Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

Fireworks should be banned from gardens and for sale to the public.
Sorry,actually,no I'm not sorry.
It's not just animals that are terrified and injured in homes but the wildlife.
There are war veterans who are adversely affected.
Just so people can enjoy a few bangs and pretty lights?
Enjoy everyone,just put the suffering out of your minds.

@Sweettea1

Yes they can get a tablet from pets at home which keeps them calm the work amazing.

Is that Adaptil? It didn’t do a thing for my dog. Had the diffuser as well! Zero effect.

I hate fireworks now, but November 5th they are expected.

Everyone telling the OP is unreasonable - you do realise that they'll be loads going off around her so hers will make little difference?

No, don’t be a dick. Teach your kids a lesson in compassion over short term pleasure. Worth more than some shiny bangs.

I don’t love home fireworks and the noise they create. But at a sensible time they are fine, in line with lots of other potential antisocial activities people are allowed to do like bonfires and loud parties.

I really struggle with dog owners expecting consideration for their pets, when so many of them show little consideration for the impact their choice to have a pet has on other people. I often have a terrified toddler, or am jumping out the way of dog poo left on the pavements. You’ve given notice and should let them know times, that is the considerate thing to do. How the dog owners choose to deal with that for their pet is their choice.

@Inastatus

My dog is a quivering wreck and has been for the last few nights. However I wouldn’t dream of telling someone they can’t have fireworks on bonfire night. I just wish they were just for one night though and not so spread out.

This^ I have two dogs. And I hate when people let fireworks off for days in advance. But, goodness, are we now so dull that we can't even allow fireworks on Bonfire Night?

It’s not just dogs that are terrified.

My rabbits are currently cowering under the BBQ cover. I can’t bring them indoors, as the temperature change will cause them to start moulting, which means they’ll lose their winter coat, and probably die from the cold in the next few weeks.

My large, tough Greek dog was TERRIFIED by bangs (brought up in a country where the locals take potshots at any animals). When she came to the UK, fireworks were her worst nightmare. If we were out and we heard them, she'd try to scramble under the nearest bramble bush and want to stay there until morning. Inside, she would shake and pant and try to climb into the wardrobe in her terror. I live in an area that has (until this year) had enthusiastic fireworks of immense loudness for two weeks either side of fireworks night as well as the night in question - the buildings shake and it is reminiscent of a film about being on the front in WWI. Eventually, the vet prescribed a sedative that worked on her (but apparently they aren't allowed to prescribe that one any more !!!!). I think if you are only having a few fireworks for a short time, preferably early in the evening, that is fine. I just wish they'd invent quieter or silent fireworks - the colourful display is enjoyment enough and that way everyone could be satisfied (except the "bad lads" in my area).

@Donkeeey

Where will the remains of your fireworks be landing...?

they dont care about that....will be littering.....or maybe they will light their way by creating a small fire!

as long as the kids are happy though ,eh!?

The insurance company is going after the resident , who has since moved to another county because it was broadcast far and wide what he’d done.

This is ridiculous @plominoagain
The damage is so remote from the firework. Your neighbour couldn't reasonably foresee that horse bolting and hurting itself. If they had been able to, then so should your neighbours and they should have sedated more heavily/ secured the stable door.

Plenty of people have ptsd from gunfire,mortars, ieds.

Why aren’t silent fireworks or at least quiet ones good enough?

And if you really think it is only two nights each year, then you are sadly mistaken.

YWNBU to go ahead with your plans. I dislike fireworks and love animals, but even from that position, I think that while fireworks remain legal the onus is on the pet owner to protect their pet. I'm lucky in that my cats aren't bothered, but if they were I'd get a sedative from the vet beforehand and a blanket and box to comfort them. Its not reasonable to ask neighbours to change their plans.

Around 2000 people visit UK hospitals each year, due to fireworks-related injuries.

We should definitely all explode things during a pandemic. Obviously.

Wish selling it to homes would be banned. wouldn't fancy trip to a and e tonight personally. Good luck op.

Fireworks should not be on sale to the General Public.About time the sale of them was illegal.

Letting fireworks off in gardens is selfish in the extreme.They were never as loud years ago as they are now.

Bloody horrible things.

I fucking hate private firework shows, especially in residential areas.

But at least you're doing it on the expected night, and you've let her know.

We've had them for a few nights now. My dog barks like crazy.

One of my DCs is an emergency doctor. They expect to have a busy few days with some horrible injuries to treat.

Fireworks should not be on sale to the general public. Maybe mumsnet could start a petition?

Why did you not buy silent ones?

@plominoagain think the older reidents need to get over themselves tbh

What happened to that poor horse was horrible, but the fact it was a newer resident is irrelevent. People are perfectly entitled to build houses in the country

And who the actual fuck puts a firework through someones door?! Thats not a lesson in not setting off fireworks, thats a lesson in not living near violent criminals.

This is why I think fireworks should be illegal to buy. It’s hard to call you unreasonable for doing something legal which will bring your family some happiness. But equally, it’s going to cause enormous distress to a lot of animals, and it’s hard to see how that is reasonable either.

I wish that only authorised displays were allowed. It would still be distressing to the animals, but at least it would only be in one short window, rather than the hours / days it can go on for at the moment.

My neighbours are currently setting theirs off right now and not only is it miserable for me to listen to, my poor cats are just beside themselves - absolutely wild with panic. Knowing they’re in for a night of it (and probably more this weekend) is so sad.

op has buggered off to watch HUBBY set off the fireworks.....now she will be paranoid that this friend who she has let down will now turn the other residents against her

You gave them notice which is very reasonable. I think there should be limits on the types of firework sold to the public but the fact is they are legal and you have a right to have them on fireworks night so enjoy!

I can’t believe someone would even ask this!

Yes Op you are very very selfish and thoughtless for buying perfectly legal fireworks for your children to enjoy! You are also extremely selfish for bothering to notify your neighbours therefore giving them a chance to make alternative arrangements for themselves and their pets for a hour or so! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Honestly she's being unreasonable expecting you to not enjoy fireworks on bonfire night because it doesn't suit her or her dog!!! I have dogs and although my dogs are all desensitised I would be taking them out of the way if they weren't, not expecting my neighbours to base their enjoyment around me!

I think possibly here your mistake was in warning about the fireworks if you were planning on doing them anyway - on the basis it's bonfire night so likely lots going on across an estate - no-one checks with all of those affected. It's a tricky one and depending on how you worded the message will depend on whether you should set them off e.g 'is this ok?' then you would BU to do them if she's said no in reply.

Enjoy your fireworks, OP. I love fireworks.