To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

Well, if you’re thinking of others and Covid transmission, why are you continuing to swap your boys between two houses? That’s increasing the risk and you could avoid that by letting them stay with your ex full time and not swapping between houses.

But you won’t do that. Because you’re not that altruistic and that’s something you don’t want to do.

I’m sure OP understands some people have no choice (single parents/disabled people as examples), and are not who she meant. That’s so obvious.

A lot of people do treat it as a day out and it’s not good. I never take my family. Kids hate it or annoy other people, and husbands tend to dither in the aisle. It does not take more than one person to stare at a pack of PG tips for 5 minutes (one is irritating enough!)

@Kcar I have read the thread but remain confused, why is it illegal for you to see your boyfriend? Is there a reason you haven’t seen him since the initial lockdown back in March?

Shopping with DH and my 4 DC was my idea of hell. I'm very happy on my own. I could never understand why families do it - they never look happy.

My issue is tag alongs / non shoppers taking up valuable space in very narrow aisles and showing zero awareness that there are about a million people trying to pass .

[quote Lockdownhairdontcare]@Kcar I have read the thread but remain confused, why is it illegal for you to see your boyfriend? Is there a reason you haven’t seen him since the initial lockdown back in March?[/quote]
Yes there is a reason.

It is illegal for him to stay with me and I cannot travel to him.

@Nicknamegoeshere

Well IMO there are so many people that actually don't have a valid reason not to shop alone in all honesty. As I said in my original thread, of course there are some exceptions. But simply to say "Because we fancy it" isn't one of them. It's not about minding my own business when your actions are increasing the risk of Covid transmission unecessarily. I think it's wrong not to think about protecting others as much as we can, especially those who are vulnerable. It is simply not necessary to take two parents and kids shopping!

No one cares what you think about them...

Because I'm deaf and need my partner.Cause I can't hear nor lipread cause of the masks.

Shop alone if you can. Don't shop together if you do not need to.

Get it delivered, or get a shopping trolley if you do not or cannot drive and need to bring the whole family with you.

Can't understand the draw of a flipping supermarket myself, but others might.

@Dopeyduck But our actions DO impact on others, it not just a case of "you do you."
OK. Take my 88 yo nan. She lives on her own, she is in the first stages of mild heart failure but tries as she can to remain independent. She isn't computer literate, a chat to the checkout person maybe the only/limited brief human interaction she gets that day.
She walls around the corner to the supermarket to buy her essentials and it's cold outside. She has to queue because there are large families in front of her.
They could have stayed in and just sent one adult but "Felt like an afternoon out." They take up space in the supermarket meaning that it's very difficult for social distancing rules to be adhered to. They increase the risk of transmission.
But "I'm alright, Jack."

Well, if you’re thinking of others and Covid transmission, why are you continuing to swap your boys between two houses? That’s increasing the risk and you could avoid that by letting them stay with your ex full time and not swapping between houses.

But you won’t do that. Because you’re not that altruistic and that’s something you don’t want to do
Altruistic would be that poster making a sacrifice HERSELF.

Children being able to see both parents is because continuing contact arrangements with both parents is best for THE CHILDREN.

Telling the children they can only see one of their parents is expecting children to pay an unreasonable price.

@Kcar Are you for real? So you are suggesting I don't see my two young boys since March?! So they don't see their sister? In fact, they would never have met her as she was born in May?!! You aren't all there! But hey - you can go shopping with whom you please

That’s exactly what I mean - you’ve got your personal line, of what’s a step too far. And others have theirs.

I’ve asked you once, politely, not to tag me. Thanks.

If it’s important enough and makes any difference why isn’t it the law?
I will obey the law but I’m fucked if I am going to follow stuff that is only guidance, or other made up rules.

@Nicknamegoeshere well you posted an AIBU and now you’re just shouting down anyone who feels differently.

If you’re not interested in other peoples view points then post your rant in covid section.

Why does a couple need to go shopping together? It’s clingy, controlling and weird, Don’t get me started on whole families who do it. Just why? Because one of us has a disability and can't go shopping alone or be left alone or with children in case they have an episode. I guarantee you it is sooooo much more annoying for us than it is for you or the OP.

@LolaSmiles Absolutely.

May I ask what you have against tags, KCar? Or would you prefer I don't refer to your username?

@Rhine

Why does a couple need to go shopping together? It’s clingy, controlling and weird, Don’t get me started on whole families who do it. Just why?

Seriously?!

You honestly think that a couple calling at the supermarket together are only doing so because they are in a dysfunctional or abusive relationship?!

I normally do the shopping online. Sometimes I go to the supermarketer on my own. Sometimes DH calls on his way home. Sometimes, if we are out and about together, we both go.

As far as I know I am not in some part time abusive relationship with DH.

My parents always shop together. Mum likes to go shopping, but doesn't drive. Dad drives so they go together, always have done for years. PILs were the same until FIl died earlier this year. Its one of the things MIL misses now he's not there with her to decide what to buy together. Neither my parents or DH's parents were/are in controlling relationships either

@ultragroupie

If it’s important enough and makes any difference why isn’t it the law? I will obey the law but I’m fucked if I am going to follow stuff that is only guidance, or other made up rules.

It's the guidelines of the shop, who presumably can choose whether to let the family outing in or not. It doesn't need to be 'law', it's to protect both staff and customers so that not too many people are gathered in one place which is sort of the point of all this.

I’m sure OP understands some people have no choice (single parents/disabled people as examples), and are not who she meant. That’s so obvious. How can they tell?

@Nicknamegoeshere

I'm astounded with some of these reasons cited! Clearly some people couldn't care less about getting Covid. If I'm honest, I couldn't care less about them getting Covid either if they're that laissez - faire about it. But I do care if they pass it on to my elderly parents who may die as a result.

I did catch covid. It wasn't from a supermarket. In a supermarket I am rarely within close contact for 15 minutes of someone. Currently I always wear a mask within a supermarket too. I most likely caught it from school, from a child where I do have close, prolonged contact with no masks, etc.

OP, post in the covid section where you’ll find like-minded covid police and fellow judgy eye rollers. I think YABVU seen as you asked on here, but you’ll find even more sympathisers to your moan on the covid threads, you can all collectively judge others in peace there.

@justaweeone

Think it's up to me if I want to shop with my husband.

This.

Baffled by the ‘creepy’ comment, OP. What is creepy about shopping together?

It generally really annoys me when couples go shopping to the super market and take all their kids who are usually just getting under everyone's feet.

I get that this is wholly my problem though as they are entitled to do exactly what they want