New man and Instagram

[jennyfromthedocks]

Please help me
Make sense of my feelings and whether I am being unreasonable .
Seeing a new man for the last few months. All going incredibly well. We have mutual feelings and are enjoying the first flushes of a new relationship. We are both late 40's.
We are now friends on social media.
I noticed that he follows a few women who are quite sexy, scantily dressed etc . He has liked and commented on one of these women in the past. Not since we have met .
I am upset. I think I
Am upset because I didn't think he was creepy or a sleaze. He has wonderful
Relationships with his sisters, mother, daughters etc .
I have told him that this is a dealbreaker for
Me . He is very apologetic and has deleted those few accounts . Am I nuts or reasonable ?
This is so new to me after a long marriage which ended after exh affair .
Thanks everyone .

I agree OP - I don’t follow people I don’t know, and then comment on their attractiveness - and I find it a bit odd when people do. I too would probably lose a bit of respect for them.

I would try and get past it if he’s great in other ways.

But she linked him liking women on social,media to her ex cheating on her. She didn't like his social media activities, he appeased her by deleting it all, but she's still not satisfied. When will she be? What on earth does he have to do to "prove" himself.

And excuse me, but being cheated on is a common occurrence, it's not something that should leave you "traumatised" 😒
And if OP is feeling that way, she should let him go

OP have you completed the Freedom Programme?
Don't date anyone until you're ready. You're obviously not.

I left a coercive and controlling man six years ago. And it's on,y now that I feel ready for anything serious.
You need more recovery time