Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

[CoronaOneSoz]

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

We were strict last time. Husband even stayed home for about 2 weeks, then went into his work about once a week to check the unit wasn’t flooding or anything.

This time round he’s going to work as normal (self employed), I’m taking kids to school. Furloughed but happy to potter at home.

In my local town to be honest the road traffic is still virtually as normal even outside of ‘school run rush hours’ . Last lockdown I’d go to the shop and there’s was zero traffic on the roads!

Also today husband went to the DIY in town (Sunday) and people are Christmas shopping judging by the multi carrier bags carried (only a handful of big retailers open like Wilco and B&M, but that’s obviously enough to entice people out as those stores have big Christmas present aisles in).

It doesn’t even feel like a lockdown. We live on a big suburban estate and traffic down our main thoroughfare and even our own cul de sac is still busy as normal.

I am mostly. I did the first time. My friend came round with her dc on Friday for my sons bday. They had cake and left again. I am still seeing my mum, but she is my childcare.

Yes and no.

I'm still seeing my in-laws as they look after our dog while DH and I go to work. I also go into one of my clients' house and have a coffee with her twice a week or so - she's vulnerable and doesn't see anyone else except me (I'm her dog walker).

We socially distance but the impact on her MH if she were to see no-one for a month would be huge. I count it as a caring responsibility really and I do look after her in that sense (pop to the shops for her, collect prescriptions etc).

Dh and I are but we are letting Ds play out a bit and Dd see one friend.
They both were very doen on the first lockdown and we had to bend the rules a bit for them. We aren't seeing parents or anybody else though.

Each to their own. I personally follow the rules, in general.
However I think people would probably be a lot calmer if we all stopped concerning ourselves with what others are doing.

@supadupapupascupa

Yes we are. And we won't be seeing anyone who isn't.

I cannot control anyone else therefore I am not worrying about it. It's not good for your mental health

I have the same attitude - except that as a teacher I am directly exposed to a whole bubble full of other families, most of whom will not be following the rules. Ditto DH who works in a large educational institution and DD who is at school.

However, I worry about what I can control - my behaviour, that of my household, and that of the children in my bubble when they are in my care - and not about what I cannot - the behaviour of others. My mental health is not at its best anyway, so I have to place firm boundaries around what I worry about.

Yes we following the guidelines
Not meeting socially with anyone
Trying to avoid the shops (don’t need anything other than the weekly then top up groceries anyway)

Live on other side of country from my family not been there since new year as involves a flight, in laws live locally but pil are elderly and at risk and the rest of us following the guidance

Was in Tesco and M&S simply food a few days ago and strangely both stocking Xmas party outfits and party food - not sure what they’re thinking

I am yes.

Should also add we live in one of the lowest risk areas. There's selfish and selfish - having house parties, yes - letting grandparents spend valuable time with their young grandchildren, no. People are dying because of the government's cack-handed management and their complete failure to put a proper TTI system in place, not because of people seeing their elderly relations once a week.

DDIJ I hope you don’t mind me asking but why don’t you normally go out?

And trust me, the police aren’t driving up streets slowly because of COVID rule breakers.

@CodenameVillanelle

No I'm not I'm letting DS play out and I'm seeing my boyfriend AND my brother's family

AND ? Why are you bragging about it ? You're assuming none of you will catch it or that you won't spread it or just don't give a toss ?

I have had two minor lapses since March. Otherwise, following the rules diligently

It's frustrating to hear so many people freely admit they will do what they like. No wonder the virus is still out of control

Agree its Not a lockdown here you can get takeaway coffees from 5 places in our local town centre, every shop is open apart from seemingly sports direct and card factory, even next, entertainer doing click and collect

Tesco extra did close their upstairs non food area yesterday to utter uproar but feel that’s fair enough

No. Met up with 2 friends at a house yesterday for a few drinks. Went for a walk this morning with 2 more friends.

I don’t even know if I’m breaking them or not.

I met my mum for a walk yesterday with one of my children in tow. Is that allowed? To be honest we were in a large London park, it was packed and clearly there were large groups of friends, more than one family together etc, and nobody was making an effort to social distance. So...I felt pretty obedient in comparison.

Next weekend I’m having my friend’s child to stay for the weekend, as my friend’s mum is gravely ill and she needs some child-free time to make some arrangements for her . Is that informal childcare? Or against the rules?

I’ll admit I am just using my own judgement most of the time.

I am.

@Arielsgift

I don't know anyone socially that is.

Although I did see my dm on friday. Shoot me.

We’re following the rules but I do wonder what the point is being as everything is open really

Yes we are following the rules. One close family member is persistently breaking them in various different ways. I guess it is none of my business but they are also constantly moaning about ‘all these people breaking the rules and causing all the problems’. Bizarre!

Technically yes

But- I work full time, in a supermarket, big staff and the obvious large volumes of customers/reps/delivery staff etc

Husband is senior management in industry, 180 of a staff under him

Two children in school, one of which with a childminder , one at high school. 1 in full time work in essential retail

But not seeing our parents. Who also work with the public......... soo, yeah, find it hard to understand all in all

I'm not, I think the whole thing has become a bit ridiculous to be honest.

Yep. Rule follower here . I WFH and DD is furloughed with the exception of a weekly food shop we stay home. (DD does the shop) . We do it because we want to stop people dying. I guess those who make their own rules simply don't care about that.

As far as I can tell I'm following the rules and am happy to continue doing so.even if its dull

I bumped into (metaphorically speaking...) two friends running together when I was out running this morning. We stood apart and chatted for 10 mins or so.

Was only afterwards I realised that we'd 'broken the rules' as per Priti Patel.

But we were outside, socially distanced, went home and washed hands/showered afterwards so I don't feel unduly worried about contagion risk.

Nope. And everyone else I know isn't.

HTH