To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

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So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

A lot of families seem to be using the supermarkets as a day out around here I feel sorry for the staff.

OP the guidance is to reduce number of people out so hopefully keep queues down, not necessarily to reduce spread of covid as passing someone in a supermarket is very very low risk.

As others have said its only guidance, not law. The gov have taken enough from us this year, i normally shop on my own but if i wanted to go with my partner, and the shop let us in then i would.

I shop with my partner as we are shopping not just for our family of five, but also for our parents in law and my disabled aunt.
I cannot get all that shopping by myself.
I have to go out as most supermarkets have a maximum amount of items when ordering online which wouldn't work for us.

@BashfulClam

We go together. I have specific dietary needs, DH can’t fathom what to get for me and he drives as I get anxious driving.

Does your DH wait in the car?

YANBU. Get as annoyed as you like. It won't make a blind bit of difference to anyone, but you might find it makes your day worse.

Never really understood why couples go food shopping together anyway. Such a boring task, it really doesn’t need to be done together. I can understand why some people struggle in shops- perhaps mobility issues or MH problems but they should send their partner right now and stay at home.

YANBU at all OP.

Stupidity and selfishness. My personal favourite was the family of 6 forcing their way in through the exit and my local supermarket last week. Plus maybe the fear their partner may meet someone else, are some people not allowed to go to the supermarket on their own?! I noticed it during last down. I went shopping on my own but somehow didn’t have any afternoon delight in the freezer aisle with a random l just met

What's fun about taking screaming toddlers around a supermarket anyway.As others have said if you have no childcare understandable but asda is not the best way to entertain a 3 yr old if someone can stay home with them.

The rules aren't to shop alone what on earth are you talking about?

I am a single parent. Normally I leave DS with older DD to do the weekly shop. Today I took DS with me because he was out of sorts, and it was not fair on DD, I have been working a LOT (luckily from home) and it is not fair on DS to have no time with me. Or at least less time than he is used to. His dad is not around.

I am exhausted. I find shopping stressful now. I have had long covid and I am not 100% physically well. Maybe I should get a delivery slot but I figure there are people more needy than me.

So yes, whatever, you do not know people’s circumstances.

YABU. You do you, let others do them.

Personally, even as a ‘high’ risk person and (usually) frontline NHS worker, I couldn’t care less whether people shop alone, with their families, with a mask/don’t..

The ‘guidance’ makes no sense, it’s about control now

[quote Nishky]@Lilac95 are you trying to claim that you and your dh take up the same space as one of you alone? That really isn’t true is it 😂[/quote]
No but I’m saying we’re within our 2 meter block that is allowed in store, people should abide by these. If they enter the two meter cordon while I’m there with my partner that’s their own fault.

YANBU - I work in a supermarket.

My parents go together as my Mum doesn't drive, but she goes in whilst my Dad waits in the car. He then lifts it all out of the trolley when she gets back to the car.

It's really cold where we are now and there's people (often elderly) queuing outside. This could be reduced if only one person shopped (where possible).

There are exceptions and some families need to shop together, but I do not believe for one second that that applies to all of the families I see.

DH and I have always shopped together, I don’t cook and he does, he doesn’t do pack lunches and I do, so make sense that we are both there. During lockdown in Scotland most weeks we were shopping for 2 households some weeks 3 so were shopping together , Sainsbury’s stopped us from shopping together so we shopped in Lidl and Tesco who had no problems with a couple shopping together.

Literally where are th government guidelines about shopping alone?

People are just looking for something to be hysterical about.

@Simplyunacceptable

Shopping as a couple is great fun; plotting what you're going to cook together, working out batch cooking plans and what goes with what.

Not doing it at the moment - shopping quickly, alone, and with a list, but it definitely can be enjoyable!

I think because we are limited as to where we can go at the moment, the supermarket is desirable. There is nice food to look at, Christmas food now coming in. Christmas decorations, electronics, toys, clothes etc
But I do take your point that it means there are more people in there than strictly necessary.

I love going shopping as a family, I know others hate it but my dc are well behaved and enjoy it too as we don’t go every week(i usually shop online) It isn’t controlling or any of the other odd assumptions on here. I used to go with my mum every week when I lived at home too,

At the moment we aren’t going as a family due to supermarkets limiting.numbers do usually just DH or if I really need to go I will pop in with the dc when he is at work,

If it’s making you so anxious maybe you could go in the evening? It’s really quiet then.

YABU. This is getting ridiculous. Do you really have time to wander round ‘getting annoyed’ at every infringement of the ever changing government guidelines? Get a bloody grip of yourself I know there’s not much to do but criticising others when you have no idea about their circumstances is a bit sad.

@WhatKatyDidNxt

Stupidity and selfishness. My personal favourite was the family of 6 forcing their way in through the exit and my local supermarket last week. Plus maybe the fear their partner may meet someone else, are some people not allowed to go to the supermarket on their own?! I noticed it during last down. I went shopping on my own but somehow didn’t have any afternoon delight in the freezer aisle with a random l just met

Seriously? Are you all there?! I have no such worries and I’m quite sure 99.99% of people who shop with their partner haven’t either. Your comment says a lot about you...

In our case it’s a combination of who pays (DH as I give him my share of money towards bills, including food shopping, at the start of the month) and who is doing the cooking (me). He wouldn’t have a clue about half the stuff to get if he went on his own and would come back with a trolley stuffed with junk food and snacks. We also have a five year old and currently see food shopping as an excuse to get out of the house for a change of scenery, as I suspect meet others do. We adhere to social distancing guidelines so I don’t see the problem.

Well IMO there are so many people that actually don't have a valid reason not to shop alone in all honesty. As I said in my original thread, of course there are some exceptions. But simply to say "Because we fancy it" isn't one of them. It's not about minding my own business when your actions are increasing the risk of Covid transmission unecessarily. I think it's wrong not to think about protecting others as much as we can, especially those who are vulnerable. It is simply not necessary to take two parents and kids shopping!

I think, much like everything covid related atm, you need to do you and let others do their own thing.

I really dislike this idea people can judge and call people out on every tiny thing due to covid.

People are doing their best. Just try to be kind.

@Eckhart you are absolutely right! Plus DH has good eye for veg and fruit while I can sniff out amazing deals in sales😂 We are just a oerfect shopping couple