To wonder if most men are only as faithful as their options?

[Cara1986]

Just that really.. not a current issue for me in the present moment but have experienced it in the past and now have friends going through it, and see the constant posts on here too.. seems to be the case?

Are most men only as faithful as the options presented to them? Are men who would turn down a very attractive/fun/interesting/interested woman hitting on them (when they aren't free and single) in the minority?

I know many men may not go chasing for it, but I wonder if it's a much smaller percentage who would actively turn it down if it was handed to them on a plate.

CochonDinde

Your asked me

*How on earth could you know they wouldn't cheat?

I don’t know that they wouldn’t cheat

How many people get married thinking their oh would cheat on them? Virtually none, How many marriages end in divorce from adultery? A lot....I think people are niave thinking their spouse won't ever cheat

@MegaClutterSlut

How many people get married thinking their oh would cheat on them? Virtually none, How many marriages end in divorce from adultery? A lot....I think people are niave thinking their spouse won't ever cheat

But lots of men don't cheat. Yes some do but so do some women.

I have no idea what the number is but it is certainly not all men nor is it 90%.

I am not naive and wish posters would stop throwing that word around. I know my DH inside out. We have been married 40 years and I literally know what he is thinking.

We share the same views and values on marriage and fidelity and both have good strong morals. Neither of us have cheated and neither of us would.

Many people have no morals which is proven by how many cheat. Many people see nothing wrong in cheating.

I think if you love, like and respect your OH you would not cheat on them. The problem is many couples do not love their OH and far too often do not respect them. Also how many couples actually like each other a lot? Just read the threads on here to see so many don't. Wives complaining about their husbands being at home, under their feet etc?

I think your OH should be your best friend, the person you want to spend the most time with and me and DH are best friends as well as lovers.

We have loved being together through lockdown 1 and are now looking forward to lockdown2. We would both love for him to retire and be home all the time but we can't afford for him at present. He has cut down on work a lot since the first lockdown though and will gradually do less and less

@Arcadia

My DP has a story about a very drunk girl (neighbour in block of flats) getting very drunk and getting into bed with him, when he was single. He didn't take advantage because she was drunk, And I don't think he was attracted to her anyway. The way he told the story told me everything I needed to know about his values. I don't think anyone is completely cheat proof through. I trust him but know that it could happen to anyone certain circumstances.

He didn't rape her because he wasn't attracted to her.

Brill.

The OP specifically says about men being offered it on a plate by a very attractive/fun/interesting/interested woman. I don't think that happens to most men unless they are very good looking &/or rich. So I think in those circumstances more men would cheat then in the usual RL scenarios

I think if you love, like and respect your OH you would not cheat on them

What many of us are saying from experience and knowing men (and women) who have cheated it has nothing to do with those emotions especially with many men as they can so often detach themselves with those emotions when having sex or are able to have sex without any complications

That’s isn’t everyone man but it is I believe It is the majority of men I don’t think it’s purely conditioning I think it’s more biological (and thats why there is a preference for younger women)

@wallyb

The OP specifically says about men being offered it on a plate by a very attractive/fun/interesting/interested woman. I don't think that happens to most men unless they are very good looking &/or rich. So I think in those circumstances more men would cheat then in the usual RL scenarios

Agree with that. Think it applies to women too. Morality aside, for most of us in real life, given the options on offer, cheating is probably more trouble than it's worth.

Yes absolutely women too @IcedPurple. I mean I can count on one hand they amount of very attractive/funny etc men Ive met in my life. And only one was interested in me!

I mean having a quick fling with Dave the plumber & potentially losing everything if discovered is very different to a love affair with Tom Hardy who whisks you off to a millionaire lifestyle.

@ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN

I think if you love, like and respect your OH you would not cheat on them

What many of us are saying from experience and knowing men (and women) who have cheated it has nothing to do with those emotions especially with many men as they can so often detach themselves with those emotions when having sex or are able to have sex without any complications

That’s isn’t everyone man but it is I believe It is the majority of men I don’t think it’s purely conditioning I think it’s more biological (and thats why there is a preference for younger women)

But what sort of majority are you talking? 60%? 70%? More?

Of course some men and women would and do cheat but not all. Some posters are saying ALL men do or would cheat which is clearly ridiculous.

I think both men and women cheat a hell of a lot more than is generally accepted. I don’t think humans are naturally monogamous, but it is more advantageous for our societal structure.

I also think that the current trend of partners being seen as the primary source of everything - friendship, support, sex, parenting, intellectual stimulation, caring etc puts too much pressure on a sole person. Couples seemed to be viewed as a self contained unit. It’s unrealistic and historically generally unsupported as a model except in rare cases. Even then it was more likely that one person in the marriage would die prematurely and therefore the partnership would not last decades, providing more variance in a persons life.

I think a very high percentage of men & women would cheat if they had an incredibly tempting offer i.e someone they really liked & they knew it was no strings. However as I said upthread this isn't the case for most in reality.

I've spent a lot of time around the opposite sex (only brothers & nephew's) & have attended stag do's, group holidays etc. Plenty of them have had girlfriends/wives who swear they wouldn't have a lap dance, cheat, etc. so I would never trust 100%.