Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

@Oscarsdaddy

I too live on a new build estate. We’ve been here for about three years and the whole estate about 5 years

We too have group chats and FB group as it’s a trait community and some messaged both on 5th November and again today (6th) to let everyone know

Dogs and cats can be scared and it’s not nice for them but it’s lovely for people to be courteous enough to give a warning

Sadly you can’t please all people all of the time. People with pets know to expect fireworks on and around November 5th and NY Eve and other religious celebrations and you’ve just gotta get on with it

Whats the point in giving a warning you cant do anything to help the cats/dogs its just bloody selfish for 5 mins of crappy fireworks!!!nice one! But the animals will be petrified for the whole night

Hate fireworks... been going off every night for a week. My cat is upset and I was woken up at 3am last night and after 7am by 2 loud bangs which sounded like bombs going off!!
Firework sales to the general public have been banned for decades in most of Australia- case to be made for publicly licensed displays only, before 11pm and publicised accordingly.

@frazzledquaver

You would be very cruel to do this and I'd expect the person not to speak to you again. Sorry if your kids are looking forward to it, but it's well know that fireworks are problematic for some animals and also some people with PTSD, etc. Good lesson for your kids in empathy.

So for the sake of empathy you would be happy to tell your children no Christmas presents this year as some children don’t get any ? What a stupid reason ! She has done the right thing by letting people know, I’m sure her display will be a lot less than organised displays which won’t be happening this year. So I’m sure as a responsible dog owner what ever measures she takes most years to console her dog will be sufficient Yes some dogs are frightened but there are plenty of things to help them out there. This posters display is only going to last minutes and she can’t be held responsible for all the other displays OP you have informed everyone so have a guilt free fun night with your kids x

Jesus Christ......the ignorance is just astounding!

The people's who's dogs are severely affected by firework noise, is it really THAT loud inside your home with doors and windows shut?

My neighbours were letting off terrifically loud ones yesterday. Outside it was very noticeable, inside, the cat was oblivious.

Kids have missed out on so much this year already, you should definitely go ahead. You messaged to give a heads up not to ask for permission.
Enjoy!

It’s one night a year - as I child I was traumatised by dogs - didn’t stop dog owners letting their dogs run at me and then telling me it wouldn’t hurt me - it was just being friendly. Give the kids some joy - it’s not great for them atm.

@jigglebum

It’s one night a year - as I child I was traumatised by dogs - didn’t stop dog owners letting their dogs run at me and then telling me it wouldn’t hurt me - it was just being friendly. Give the kids some joy - it’s not great for them atm.

Since when do two wrongs make a right?

And it doesn’t bring joy for a lot of children. It brings fear and panic.

Why can’t people buy silent fireworks if they really need them?

Mine hate Fireworks and are very stressed when they are going off. I’d never dream of saying to someone don’t do them. Giving her a timescale is generous and helpful. Just do it it’s not like others won’t be.

As much as I feel for scared pets, are people real that fireworks won’t or shouldn’t go off? My kids love them and if I was brave enough to set any off, I wouldn’t put some random neighbours dog before my children.

I also wouldn’t have a WhatsApp group with them either, I can imagine it will get bitchy if it hasn’t already, like real housewives.

If you gave her a heads up, that’s not asking permission it’s advising them you’re doing it.

Don’t engage any more with the message thread, you’ve done your job

I wish people would understand how many shift workers, people with young children, people with pets and more are stressed by all the noise. It's been going on for the last several nights around here. Light a few sparklers by all means. But please don't impose it on everyone else those of us that live in urban settings need our peace too.

@jentinquarantino20

As much as I feel for scared pets, are people real that fireworks won’t or shouldn’t go off? My kids love them and if I was brave enough to set any off, I wouldn’t put some random neighbours dog before my children.

I also wouldn’t have a WhatsApp group with them either, I can imagine it will get bitchy if it hasn’t already, like real housewives.

Why should I put a random neighbours children before my children? They want fireworks to enjoy, my children enjoy having rabbits. The rabbits don't hurt anybody else whereas the fireworks do - fear in other people, house fires (two in Scotland linked to up thread) and terrified animals plus damage to farmer's property.

Hate fireworks - should be banned from public sale. If they’ve advised you that their dog is terrified then it’s the neighborly thing NOT to set them off! It’s not like they can take their dog elsewhere due to lockdown restrictions. Your kids will live fine without it

Ps those selfish entitled twits advising just to do it is what’s wrong with the way this country is going!

Are people seriously saying that we should have NO fireworks?

Dogs cause more injuries each year than fireworks. We could reduce stress on NHS by limiting dog ownership significantly too. Most people don't need to own a dog, but its enjoyable/fun (although dogs scare many people). Fireworks are enjoyable and fun too.

Hate fireworks. They are brutal for pets and wildlife as well as livestock. Just another sign that we humans don't give a stuff about the impact our activities have on the rest of the planet. However, despite this, it is strange that your neighbour didn't thank you profusely for letting her know so she could either take the dog elsewhere or out telly on loud. My last dog was so stressed by fireworks I dreaded this time of year every year - but in my area nobody was kind enough to warn neighbours - also t
People let them off at random days so you couldn't prepare.

Guy Fawkes day was yesterday, so YABU.

Unless I've missed something where did the OP say that the fireworks are loud bangers that will be landing on other people's property and terrifying animals? We used to have a box of small fountain type fireworks that were almost noiseless (a bit off hissing or occasionally a few little crackles). I would go to organised displays if they weren't so loud but I don't like them. The last few years we've just had sparklers.

Unfortunately, I have a dog that is an absolute wreck when fireworks go off. I’ve tried absolutely everything on the market that apparently help to calm them. Apart from completely sedating him, which is not recommended, it’s very upsetting to see an animal in such a state! If fireworks were only allowed to be set off one night for fireworks then I think I could cope but unfortunately they seem to go off days before fireworks night and days after. I do understand that it’s something children look forward to, mine did but maybe a compromise of only being allowed for one night could help.

My cat is absolutely petrified but I'd still not ask people not to let off fireworks although I do wish they weren't set off from begining of October through to end of November

It wouldn't be a problem if they were ones other than those that sound like a fucking bomb going off.

Agreed. Fireworks are just stupid.

@stillsomewhatsheldonesque

Stdg and schade

Thank you for last night.

Wish I could offer more comfort.

@biddybird

Guy Fawkes day was yesterday, so YABU.

The thread was started yesterday...