To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

@1990shopefulftm Aw many congrats! I've got a five month-old so I know it hasn't been easy for expectant/new mums during lockdown.
I was the same as you - went nowhere near a supermarket when I was in my third trimester as I didn't want to risk it - sent my OH and shopped online (priority slots as pregnant, luckily).
I'm sorry you couldn't have your husband with you during early labour - that must've been really hard. Was he allowed to be there for the actual birth?
I was fortunate enough to have a home birth which was fab and reduced Covid -related risks as much as possible. It also meant OH (unless of course was symptomatic) could be there throughout for the birth of his first (and last!) baby.
Hope all is good with you and baby now?

@Plussizejumpsuit

The rules aren't to shop alone what on earth are you talking about?

They are actually.

No. The guidance is to shop alone if you can.

It’s not law.

Why has this virus sparked off so much nosiness and judgement. You do you and mind your business

I think people are making up their own laws on here as is usual on MN

Me and dh go together. We rarely did before. Now I am trying to do fewer trips and back to big shops.
He can pack like a good un and lug the bags.

Dear god it's like March all over again
They'll be telling us to freeze ice cubes of milk and melt cheese in our coffee like the halcyon days of spring soon

This annoyed me even before lockdown families with 2 adults and 3 big teenagers taking up the whole diary fridge in Asda whilst squabbling about what kind of cheese to buy. Get out of the way!

The cheese in coffee one was a classic, I must try and find it

@Kcar you seem disproportionately angry at the notion that a huge number of people are taking the piss and will therefore lead us into further lockdown. Why is that?

I’m angry that people are making unwarranted unfair judgements on me and people like me. It’s discriminatory. Why can’t they just mind their own.

I’m not taking the piss. I am doing less to risk anything than anyone else I know. I am not even seeing two of my children and I am obeying every single rule.

I’m not bending them. I’m not doing anything I shouldn’t be.

And even when I’m obeying the law that’s not enough for the x ray visioned nosy bastards who think I don’t look enough like a cripple.

@Kcar

No. The guidance is to shop alone if you can.

It’s not law.

OP referred to "guidance" in her post, and also said she appreciated there were some exceptions, if you feel you have a valid exception, why are you so butthurt about her posts? The only one hectoring here is you, OP tried to engage with you in a sympathetic manner which you completely rebutted more than once. You say your mental health is shot, perhaps stop trying to pick fights on the internet and pick up a phone to someone who cares about you, Covid hasn't cut phone lines you know....

@Nicknamegoeshere, your point overall is valid, unfortunately though people are selfish creatures. The amount of Covid deniers thinking they're some sort of enlightened anti-establishment crusaders is laughable.

Op referred to rules.

It isn’t a rule.

You do you and mind your business
The problem of everyone taking the 'you do you're approach seems to be grounded in the idea that nobody should care that some people are evidently taking the piss.

When the majority of people are making changes and sacrifices it understandably takes the piss when the minority do what they like. Just after the last lockdown when the case rate slowed, the people I know who'd been openly ignoring lockdown were ready with their 'ooh see, what happened to this spike in cases we were supposed to be having... good job we managed to carry on as normal whilst you sheeple stayed home' .

It's not unreasonable to want the selfish minority to get a grip and consider doing the right thing instead of whining like petulant children.

@Kcar

Op referred to rules.

It isn’t a rule.

She also laterly refered to guidance, but that obviously doesn't suit your narrative.

I agree with you and it makes it so hard to keep your 6-12ft distance from other people when there are too many people who don't need to "come along" unless they don't have a choice.

StartingGrid
I agree, and anyway shops are private businesses so can have whatever rules they like anyway as long as they aren't breaking the law.

Blueberries0112
You're right and I'd be willing to bet that the people who don't need to be there are the ones doing the additional wandering around.
If my supermarket is anything to go by then you can see it in two camps:
A) a family outing that seem to involve mum actually doing the shopping, probably with a young child in the trolley, then other kids wandering around all over whilst dad plods along behind barely noticing that his kids are getting in everyone else's way and not keeping their distance (bonus point if dad is on his phone the whole time).

B) The parents (mum or dad, but usually mum) who have to take their DC with them and have them in the trolley or walking to the side, reminding them not to touch things, telling them to keep to one side etc.

It's purely anecdotal, but I'd bet those who have no choice are the more considerate ones.

I’m omoletely done.

I went to Tesco with one of my children. And the op is castigating me for that

She and you have no idea what’s going on in my life. And quite frankly I’ve no obligation to tell anyone.

Be kind. Try to think they must need to be there. That’s the mindset I try to have.

@HokeyWokey

We go shopping together because we want to.

So stick that up your covid police pipe and smoke it.

Couldn’t have said it better myself.

I honestly can’t believe people are explaining themselves on here 🙃

I’ll go shopping with whoever I damn well like OP.

@Nicknamegoeshere

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

Why do people take any notice of randoms on the internet spouting who should do what, where and when, these threads are hilarious.

Do you actually believe this increases covid transmission in a meaningful way? We had supermarket shopping throughout. Supermarkets limit numbers anyway, so in-store numbers will be similar. Queuing is annoying, but a socially distanced queue outside queue is very low risk.

The activity that fuelled transmission was socialising in various forms without masks. A family at a supermarket might piss you off but they aren't the problem.

Why are the supermarkets themselves asking for one person to shop at a time where possible then? I mean they are businesses ateotd. I'm guessing they'd make more money out of me if I took my three kids with me rather than shopping alone?

People are so fucking nosey at the moment. I can't stand the type of person this whole situation is bringing out of the woodwork.

I'm sick of hearing people whinging about neighbours having someone round for a brew, couples shopping together, sisters going to see parents and so on.

I get it, it's against the rules. But you can't control others behaviour. Just concentrate on yourself. I honestly don't even notice what other people are doing, so long as I'm doing what I can that's all I can do. No point being a curtain twitching, nosey fucker.

I've never known such judgemental rubbish as is going on at the moment. It's worrying.