Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

No. Worst time of my life was when my partners business went bust leaving us with 100k of debt. It was hell on earth.

Then we got a new neighbour who raised a boundary dispute with us the day he moved in. The most vile, horrible man made us give up part of our garden because we couldn't afford to fight him.

sympathies moving, sympathies. The wolf at my door is a bit like that.

are you moving house at last?

I had some terrible years, primary school age, due to bullying.

As an adult... yeah this is probably the worst year so far. So I've had a pretty damn lucky adult life, now that you mention it.

"So I've had a pretty damn lucky adult life, now that you mention it."

good way to think of it.

Yes. Within 12 months, I have got divorced, lost my 1yr old daughter and my Dad. My daughter, a week into our lockdown (not UK). Couldn't have anyone with me and my 4yr old son. My mum couldn't even visit me. Friends couldn't visit me. 3 months seeing nobody but my ex husband, we divorced in November. Dealing with a 4yr olds bereavement as well as my own. I lost my dad in October. Hopefully I will be able to fly home for the funeral.

Having said that, I have had the time to work on myself, through therapy, exercise and nutrition. This, the worst year of my life by far, has had nothing to do with Covid.

Definitely not. It's been boring but I have my dh and dc and consider myself pretty lucky.

I've had much much shitter years than this, it doesn't even come close

Not even in the top 5

No, I had an abusive childhood and was suicidal after xh left. This year’s been lonely, but that’s all.

to all who have struggled.

@CheesyCheshireCat I’m so sorry to hear that

Almost exactly eleven years ago my mum rang me and asked 'Is DH with you?' before proceeding to tell me she had terminal cancer, she died less than two months later.

So no, this is not the worst year of my life. Not even close. My small DCs are driving me up the wall but I am grateful to be here with them every single day.

It's hard but it's not as bad as the year my brother died and we at to attend a trial. Or the year I suffered missed miscarriage then an op, followed by the same at the end of the year.

No, I've experienced much worse times and I think there'll be some harder years in the future as well.

@Greenbks sorry to hear of your loss.

It's been a rubbish year here. I've had the odd rubbish year but this one feels the worst to date.

Three family deaths close together. FIl and both my grandmas died during lockdown; my grandma dying only a few months since my grandad did). I never want to go through dealing with deaths and funerals in these ways again - not being allowed to see them before (fortunately MIL , DH and his brother managed to see FIL the day he died) was awful and the CV restrictions just made everything harder.

Exciting events were all cancelled - dd's 18th, her party, our last big holiday together (though hopefully we can rearrange that), her leaving school, prom, her exam results day was awful, made stressful because of the mess up and not rectified quick enough to balance everything out

Not being able to see family. Ive seen my parents 3 times since March - two of the times were only because of the funerals.

Then DD leaving for university and the related stresses of that - because of the covid restrictions. She went in tier 3, then we did. Now lockdown - all while she is away. Plus there's been stressful going ons for her with flat mates moving it, being on her own in a flat at 18y, etc -- fortunately not solved, for now at least.

Being stressed due to being EV, then going back to work was nice (school so great to be back with the children, etc) but stressful and lonely (work across school so not in a bubble, ate alone every day, etc.)

Then recently catching Covid (inevitable being at school) and a month later still recovering from it, still tired, still breathless when I do much, other complications that will probably now be with me for good.

I know I haven't had it as bad as many - our jobs are safe, we aren't financially impacted, etc. but I honestly can't wait to start a new year.

@Greenbks So sorry to hear of your loss

No. 2019 for my family and I.

April - I lost my Dad and the hospital trust is now under investigation for discharging a dying man twice, and pushing for a third time. The trust knew he was going to die from the get go, but failed to mention it to us.

September - We lost my Mum’s BF of many many years who was like a second Mum to me. Again, very suddenly.

October - My husband managed to cut the ends of 2 fingers off. In front of our 10 year old.

December - My husbands’s BF passed away of a really aggressive form of Cancer. He was only 28.

So to be honest Covid is like the icing on the cake.
18 months on I still can’t sleep, my hair’s coming out in clumps and I don’t know if i’m on my arse or my elbow.

BUT... I’m still here and so are my family. ❤️

No it's not. That would either be when my father committed suicide. Or actually, thinking about a whole year rather than an event, possibly when my children were very small and I just wasn't coping at all, but nobody really knew. I'm basically OK personally at the moment.

So sorry to read of those people having seriously bad times and so many losses. :(

Not by a long shot!

@Greenbks

Yes, I lost my son in February so I couldn’t give a toss about covid or anything else. I often wish I had non problems like the ppl you see on the news moan about like Christmas being cancelled or kids not being allowed out to play.

I haven’t complained since he died.

I am so very sorry

Yes it is. My partner is out of work due to Covid and my business is without a doubt going under due to it. We have a mortgage to pay and a young family, we was perfectly fine before Covid. We even had savings but Covid has been so long that it’s burnt through them now.

Reading some other posts though I realise whilst this is my worst year- that kind of makes me lucky.

Not for me thankfully. I had my rainbow baby in July after an infertility journey and much heartache. It's been a crazy year, but I wouldn't change any of it.

No. That would either be my childhood or the years I’ve lost relatives.

2020 has been pretty rubbish but it’s global and those who are ill or have lost relatives have it worse. Forgoing social events etc seems to pale in comparison to being bereaved imo.

Not even close to my worse year. My dad having dementia and moving into a care home then dying a year later. Feeling helpless and guilty for not being there more for him and my mum. If my mum wasn’t in her own now I wouldn’t mind lockdown at all.