else, but he basically said that because we're both zero-hour contracts it won't work.

I am trying so hard to find a permanent job and better myself with CPD and learning, I feel an absolute failure now :( I have been crying all morning.

He dumped you because you’re too good for him and he knows it. You can do better.

That makes no sense op, he’s talking shite and trying to make it your fault

You’ll have an average earnings, so he will know how much you earn and he’s not even explored either of you getting a mortgage.

What a stupid made up reason, you’re better off out of it,

I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but he has done you a huge favour. You know what he's really like before you made a more permanent commitment to him. Plenty you my teaching friends have started out doing supply, for some it took longer than others to find a permanent placement. Some moved abroad and taught for a while, all have ended up pleased with their paths.

You'll get there. You sound motivated and intelligent. You'll look back at him, who will probably still be in the same place, and thank your lucky stars that you don't have to carry him.

It may bit feel like it now but in the future I think you'll feel like hes done you a big favour.

Tbh was that even the real reason?

You’ve dodged a bullet. Move on.

Cross posted with @Dugsbollox

Everything s/he says

I understood that teachers were leaving the profession and so there will be a shortage. Can you move to an area where there are more jobs available?

Perhaps the relationship has run its course and this is an excuse?

My ex broke up with me saying he couldnt see a stable future with me when we were travelling and working along the way. He said I slowed him down from achieving his goals because I was on part time income with my new business and had to stop in a lot of places to focus on it, where I was trying to grow it.

Fast forward three years and I'm a single mum from another relationship but I've got my own two bedroom place which I'm saving to buy, a stable income, savings and time to study/do whatever I like. Whilst he (the original guy not the dad), lost his high paying job to covid, and is stuck in a low pay job he hates 13 hours a day, paying of his huge debts, which got higher since we broke up.

So don't listen to him.

Vision your life panning out with this Prince Amongst Men, OP: You get your dream of a permanent position, fantastic! But rather than enjoying it and the new salary, treating yourself a bit, saving a bit, travelling a bit, working abroad, you are stressed. You have been press-ganged into getting on the housing ladder before you are ready, you are working like a dog to keep 2 heads above water and pay a mortgage because Factory Boy isn't paying his part. Oh no, you are pregnant. That's ok, says Factory Boy, you stop working at 3.15 and have all the school holidays, plenty of time for you to do the bulk of the childcare and housework. You are 26 now. Before you know it, life has passed you by, you are exhausted and saddled with a job you now hate, bills up to your eyeballs and all the childcare burdens. Factory Boy is still the useless shit he started off as.

Dry your tears, he does not deserve them and he is not worth it. Keep working, keep studying, make the plans to go abroad and enjoy your youth. No man should seek to take any of that away from you or capitalise on your success without bringing anything to the table. Partners are meant to be partners, not leeches.

Re teaching in Dubai - teachers are not treated that well there. Schools are a ''business''. Study and ask on sites like britishexpats.com for jobs in UAE and elsewhere. I knew someone who taught in Oman and really liked it but don't know what it is like now. A lot of expats in UAE have either lost their jobs or have had salary cuts recently because of Covid and cannot afford the very high school fees in Dubai now for their children so many are leaving/have left.... Australia?

I can pretty much guarantee he is a lying piece of shit.

Many suggestions have already been made, cheater/attempted cocklodgery/lazy fucker/whatever/who the fuck knows.

It will be one of them but he is a turd and he wants you to take the blame. That absolutely pathetic excuse is all he could come up which means you're bloody fantastic and he was reaching. He wants you to tie your mind up in knots working out what you could have done better to please his shitty little sensibilities. The answer is nothing because he doesn't want you any more for whatever reason but wants to make you mourn his loss for as long as possible so you will come running in case he deems to change his mind.

Please don't try to work it out and think it through too much because it's not you at fault, it never was.

It's all him and always was.

He a complete and utter wanker and a milestone around your neck, simple as.

Concentrate on you. You are going about everything as well as a less than ideal situation will allow. Keep it up and you will get your rewards. You will find a partner who is actually worthy of you. It might take time but you can come out of it better than you could with him.

Best of luck.

How much are you earning hourly for supply teaching compared to his factory work pay? I bet you can do 3x less hours for his pay. Your prospects are also much better than his. Cut him loose and move somewhere where you can get a teaching job.

What a rubbish excuse.

Btw you are doing better than me re supply. The agencies in my area said they have never known a term so quiet and that schools are managing to organise cover themselves.

Very weak. I imagine he knows you are set for better things in life and thought he would get out now rather than be dumped further down the line.

You keep doing what you are doing and try not to waste time wondering about him.

I thought there would be more opportunities for supply with staff off sick or isolating and apparently that’s not the case, not yet anyway.

Men are shit’ I got blocked on a dating because I said I had a job interview. Lol 😂 his loss in an heiress who chooses to make her own way in the world.

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You’re brilliant, he’s a twat. Don’t cry because he decided you aren’t an adequate cash cow. You’re worth so much more than that

@nevermorelenore

Doesn't sound like someone I'd want a future with. Imagine if down the line, one of you loses your job, or you have to live on a reduced income due to illness, maternity leave etc. If he can't handle your current situation then he's not going to be able to deal with that.

^^ this I know it hurts, but he’s done you an absolute favour in the long run.

You are only 26. A permanent job will come in time. You are doing really well and it sounds like you're well regarded and get asked back to schools, so you know you're a good teacher. You probably just need more time and more experience. Keep doing what you're doing and tell you boyfriend he needs to be a bit patient as everyone is having to accept what they can get right now. If you are committed and dedicated then you will get there!

Also... If he dumped you for being on a zero hour contract then he really isn't worth keeping anyway!

What a stupid reason to break up with someone... you are a qualified teacher and this sitation is obviously just temporary. We need teachers more than ever.

His loss!

Enjoy your freedom while you are young. You dont need to be tied to a man. Especially one who seems like he wants you to bankroll him for life. If you are doing supply, take it as a bonus. You're not tied down to any job, you could decide to take a week off in term time if you like . He sounds like the type who would decide you should have kids and hed be a stay at home dad, which would involve him playing x box all day and you having to get home to do the housework!

Hi Op it really sounds like to me, your ex Partner is making up some real shit excuses that's for sure,

You Op on other hand, are doing really Good.
Doing your very best,

Be Proud of yourself Op

I really admire your work ethic, and tenancity.

Keep it up,things will work out better for you sooner or later all in good time.

Your ex Partner has done dick move on you.😬

Instead of thinking we have been together for 3yrs and he is throwing in towell.

Think of him and your relantship as being a trial run for you to be with someone better in future.

You are better off without him.

You have done very well in your life before him as a single woman and you can and will be the same for you.

Don't rush into another relantship,

My first thought was that his eye has wandered but he wants the breakup to be your fault. County yourself lucky that your free from such a spineless man.

, and Gloria Gaynor, OP. And onwards and upwards. Definitely upwards.

Even though it hurts like hell right now, that is a bullet dodged. What an arsewipe he is.