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Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

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CoronaOneSoz · 08/11/2020 13:36

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

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Bluejewel · 08/11/2020 14:42

Following the rules here
First time though we definitely exercised for more than 1 hour daily - rural though and saw no one

AlphaJura · 08/11/2020 14:43

Yes I am following the rules but tbh nothing is really different for me so it's not that difficult. I have been in parents and in laws house when it was allowed and had a couple of friends round. But now it's not allowed for a few weeks I probably won't. It's not like we go round there every day or even every week anyway. I have 'seen' my mum and spoken to her because we live on the same road, we just chat at the door. Often that's all we do anyway! Most shops are still open and my road is fairly busy. Kids still going to school/nursery although activities are shut.

Grenlei · 08/11/2020 14:43

I can understand people wanting to visit family members who would otherwise be alone, or those who live alone wanting to see at least one other person. But constantly meeting up with multiple friends, I can't see why people feels that's essential. Kids don't need to play out, they're seeing friends at school (unlike first lockdown when everyone was at home), I don't get too upset about people not following the rules but I am curious as to why they think their socialising is more important or why they shouldn't have to follow the same rules as the rest of us.

I WFH, I live with my adult DC. I see my partner when he visits as we're in a bubble, but apart from them I've not seen anyone else.

HuggedTheRedwoods · 08/11/2020 14:44

I am, even though 'friends' have been snarky when I've declined invites to meet up and I've had the joy of seeing/hearing anti-social neighbours partying through summer. I have felt in the minority and wonder what the point is sometimes but will carry on.

Thurlow · 08/11/2020 14:44

I am trying to but I will see my parents in my house today when they bring DC back from providing childcare. I know it's against the rules (not a single parent) but they aren't seeing anyone else and if they want to come in for half an hour to have a cuppa after looking after DC for the weekend I'm struggling to tell them no.

PurpleDaisies · 08/11/2020 14:45

Mostly.

I’m not meeting anyone indoors.
I’m only meeting one person at a time outdoors.

Technically I drove outside my “local area” to meet a friend for a walk and some of my shopping trips could be viewed as not strictly essential.

I’m happy with that.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/11/2020 14:45

I am, but if I want something from the corner shop I'm going, I'm not going for 'essentials' only.

I'm pissed off that DH can see my family when I can't though - he's a handyman doing work for my uncle and so can see him during lockdown.

Sparklingbrook · 08/11/2020 14:47

It's disappointing that so many people aren't. I guess they don't like being told what to do-like grown up toddlers. 'Shan't!' Grin

But as far as rule breaking goes in these parts you can't go to a pub or restaurant as they are all closed. Can't go to the gym or the leisure centre. And I think it's the socialising between lots of households that was causing the pandemic to continue.

Lots want the schools to be closed but then the same amount want their children's education to continue so that's a difficult one. I have no children at school any more so not sure what I would feel about that. I know Home Ed would have been a disaster in this house.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/11/2020 14:47

I'm driving to a National Trust garden outside my area next weekend (iy was the closest one with availability) PurpleDaisies. I've booked tickets and there's nothing in the guidelines that says I can't so I'll have a nice long walk.

Nicknacky · 08/11/2020 14:50

BlueJewel You are aware that there was never a one hour exercise limit?

trappedsincesundaymorn · 08/11/2020 14:50

@MacbookHo

I am. I think anyone who doesn’t is thick. 👍🏻
I've spent the last 4 days (and the 2 weeks or so), clearing out my parents house after my dad's death last Sunday (we lost mum in march). If you have any ideas how my and my sisters can do that whilst not going into the house to remove furniture and all the other 50 years of stuff my parents have stored away, please do let us thickos know.
MashedSweetSpud · 08/11/2020 14:50

We are following the rules.

Casiloco · 08/11/2020 14:51

We stick rigidly to the rules in most areas - social distancing at work, hygiene guidelines, masks. We also limit our food shopping and time out and about apart form exercise and work (I'm a key worker, but in a "bubble" so see same few people every day, who include family).

As far as family is concerned, we have 2 DSs who work with us, so see them everyday at work. Their wives are very home-based so have v limited contacts and v limited infection risk. That means we do still see each of our DSs, DILs and offspring (1 baby/1 toddler) in turn but we don't see each altogether, so never more than the 4 of us plus baby/toddler.

This is our own personal risk assessment and within the spirit of the rules (limit social contact to a minimum) if not the letter and so we are relaxed about it. Our area is also pretty much the lowest infection rate in the country. We would be stricter if that was not the case.

Ingridla · 08/11/2020 14:52

I'm following the rules. Everyone who isn't are the reason this will continue. Ffs

SuperbGorgonzola · 08/11/2020 14:53

I am following the rules apart from childcare.

I'm due back at work in a few weeks after maternity and my baby needs to be used to my mum, so she is going there for an afternoon each week, even though I will be at home. I have stopped sending my son though as he is older and more aware.

My sister is also using my mum for some childcare for her baby on different days, so it's not properly bubbled.

Apart from that I'm following the rules.

EasterIssland · 08/11/2020 14:53

Yea I’m. I’m happy with myself that nobody will get the virus cuz of me and that if I can’t see my family (I’m European) is not because I’m doing whatever I want but cuz of others are being selfish.

MaryShelley1818 · 08/11/2020 14:53

We are breaking one rule. Our toddler gets childcare from both sets of Grandparents and I believe you are only supposed to use one set.
I could never ever choose which set was allowed to see him and which couldn't though. My mother wouldn't be able to manage him for 2 days but it would actually break her heart to not see him, he is her reason for living.
Apart from that we follow every rule strictly, we only go out for essential shopping or outside exercise. We mostly work from home and don't meet up with friends, even outside.

Islagray11 · 08/11/2020 14:53

I don't know many people that are following the rules any more.

My family all stopped following them after a couple of months.

This is life now. It's not going away. I think it's time that people just got on with life.

Tailrunner · 08/11/2020 14:54

I am following the rules - I work in a school and don't want to take any extra risks as it's such a pain for everyone if a member of staff or a student tests positive plus I would feel awful if I passed it on to someone who then became very ill.

I will however break the rules if they are still in place by christmas and have my DM and Ddad here for christmas day. They are both happy to take the risk rather than be without family for the hols. My Ddad is retired and my DM and I have 12 days after christmas before we go back to work so we won't pass anything on to anyone else. Hopefully we will be back to rule of 6 by then so we won't need to break any rules.

loulouljh · 08/11/2020 14:55

I do feel very sorry for people in the North who have lived under lockdown for so long...it must be very tough and wearing..

MarshaBradyo · 08/11/2020 14:56

I am, stuff has been cancelled or closed though so no choice with most of it

Otherwise seeing a friend outside and family is o/s

AlwaysLatte · 08/11/2020 14:57

We're all following the rules in my house. With my Dads COPD and failing heart, if he contracts Covid and dies from it I'll never forgive myself for possibly giving it to him. I'd like to think people are also protecting those vulnerable people that they don't know. But sadly many are very selfish.

IHeartHounds · 08/11/2020 14:57

Follow the rules if you want. If your parents and sister want to meet up then I can't get annoyed about it. They have every right to.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 08/11/2020 14:57

Yes we are too, I want a health service that’s not over run and wouldn’t want to be responsible for someone getting it from us. I also don’t want the children to think the rules don’t apply to them and to think of the wider implications of actions on others.

Lots aren’t from what I’ve seen and read so who knows when this will all be over. Hard to avoid the rule breakers when they send their children into schools, go to workplaces etc.

DarlingCoffee · 08/11/2020 14:58

We are following the rules and will also be for Christmas if they are still in place. I’m actually shocked at the number of people on here who say that they aren’t!