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Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

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CoronaOneSoz · 08/11/2020 13:36

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

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Doyouknowwhat · 08/11/2020 21:01

No idea, the rules have got so complicated that I cant work it out

myusernamewastakenbyme · 08/11/2020 21:05

Im seeing my partner as i did all through the last lockdown....telling people they cannot see the person they love most in the world because they dont live together is inhumane and something im not prepared to do.

wigglerose · 08/11/2020 21:07

I sort of breached them once.

I'm still narked that people were harrangued by the government and certain sections of the media for not going back to the office. Everyone who was wary about cramming back on public transport and into offices unnecessarily was right.

anothergloriousmorning · 08/11/2020 21:09

On the whole, yes.

I think the only thing I've done 'wrong' is to sit too close to people (eg my Mum, my best mate) when we've met for lunch in a cafe or pub during 'eat out to help out', simply because it hasn't been possible to move the chairs far enough apart.

I've also bought non essentials when shopping for essentials- does that count?!

NC249 · 08/11/2020 21:10

Still see daughters dad when he collects
Her. Also needed help moving so couldn't
exactly follow the rules.
My sister is a trainee nurse working in A&E, she's constantly around patients with suspected covid, so I cannot see her.
I'm just planning on being around my daughter and her dad, however I did speak to a friend who mentioned that a lot of the people she knows are choosing not to comply. This include people still having gatherings at home/parties.

pincertoe · 08/11/2020 21:13

I did briefly break a rule today. I made a birthday cake for a friend's baby's birthday today. We stood chatting at door step for a while but she had baby in arms so couldn't take cake. I had a mask on so took cake into dining table and then went back to door. We chatted for 10/15 mins.

Other than that I follow the rules completely and don't intend to break them (again).

MayDayHelp · 08/11/2020 21:14

Nope. And nor is anyone else I know. The ‘rules’ make even less sense this time than the last one, and I think people are capable of critical thinking, on the whole. Plus I’ve already had covid, and live in a very low risk area.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 08/11/2020 21:22

I don't think I've broken lockdown rules massively - I have a friend who is a single parent and during the last lockdown she was struggling hugely with her MH, so I went up and helped whenever I could. I can't think of any other lockdown rules I've broken, but when it comes to MH and single parent families I'm willing to stick my neck out and support those I know.

StuffedRabbit · 08/11/2020 21:27

I don't really know anyone who is following the rules completely. Some are breaking in bigger ways than others but everyone is doing so in some way or another.

I'm still seeing my Dad who lives alone but he is also my grandma's 'bubble' so technically shouldn't be mine as well but 🤷

GrumblyMumblyisnotJumbly · 08/11/2020 21:27

@MayDayHelp

Nope. And nor is anyone else I know. The ‘rules’ make even less sense this time than the last one, and I think people are capable of critical thinking, on the whole. Plus I’ve already had covid, and live in a very low risk area.
For those saying you are not following the rules which parts are you not following? Social distancing, masks, seeing people indoors, meeting indoors, travelling abroad for holiday rather than work or other? Presumably it's impossible to have lock-ins at your local pub?

Would you isolate if you knew you HAD definitely been in close contact with someone with Covid?

nettytree · 08/11/2020 21:31

I'm following all the rules. Not travelling to see grandparents, wearing a mask. But I do let my 10 year old have her friend round to play.

NellePorter · 08/11/2020 21:36

Yes I am following them, apart from when I walk my dog I stand at the bottom of my parents' drive and have a quick chat, my mum's mental health is not good and I like to check they're ok. I haven't hugged them since before the first lockdown.

notanothertakeaway · 08/11/2020 21:37

@MayDayHelp

Nope. And nor is anyone else I know. The ‘rules’ make even less sense this time than the last one, and I think people are capable of critical thinking, on the whole. Plus I’ve already had covid, and live in a very low risk area.
And this, my friends, is why the virus continues to spread

Don't worry about WHO / medical advice. Just do what you like

saraclara · 08/11/2020 21:47

[quote Wannakisstheteacher]@fastandthecurious how can that be? If you has symptoms even if you test negative you must still isolate for 14 days. If you didn't have symptoms but were told to isolate by track and trace you shouldn't have had a test so should have done 14 days...[/quote]
Not true. If you have a test because you've been in close contact with someone with the virus, you still have to isolate even if you're negative. But if you have a test because you have symptoms, you don't have to isolate if you're negative.

EternalOptimist7 · 08/11/2020 21:47

We are following the rules but it doesn’t feel like lockdown here. Lots of traffic on the roads & the store I work in is busier than ever. DD going to school as usual.

PrettyPete · 08/11/2020 21:48

I'm still seeing my parents (who are divorced).

My Dad is in the police (WFH), he still wants to see me. We have a brew every now and then, indoors.

I'm currently having a problem with my internet so am WFH from my mum's house every day with her (she is also WFH).

Lots of my friends are still meeting up, I've had a few invites for coffee etc... From them. I haven't gone but I don't really know many people who are following the rules strictly to the letter.

Also been out for some what would be classed as non essential shopping. As per PP, loads of people in places like B&M buying non essentials still.

Mimilamore · 08/11/2020 21:55

Following the rules here, vulnerable husband so whole family would feel so guilty if we passed on to him.
Honestly have no urge to return to the masss produced high street shops and prefer local businesses.
We do go to wide open spaces for walks and I was looking after youngest go during previous LD, May meet with one daughter and her in yet another wide open space if get really desperate.
Miss theatre but still have books , FB live and Sky Arts.

PumpkinPie2016 · 08/11/2020 22:08

Yes, we are. Have done all along. We went away at half term (it was allowed!) And stayed in a holiday cottage. When we went out, we were very careful to maintain distance from others.

At home, we haven't been anywhere not essential. DS is at school, I work full time in a secondary school. DH mainly at home but does outdoor work.

I am avoiding people as I work in a risky environment so I pose a risk to others.

Iheartmysmart · 08/11/2020 22:08

Like a couple of PPs I have no idea what the rules are any more. I had two friends over for lunch today, we all live alone and WFH. Can’t really imagine how that’s going to kill granny.

Dartsplayer · 08/11/2020 22:16

@myusernamewastakenbyme

Im seeing my partner as i did all through the last lockdown....telling people they cannot see the person they love most in the world because they dont live together is inhumane and something im not prepared to do.
If either one or both of you live alone you can bubble anyway. The rules have been made so that people aren't isolated this time round
MrDarcysMa · 08/11/2020 22:30

Yes me abs DP are. It's only for a few more weeks.

Lemons1571 · 08/11/2020 22:34

@WhoseThatGirl

We haven’t really come out of lock down for almost 10 months. No body seems to give a fuck about us up north and think that 4 weeks is such a hard ship. If I didn’t meet up with a friend in the park while watching the kids I’d go mad. We aren’t exercising so strictly it’s against the rules but I don’t care.
It’s within the rules. You can visit a public place together. You don’t need to be exercising during this visit.
Belladonna12 · 09/11/2020 13:00

It's interesting that a lot of people who think they are breaking the rules because they would go mad otherwise aren't actually breaking the rules. I know it's a bit confusing but surely you could read up on it. If people really are breaking the rules in a way that actually could increase the risk of infection (I appreciate that not all rule breaking does), I hope they get fined a lot of money. It's only for a few weeks. People need to get a grip.

Belladonna12 · 09/11/2020 13:02

@Iheartmysmart

Like a couple of PPs I have no idea what the rules are any more. I had two friends over for lunch today, we all live alone and WFH. Can’t really imagine how that’s going to kill granny.
Whilst I agree that you haven't done anything that would increase the risk, why would you not have any idea what the rules are? If you can read it's not that difficult to find out. Do you read any newspapers?
Oliversmumsarmy · 09/11/2020 14:41

Whilst I agree that you haven't done anything that would increase the risk, why would you not have any idea what the rules are? If you can read it's not that difficult to find out. Do you read any newspapers

No idea what the rules are this week. All I know is the shops are closed and anywhere that might offer a bit of light relief in these times have been shut down.
And no I don’t read any newspapers