Does anyone else find adults on the swings ridiculous?

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Can't really explain why but I find parents who go on the swings at the park so annoying. Just been to the park with my child and the swings are six swings on a wooden frame all facing each other like in a circle.
Extremely annoying dad on the swings going as high as possibly can and nearly kicking all the other kids feet every time he goes into the circle. Like why would anyone feel the need to do that. Especially when other kids have to wait a turn. Don't mind being told I'm miserable but I just find it ridiculous grown man acting like that, that is all.

I love a swing! My mum and I used to go to the local park at night to have a swing. I was late teens, she was in her 60s

Sadly the swings round here are shite (for grown up sized children).

YABU. I don’t even have kids but I love going on swings if I ever pass through an empty park. When I was at uni the local soft play place used to open in the evening once a week for adults and it was INCREDIBLE. I wish there was an adult soft play near me now tbh

@Halliehallie9828 what's wrong with sitting at the table for an hour at soft play? I'm with my kids 24/7 as a single parent never get a break from them. That is the point of soft play, so they can go off and play with other kids. Imagine if every parent got in too god there'd be no room for the kids! Happy to sit on my phone for an hour and give the occasional wave when I interact with my child for the rest of the day 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yabu ok your example is a dad but sometimes it may be someone with learning difficulties for instance. We had a very rude woman say we were breaking the local bylaw as the kids play area was for under 12's - admittedly there was a sign but that in its self is discriminatory, we were pushing dp's dd who is profoundly disabled and it's one of her few pleasures on the disabled swing! I've written to the council and my mp about the notice, they haven't responded. If people want to swing and don't break any weight restrictions (for safety) then why shouldn't they?

I go on the swings, Shute and to the soft play to play with my kids more so when they were first going and not so much now. I'll also go into the trampoline park with them.
If we're with other families pre covid, I'd sit with the other parents. Each to their own.
Id never make another child wait and wouldn't be on a swing if the park was busy.

Nothing wrong with using the swings, it is fun (unless there are children in queue) find your inner child, your dc might enjoy you participating and enjoying yourself .

It’s selfish of kids are waiting. Very common in Scotland I found to have adults on play equipment, on the bouncy pillow in children’s farms etc was very odd.

well first of all you said some of us like to join in and not let our kids run around.. thanks for the drip feed. My kid has ASD and ADHD and I still can wave at her whilst I'm drinking my coffee. No need to be so judgy

Sound like the problem is you think everyone should be like you and parent the same way you do, and assume because your child is able to be sent away to play for an hour that it means all others should. You child's special needs not needing you be support him doesn't make your parenting superior or that all children with the same special needs can do the same. It's funny you telling someone off for judging when it's you judging the person you're replying to that made her feel she had to disclose her child's special needs.

@allfallsdown there was a dad in the playground the other day who was trying to ‘exercise’ whilst looking after his child. It was total cringe. At one point he tries to pull himself up on the monkey bars but couldn’t. I was so glad I was there with a friend so we could have a giggle because my description doesn’t do the reality justice. At one point his child was asking for his dad to push the roundabout. The dad was attempting pushups against the climbing wall...

[quote ImMoana]@allfallsdown there was a dad in the playground the other day who was trying to ‘exercise’ whilst looking after his child. It was total cringe. At one point he tries to pull himself up on the monkey bars but couldn’t. I was so glad I was there with a friend so we could have a giggle because my description doesn’t do the reality justice. At one point his child was asking for his dad to push the roundabout. The dad was attempting pushups against the climbing wall...[/quote]
This is the exact kind of dad I witnessed this morning. His kids were shouting "dad push me" but he was too busy trying to go the highest he could, was ridiculous

One of my fondest memories is swinging on some swings at Center Parcs with my MIL, we had such a good time. We got the giggles.

I also find parents that go in soft play really annoying too, down slides and tunnels etc. No need imo

There is actually a soft play that has adult nights and teenagers nights so that everyone gets a turn. It has a death slide where it is almost a vertical drop. It does knacker you out though. But an absolute joy to rampage through a soft play with your children, sliding through horizontal rollers like a mangle, climbing cargo nets, complaining how much your feet hurt at the end and how much your body aches the next day but what a blast.

So basically OP you HATE SEEING people PARENT PROPERLY?

You hate seeing people interacting with their child, communicating with them, teaching them things, having fun.

You hate the fact another parent is putting in more effort than your lazy self can be bothered to.

Your poor children.

You'd rather shoo them off for an hour and sit on your phone.

Our neighbour's MIL frequently pops by and goes on her DD's swingset when no one is home I reckon neighbour doesn't know about it. The MIL looks very relaxed while she has a little swing. Equally weird and sweet.

@Dozycuntlaters

YABU and a bit of a fun sponge. I love going on a swing sometimes although I wouldn't go on one when there are kids waiting. However, if I was in a park and there were empty swings I would have a go, takes me back to being a kid, nothing ridiculous about that at all. Maybe give it a go yourself, bring out your inner child :)

Same!

I always check there aren’t other kids who would like a turn or would be waiting, if any approach I come off ASAP and I am always very away of children I might swing into it toddlers that could run in front of behind the swing

what's wrong with sitting at the table for an hour at soft play? I'm with my kids 24/7 as a single parent never get a break from them. That is the point of soft play, so they can go off and play with other kids. No, that's why you personally go. Not all people are you. Some people go to places like parks and soft play to have fun with their child,

Imagine if every parent got in too god there'd be no room for the kids! Happy to sit on my phone for an hour and give the occasional wave when I interact with my child for the rest of the day

Just as well everyone's not the same then. If all parents did what you did then nobody would see the pushing and bullying that often happens in these places, children who aren't verbal or have different abilities to your child can't play the same way, some families don't have all day to interact and trips out is their family time. They don't want to spend their trips to their park playing in their phone because they do that at other times.

I don't go on the soft play but neither did I sit and play on my phone only looking up occasionally. I've witnessed children of parents doing this get into fights with other parents when their child has hurt another and the parent on their phone has got angry at the hurt child's parent either telling theirs off for hitting and pushing or because she thinks her child would never do that. I've seen this three times but I'm not so judgemental as to think you'd behave the same way just because you didn't see your child hurting another on purpose.

He should get off if dc are waiting. Fair enough if it's deserted

Yabu about having a shot but not unreasonable if children are waiting the adult should get off and give them it.

Boooooo!!! YABVU. There is no age limit on swings. You can still have fun as an adult. Lighten up.

The OP must be exhausted going through life looking for minor things at which to take offence. If there are no children waiting what harm is being done?

I'm 30 and love a good go on the swings (obviously when there isn't a child waiting)

The only swing user who had ever pissed me off is Pando. "Oooonnee... twooooo..."

I love a go on the swings. They are tons of fun and best thing on the park. But. I wouldn't hog them so the kids don't get to play. But if ones going begging I'm having a go