Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

[CoronaOneSoz]

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

I don't know anyone not following the rules to the best of their abilities.

We were in level 1 before lockdown probably because the whole town appears to have pulled together as a community and been considerate.

I, and most of my friends are following the rules and the guidelines.
Those that have broken the rules have not done so for selfish or careless reasons eg. They have met their student daughter for a walk in the park after she spent 14 days isolated in her room on her first month living away from home.
The other one walked with her friend and her friend's husband. The friend has dementia and can only come out with her husband, but seeing her and orher friends who do the same gives both of them a lift.

I think everyone I know is more or less following the rules. Some businesses are stretching it a bit but I can't really blame them . Probably people are seeing their boyfriends/girlfriends but that is understandable too. Apart from that, it seems a bit pathetic that some people can't seem to go without mixing households for a couple of weeks. That is one of the things that would make the most difference without having an impact on the economy.

@PatriciaPerch

I wonder how the antique shop has allowed to stay open?

Probably by selling some food!

We are. Not seen my family since March.

There are lots of non essential shops open, I think they take the chance that they won't be reported. Given how many people on here are saying MYOB about any rule breaking, they may well get away with it.

We are following the rules but we went out today to a local beauty spot and the place was heaving with groups of 2 or 3 different families.

I couldn't object more strongly to lockdown and the rules, and I am not following them.

I do wear a mask in shops, and I do keep my distance from other people - but that's only because I'd be a dick if I imposed my feelings on a fellow shopper who might be anxious.

I don't give a shit about Christmas. I haven't worked since March, thanks to the lockdown. I am more concerned about day to day life than one day (which has in any case been cancelled for my family, as there is no money).

Lockdown can fuck off.

@Strawberrypancakes

I think everyone needs to stop concerning themselves with what everyone else is doing.

Agreed, some people need to get a grip

I'm starting to care less, I have to admit.

We just have to learn to live with covid.

@Branleuse
This is what I am taking issue with.
Most people who she was sofa surfing with over the last few years are not able to help because of covid rules and its actually put her in quite a dangerous position

The covid rules allow for people who are homeless to stay with anyone who is willing to have them. If people are unwilling or unable to help out that’s totally fine, but it is wrong to state that it is because of the lockdown rules. I wasn’t saying it’s your responsibility to sort out your friend’s life. Your post read like you wanted her to stay but the nasty government was preventing you. That is not the case. It is your decision.

If anyone is reading this thread wondering if a homeless friend or someone in an unsafe position can stay with you, you should be clear that they absolutely can.

I'm following the rules but I have broke them in the past and I really don't care if other people aren't. Everyone's getting sick of this nonsense now.

I lost my partner at the start of the week.

My SIL and her husband and DD are my support bubble, so I've been there. We may have bent the rules a little by deeming ourselves to be one household so we are the support bubble for dear MIL, who has just lost her only son.

However, I have also had contact with my stepson. DP and I weren't married, so DSS is legally DP's next of kin. He has been to my house once, and we took all the precautions we possibly could, wiped every surface he touched and made sure to sit at opposite sides of the room. But that's the only breach.

I would dearly love to have a friend to stay, the nights are the worst time for grieving alone, but I wouldn't risk it. I haven't been out apart from one supermarket trip and to my "bubble".

The socially distanced, number restricted funeral is going to be grim, but we'll do something out of doors when we scatter the ashes, which we'll leave till the spring, when hopefully we have a chance of decent weather and with a bit of luck there'll be some sort of easing of restrictions.

@loulouljh

I do feel very sorry for people in the North who have lived under lockdown for so long...it must be very tough and wearing..

I'm in the North. Since March I've been on 2 trips abroad, several in the country, outdoor and I door cinema, pub, restaurants and played sports outside

Oh and I'm following the rules, not really much choice is there.
I'm autistic so don't particularly do socialising anyway.

I meet with my PT 3x a week, outdoors, public place 1:2:1, which is allowed. I have a friend who is my "support of a vulnerable person" bubble, we don't go in each others houses (and havent since March), but she does drive me to places where we can be away from crowds and run together. I lost a lot of hard earned social skills in the first lockdown and for my mental health's sake, I need some form of social interaction.

I don't go to shops other than for essentials, didn't before lockdown, tried once when they re-opened (thinking they'd be quieter/less stressful) and swore never again.

Only things I now can't do is go to the gym and exercise classes, both of which are actually pretty essential to me personally for my mental health and as way of dealing with the world at large.

I disagree with the lock down in the strongest terms and disagreed with the last one. But yes, we are following the rules although DH and I fall into key worker categories this time and can both go into work but are limiting it unless it is strictly necessary.

Happy to write to my MP to object and to the PM but I won't break the rules.

What absolutely disgusts me is that the publuc has been asked to lick down for the NHS but parts of the NHS are still not fully operating even when it would be safe for them to do so.

@Nonamesavail

We are. Not seen my family since March.

Can I ask, why? When the lockdown ended in summer most people could see family and friends. I see a lot of people doing more than the rules, so basically locking themselves away, refusing to go anywhere except the supermarkets, which makes sense if you are ECV, but I do wonder why people do it if they arent ECV. It seems very isolating.

I follow the rules I can.

If I follow all the rules it will mean I can’t get to and fro work so those one I have to discard.

@LakieLady . I am so sorry to hear what you are going through and for your loss. With love.

What's the point really when I work in a school, ds is at secondary secondary school and Dh works in a supermarket (not front facing at least) and has done since the last lockdown? Don't get me wrong we do follow the rules mostly. Ds is only allowed to meet up with friends outside, my mum is in our so called bubble. Other than her, I see my ds at mums fur an hour every other week. That's the extent of it so pretty much abiding by the rules but as I said seems a bit pointless when I go into work tomorrow where we try to sd but you really can't from children.

Yes we are, and everyone we know (and we know a lot of people!) are all following the rules. A few friends meeting one other person for walks now, or a coffee outside perhaps. Nothing more than that.

The shops are open, as they should be, and we are getting by with netflix, spending time outside and chatting by phone and messaging.
Delighted schools are coming first this time, and delighted almost everyone we know is still working. Those things keep a sense of order, balance and routine - not to mention cushioning the terrible impact of lockdown for most of us.

I feel for the shielding - total isolation all over again - but everyone else is making the best of it within the guidelines.

What's the point really when I work in a school, ds is at secondary secondary school and Dh works in a supermarket (not front facing at least) and has done since the last lockdown? because if you follow the rules all dss friends he’s meeting and the extra little special people you’re meeting AREN’T exposed to the infection risks you are.

With this new lockdown, people I know aren’t following the rules to a tee, but have scaled things back.
For example, they aren’t going to parties or whatever, but will go round to their mums or partners if they don’t live together.
It’s like they’ve set their own bubble that they stick to, which is often more than what the government have set out, but still a lot less interaction with others than before.