Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

Sadly, yes, which is awful because I had my DS this year and he is amazing. But my Dad is seriously ill and so I’ve not been able to see my parents or have them spend time with my son; my company is on the brink of insolvency and I’ve had to make a number of close friends redundant now I’m back at work (and am facing the same myself); and as an extrovert I’ve really missed social interaction and general support with having a new baby. I’m also petrified of getting the virus and so have followed social distancing strictly, which rules out half the fun activities everyone else I know did this summer. Essentially I’ve spent the year sitting in the house crying. Spoke to the doctor and she says it’s totally situational so no medical help on offer. Then I come on mumsnet and everyone is so nasty about new mums feeling isolated I don’t know why I bother.

Avii

It’s been a bastard of a year and it’s rapidly going further down the toilet but I’ve had worse. This too shall pass.

Nowhere near my worst.

No.

It's been the first year of my first and only child's life and I've fucking loved it.

No. Wish it was. It's shitty but I've had catastrophically worse years.

Nope 2019 was and I hadn't got over it when 2020 decided to turn everything upside down.

It's not been my worst but definitely up there with almost. Both myself and my husband are self employed so we lost all income from April. We did end up getting help though and got through it financially and now are doing better. Mentally and emotionally we were in a bad place. The worst was seeing what it did to our children. My dd had exams cancelled. We had only just finished trying on prom dresses and all that had been arranged and looked forward to to. For her and the mess in her education that is still ongoing now, has affected her badly. My youngest deteriorated week after week being off school. Horrible to see him suffer. He is back to normal almost now but gets anxious more than he used to and stammers a bit. I'm very lucky in that no one in my family has been very ill or worse.
But this year has made me reassess life. I work less hours now, appreciate things much more, really am drawn to my local nature reserve areas that kept me sane throughout lockdown. And holidays. I won't take for granted again. I'm still a mess at times and had a bit of a breakdown just last week but I know I'll get there in the end and have a lot to be grateful for. Family matters so much and this year has definitely made that stand out more than ever.

No, in all honesty it's been my best year yet.

I'm in my third trimester with a baby that I never thought I'd have due to years of issues and have just bought our first house.

I hate what is going on in the world but for us personally, it has been a year or miracles.

Not all all. Things are a bit 'meh' and boring and I miss being able to see my mum who's in a care home but this is definitely not the worst year of my life .

However I think that if this had happened a couple of years ago on top of what I was dealing with at that time it would have broken me.

No. Far from it.

Yes.

Sadly no. 2 years ago someone I love very much broke our hearts by doing something which means our family will be broken for ever.

Nope, not so far. I've had worse. But not everyone's experience will be the same, so for some it will be the worst I suppose.

I am so bored though and a bit chubby and lethargic too now. That's annoying, but not life destroying.

If I'd lost family members I might say different.

No, not by a long shot.

My heart goes out to Greenbks. I lost my husband of 53 years to cancer in April after three long dreadful years. So far I have gone through his birthday, our anniversary, my birthdays days ago and soon Christmas without him.

Losing someone you love, and nothing is worse than losing a child, most certainly alters the way you view and think of life.

I too am not bothered about COVID, just being sensible and careful. I remember Christmas past when it would be full on jollies for days leading up to and beyond, holidays, etc etc etc now it all seems so irrelevant.

Believe me, the truest saying is “Life goes on” but it is not the same for me after 2020. So yes this has been the worst year.

Since my husband died I have had to sell our house and move into rented property... but that’s another thread....

I fully respect people have worries and many concerns but we must decide what is really important and what is not.

I will not be sorry to see the end of the worst year of my life but try to look forward to better times ahead,

Its the worst year of my life because it is almost surely my last. Bucket list all cancelled because of Covid, so everyone moaning about lockdown etc please remember that it is possibly one year out of your life and you will be hopefully having many more

The year I became ill and was diagnosed with a life changing and lifelong illness and disability at 19 was definitely worse especially as I got to do that alone, and most people didn't get what I was going through.
Or the year of my late miscarriage.
Don't get me wrong this year hasn't been much fun, it's been exhausting, boring and frustrating and scary but not the worst year.

Last year was very significantly worse. This year is an absolutely massive improvement. Hoping for better again next year!

Not by a long shot. We live bang centre if Salisbury Plain, so life hasn't changed much.
I didn't work through LD1 as I'm a very part time nanny and boss is a teacher.
Did miss seeing DS, DDIL and DGD, but have seen them this time now as I look after DGD at weekends while they work.

DH is a Prison Officer so has worked throughout.

1991 though.
First I miscarried in the January.
DM who had cancer and had been reacting well to treatment, suddenly took a down turn.
I got pregnant again in the June, so that was good.

11TH November DM died.
10TH December I gave birth at 28 weeks to DD, who died shortly after.
Found out Ex was having an affair Christmas Eve.
Was divorced by the March.