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Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

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CoronaOneSoz · 08/11/2020 13:36

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

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MummaBear4321 · 08/11/2020 16:24

@footballfootball

My friend's Dsis is a rule breaker. She was due an op on Friday so took a test on Wednesday and was told to self-isolate until the op. Took her DC out of school and then - despite beauty being shut down from Thursday - gave her last client a massage on Thursday whilst self-isolating. Had the op on Friday as planned. Got a phone call yesterday from Track & Trace to say that her massage client has tested positive and she needs to self-isolate for 14 days. She hasn't even informed the hospital and has potentially infected doctors, nurses and patients whilst she was in. It sickens me. So whilst you're all moaning about no appointments taking place at hospitals etc, it's all because of people like her who don't give a stuff about anyone and the poor NHS staff either being poorly or having to self isolate
Oh .... my ..... god.

I cant believe there are still people like that out there. I mean, I didnt go anywhere the week or two before I gave birth last week, both to protect me, baby, and the staff. Dh had to work, not much we could do there. But my god. That is shocking.

Temporarything · 08/11/2020 16:26

Yep. I would prefer to get out of this sooner rather than later.

Tumbleweed101 · 08/11/2020 16:27

Yes, I am, but they are far easier this time as the children are at school and I'm still working (I did during last lockdown too but we were only open for key children then so much quieter). I'm also able to bubble with my family this time which is great (single parent).

Aside from not being about to go shopping and eat out it's not much different to every day life this time even following rules.

JamminDoughnuts · 08/11/2020 16:30

so many people did not understand that even in a group of 6 they should have been socially distant.

LesLavandes · 08/11/2020 16:31

Of course and you should be also for God's sake

Tiredmum100 · 08/11/2020 16:31

My mum and MIL have been collecting my dc from school and coming into my house after school with them until we get in from work. So I suppose we are breaking the rules as they're entering my house, but they're providing childcare so I don't know 🤷‍♀️. Otherwise no, I'm following the rules.

Branleuse · 08/11/2020 16:32

@PurpleDaisies

I dont want her staying here full time unless I can guarantee she would be social distancing from others and I cant. its unsettling for my own children. Its a long story, but of course life continues to have drama and problems despite covid, and I still want to help in an emergency, but not have someone else living here full time

Ok, fine but don’t make out like you’d love to have her staying but lockdown means you can’t. You just don’t want her staying. Following the rules is irrelevant.

bit of an odd comment. Of course I dont want her staying here full time. I want her properly housed, but previous to the pandemic I was helping out more, but because of covid, this has changed. Im not the only one that has had her staying, but the covid rules have made things difficult. Most people who she was sofa surfing with over the last few years are not able to help because of covid rules and its actually put her in quite a dangerous position. Theres only so much I can actually do. The council are useless and no landlords will take housing benefit round here. This isnt actually my responsibility, but covid has made it very difficult for her friends to help when they previously could.
Whatever9999 · 08/11/2020 16:33

@Nottherealslimshady

YANBU we would get through this a whole lot quicker if people just followed the rules.
Seriously wish people would stop saying this. No we won't get through it quicker by following the rules, the whole point of the rules is to slow the spread and so drag it out even longer.

As unpalatable as it is, the only way we'd get through this quicker is to ditch all the rules and encourage people to actually catch it, so that a degree of immunity (not complete most likely) is developed and any further infections are less severe and pretty much to the level of a common cold (which does still kill a percentage of those that get it).

I'm not saying this is what should happen but FFS stop perpetuating the myth that if we all follow the rules this shitstorm will be over quicker.

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 08/11/2020 16:33

Nope, still seeing my parents. Not really interested in what anyone else is doing. I didn't go to the pub or restaurants to "eat out to help out" which was infinitely more risky than seeing my parents who also stay home. I haven't mixed with anyone besides my parents and I'll continue to do so for the mental wellbeing our children and my parents.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 08/11/2020 16:34

We are following the rules. MIL and SIL asked to bubble with us we declined. Particularly as they are not paying much attention to the rules despite being vulnerable. Not been in anyone else's house. Wash hands regularly etc. They might not be the right rules but it's as good as we are going to get at the moment and we aren't arrogant enough to think we know better than medical experts in communicable diseases.

There is a bit of covid policing going on and some people are eye rolling at those that point out their rellies aren't following the rules, but who has to pick up the pieces if one of them gets seriously ill? Who will have to help wipe their arse if they end up with brain damage from oxygen starvation? Who will end up arranging their funeral? So let's not keep telling people it's none of this business, because it is.

LesLavandes · 08/11/2020 16:34

Just grow up all you eejits who think even now you can break the rules. I feel sick when reading your stupid reasons. you are a a disgrace . May you live when you catch it

sunflowershine · 08/11/2020 16:37

We are mostly. DH works from home, I'm a sahm with a toddler. Eldest child is in (primary) school.

We don't go anywhere non essential. We see my mother (as she is living alone and in our bubble). We do though also see DHs parents (young grandparents, fit and healthy no underlying conditions) who are not in our bubble. They come to our house. They are retired and don't go anywhere, I even shop for them. So to be honest the biggest risks to us all is eldest child being in school (no cases as yet we were Tier 1) and me going food shopping.

I have been very clear to them the our eldest is the risk to them (and my mother). They want to continue to see us. So we are. Technically they also provide childcare to us when I study so I supposed actually it's not breaking the rules except it's normally just the youngest they watch whilst the eldest is at school and currently they see them both.

Other than that, we're doing as we're asked.

I am more concerned with people meeting still in large groups but I've long learned I can only control what we do, so I don't let it bother me.

IheartJKR · 08/11/2020 16:37

Our American neighbours had an election celebration party last night Shock

Lots of angry neighbours called the police.... a convoy of police vans and cars arrived.
They knocked on the door and asked them to disperse... they didn’t. It went on until approx 1 am.

LesLavandes · 08/11/2020 16:37

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Whatatoodoodle · 08/11/2020 16:39

We are pretty much.
For me it comes down to how guilty would I feel about who I’d have to contact if I did come down with Covid.
Currently I would be able to let work know with a clear conscience

Grenlei · 08/11/2020 16:40

Our High St earlier was packed with groups of 4-6 adults who clearly weren't all 1 family, and even larger groups of students (we have 2 specialist colleges in our town) just milling about like it was any other Sunday. It's ridiculous, clearly no one cares any more.

carcarbinks · 08/11/2020 16:40

Whatever9999

It's just so amazing that world's leading scientists don't agree with you on this. You must be some sort of undiscovered genius.

lampshadery · 08/11/2020 16:42

@SleepingStandingUp it feels like everything is open where we are. In my town I have so far seen open:

A furniture/home goods shop
Wilko's
All the cafes doing takeaways
A shop which sells spiritual stuff like stones, dream catchers, vitamins etc
An antique shop

The high street looks the same as a normal weekend just without the market!

DontCryForMeNextdoorNeighbour · 08/11/2020 16:42

Yes we are following the rules. When I hear of someone who isn't, I lose respect for them - as they clearly don't respect other people's health.

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 08/11/2020 16:42

@LesLavandes 🤣 why would I care one jot about what someone like you thinks? Have a day off.

Wannakisstheteacher · 08/11/2020 16:45

Nope. Why should I when MIL can drive across the country (tier 3 to different tier 3) to provide totally legal 'childcare' for SIL? We are in a tier 1 area, hardly any cases, but are being collectively punished because other areas couldn't control their cases.

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 08/11/2020 16:46

as they clearly don't respect other people's health.
Nobody cared about my health when I had to labour alone in lockdown 1. Nobody cares about the health and wellbeing of elderly people being isolated in nursing homes. Nobody cares about the children that are going under the radar of social workers or going hungry.
There's a bigger picture and quite frankly covid isn't the only thing impacting health right now.

Whatever9999 · 08/11/2020 16:46

@carcarbinks

Whatever9999

It's just so amazing that world's leading scientists don't agree with you on this. You must be some sort of undiscovered genius.

Not sure what you mean by that. Pretty sure the "world's leading scientists" are constantly talking about slowing the spread, which means it taking longer for it to pass through the population. No-one is talking about eliminating the virus, they are simply talking about delaying the rate at which it passes through everyone so as not to overwhelm hospitals.
PatriciaPerch · 08/11/2020 16:47

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Frazzled2207 · 08/11/2020 16:48

Broadly following the rules here (although I don't really agree with them. Think it's a sad state of affairs when you're not allowed to meet your mum for a cup of tea) .Accidentally bumped into friends at the park yesterday but was hardly going to walk away without talking to them. Grandparents are helping with childcare but that's allowed.

Am pretty cross though because I live on a busy road and seriously the traffic!!!! at the beginning of lockdown 1 there was almost none. Now, and it's dark, on a Sunday, there is a steady stream. I am wondering where on earth everyone is going. Clearly not following the rules and lengthening the difficulties for everyone else. We are in Greater Manchester, we only had some kind of normality in July until it tightened up for us, am thoroughly fed up!