Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

2019 for me. My adored mum died after a horrific four months in hospital. Haven't been able to release her ashes, since they need to be spread in France. 2020, although very challenging for my business, has been a breeze by comparison.

Nope. One of the best. I’ve lost a lot of weight, massively worked on my relationship with DH and improved it 1000%, cut my toxic parents out of my life, gained some independence from my children and have started taking care of myself and having fun again.

I honestly haven’t felt this happy in years.

Nope, the year my Mum died was the worst.
This year has been fine, a bit boring, but I quite not having pressure to be constantly running around filling my spare time up.

This year has been horrible due to Covid, but nowhere near as bad as some previous years.

The death of loved ones has made other years far worse.

I'm just so afraid that Covid is going to be the worst year for some because of the death of loved ones it has and will cause.

I hope that this year doesn't end up being my worst, and that I do not lose any more family, as I have very few remaining.....................

Absolutely not. Nothing bad has happened to me personally this year. I feel bad for those who have though. My worst year was 2005

I started reading page one until I got to Greenbks, who said it was the worst year due to the death of a son. I'm so sorry to read that, unfortunately it's the same for me.

My son died too in September. Suicide. Out of the blue.

I know this isn't a competition, but losing a child takes some beating and as the tears roll down my cheeks, I know my life will never, ever by the same again and that I just want 2020 to end for me and I don't care about 2021...

@Greenbks and @SausageCrush

I am sorry that this has been the year you have both had to live through such losses. Whilst there is no top trump with grief, I know that losing my mum recently was at least part of the "natural order" of life.

I am truly sorry for your losses and I hope you are both able to find some way to work through it x

@ThreenagerToTeenager

No. These problems are external, not internal. I’ll take that any day of the week.

Agreed. This year's been a bit rubbish but doesn't come anywhere close to when I had crippling PND and an abusive husband. I don't know how I survived those years TBH.

GreenBks, Ragamuffin, Sausage and everyone else who has lost a child or other loved one

Sorry for everyone on here who hasn't had a good year.

Covid has made me a lot more grateful for my DP and my life in general as it has been a 'good' year in comparison to many. The first lockdown left us relatively unscathed, but now DP has been moved to a Covid ward I feel very anxious about what could happen to him.

Generally, I also feel like shit everytime I read about more job losses in the news. What a horrible year for so many.

I decided this was the worst year of my life before covid was even around. Covid is just the piss gravy on the turd which is 2020.

Yes, in December my husband assaulted me and I planned to leave. Ended up leaving after having to call the police in January when he found out I was leaving. Just about started a social life and having fun when lockdown began. He has been a thorn in my side thanks to his uselessness, refusal to progress the divorce, denying the physical, emotional, verbal and financial abuse as well as his coercive control. I still have a police marker on the house. Plus in the last year 3 friends have died of cancer.

I suppose I could look on the bright side and say I'm now getting free of him, but the pandemic really doesn't help.

Not in the slightest no

SausageCrush so sorry for your loss. . Have you been in touch with SOBS who specialise in this. There is no loss so great as a child. My sister lost her only son and we're still reeling at it as a family. Losing someone to suicide just adds a further trauma of the waste of it. I really feel for you and hope you're getting support xx

Nope, not even the second or third hardest. Its stressful worrying irritating and confining. But not my hardest year hy a long shot.

I agree OP. As awful as it has been for many people, especially those who have fallen ill, I have a new baby, so slouching around with pjs on and not worrying about people turning up has been lovely. I have 2 older children and I have really enjoyed the time spent with them when they weren't at school. I chose not to tell them off if they didnt do schoolwork, just to enjoy this time, but got up really early with them, got as much done as I could get done in the morning using sweets and bribery, then relaxed all afternoon with them all. I actually think they learned loads more at home. The house went to pot, it hasn't recovered, but I don't care. I'm looking forward to a (hopefully) quiet Christmas when, for once, I don't have to cook for an additional 10 family members. I am hoping for a lockdown over Christmas. Sorry to everyone about that x

No, this year has been weird but ok for me.

Worst was when I was 16, being horrendously bullied in school and suffering flashbacks to sexual abuse. That was hell. For me, personally, the current situation is a minor inconvenience.

I'd say its possibly the lowest I have felt mentally but wouldnt say it was the worst year to be honest. My late teens and early twenties were really pretty hard and although this has been tough we have our health, children, jobs etc to be thankful for and have had some good times this year.

@SausageCrush

I started reading page one until I got to Greenbks, who said it was the worst year due to the death of a son. I'm so sorry to read that, unfortunately it's the same for me.

My son died too in September. Suicide. Out of the blue.

I know this isn't a competition, but losing a child takes some beating and as the tears roll down my cheeks, I know my life will never, ever by the same again and that I just want 2020 to end for me and I don't care about 2021...

Greenbks and sausagecrush - God I am so so sorry xx I am crying reading your posts - I just cannot imagine it - I will not ever complain about this lockdown, you have put so many things in perspective xxxx

MonicaBelulaGellar hope something good happens for you

Haha, no. This year hasn't been great at all, but it was nothing compared to 2012/2013 when my mental health was so bad that I nearly ended my life twice.

"ThreenagerToTeenager
No. These problems are external, not internal. I’ll take that any day of the week."

That is so well put. We have a "wolf at the door" (almost literally). It's incredibly distressing, risking my career, but it's not health or family.

Nope. 2002 was way worse on a personal level. Undiagnosed crohn's for 9 months, in and out of hospitals, down to 35 kg (as an adult), lost job, lost the will to live. No money, living off parents and not being to go anywhere because of loo issues....
And got told that I will never have children.
Thank god the last bit is not true as I'm wrangling with a teenager by now.
So compared to that, 2020 is actually not that bad.

Definitely is the worst I've ever experienced, and it all started on Jan 1st - and has progressively got worse. Covid-aside, it's literally been one shit thing after another.

not even close.

despite everything external, including actually having covid and losing some people close to my family, personally it's the best year I've had for a while.

Feeling valued at work, losing weight, making new friends and seeing my old ones and being on solid-ish ground again after my mental health was badly affected by meds for a long term condition is making this a year where I have a lot to be thankful for, despite all the issues.

All I need now is to pass the professional exam I sat in Sept and to meet a nice man!