Ginger & worried about the future.

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Our gorgeous toddler Dd has red/ginger hair, she’s very pale, with blue eyes and barely there eyebrows and eyelashes.
We’re both dark haired, with tanned skin and blue eyes, our girl doesn’t really look like us yet. Where we are (not in the uk) ginger hair is seen as very unusual and special, but we plan to move back to the uk in the next few years. I have a red headed friend who was bullied for years. When I look at my sweet, innocent girl, I feel fearful for the way she might be treated in a few years.
Anyone else have a red headed child? Is her colouring likely to change at this stage (2.4 months old)
Her hair and colouring is stunning and special to us, but people can be arseholes in life and I feel sad if she’ll have to encounter that.

I'm in the SE and dd 13 has never been bullied or had any unkindness at her primary school or comp or in the street. My sister didn't either growing up

I dont really think this is a thing now. I dont hear the younger generation calling people out for ginger hair. its actually people in my life who are in theirs 40s/50s who still call me and my sister "ginge" or "gingerbiscuit" so I think your daughter will be okay.

I'm 36 with red hair. I was teased a bit about it at school, but nothing beyond gentle teasing. I got badly bullied for being fat but the hair wasn't a thing.

I agree it's not really a thing among younger people. Probably more older, thick people

A lot of the bullying came after Southpark and the gingers have no souls on there also Keith Lemon but as they've gone out of favour the comments have . I have red hair and my husband 6 sons also ! I have never been bullied I think boys get it more but my sons just find it hilarious. In fact one with a red headed gf had a t shirt saying ginger preservation society and people came up to him thinking it was a real organisation!

Really not a thing. Red hair is stunning and seen as beautiful in my friendship group.

It really is a lot less bullied than it used to be. However it still gets noticed and still gets attention. That can be an issue - if there is shit from men going around red heads will get it.

My boyfriend is ginger, he's 25, says he's never once been bullied for being a redhead and we're fingers crossed as we hope all our kids will be ginger too!

It's one of my most loved parts of him, his hair is so bloody gorgeous unlike my boring brown. I'd kill for hair like his.

Don't see it as a negative, teach her to know it is beautiful and rare and that bully's are just looking to cause trouble. Let her watch Merida and the Little Mermaid. Make sure she knows her hair is special.

I’m ginger. Loads of my family are. Was never bullied or even commented on, but then we’re all pretty feisty, so if anyone had tried when I was little (maybe they did) I doubt they’d have done it twice.

My niece is a gentler soul and we called her out little gingernut, ginge etc from being tiny as a nickname. I was there in her first week of school when a wee boy ran up and shouted “haha, gingernut...” at her. She fixed him with a bemused expression and said, “yeah... what?” He was confused, not the reaction he wanted, said “oh, wanna play?” The two have been firm friends since and are now late teens.

Teach her to love herself and to only care about opinions from people she cares about. Anyone else can do one. If she’s secure it’ll shine through. I love being ginger!

I'm ginger and I was bullied at school because of it, but it was only in secondary school and for a brief time. Kids can be cruel though, and if it's not because her hair is red, it could be something (anything) else.
As I've gotten older, I receive more compliments about my hair than I ever have, and have had friends around me try to dye their hair the exact shade mine is without success.
What I mean to say is that she will be fine, she will definitely grow to love how special her hair is, and she should be proud to be ginger! It took me longer than it should have to feel that way :)

I think long, red hair on a girl is stunning. DD had copper reddish hair when she was born but it has gradually turned to a dark blonde/light brown. I wish it had stayed as it was.

My best friend and her girls have the most amazing red hair.

She was bullied at school but her girls never have been. Hopefully it’s a thing of the past.

My babies were both born with ginger hair, brows and lashes, green eyes, freckles, the whole caboodle.

By around 5 years old one had much darker chestnut hair, the other fair/light brown hair. Both still have significant redhead highlights now they’re older.

These photos show one around age 4 and then at 11. Hair colour def changes as they grow older.

Don’t know there they got the colouring from. I am natural jet black with grey eyes, their father is medium brown with green eyes. But my mother is a redhead.

For what it’s worth, there’s kudos in standing out from the crowd nowadays.

Can you move to Scotland?
I love red hair. But I'd be a bit worried about the fair skin in ever hotter weather - more than about bullying.

I'm a redhead and I love my hair. I only ever get compliments. In fact it seems to attract a lot of men ... hahaha
I have never had a bad remark about my hair colour - certainly no bullying.

Bullying doesn’t happen as much anymore as people / schools are so much more aware of it. Plus most children are taught to be very tolerant of anyone that looks different to them. Well they are where I live anyway. This is the ‘woke’ generation!

I was bright ginger and brown eyed as a child. My hair has got darker. Now it's auburn and everyone compliments my hair. People are envious

Red hair is absolutely beautiful.

Karen Gillan.
Julia Roberts
Nicola Roberts
Natasha from atomic kitten.
Julianne more

Do some googling. Red hair is absolutely stunning. I've been called ginger a couple of times. But who cares.

There's always something to be bullied about.

This is my natural hair now.

That's probably blurry. But trying to show you the shade.

I'm a ginge and did not want ginger children especially boys. Luckily ds 1 is blond but still pale and ds 2 is brown and tans easy like his dad.

I have accepted my hair as I've gotten older - all the hairdressers say what a gorgeous colour it is. I'm now 48 with no grey hair. One bonus of being a red head however the pale freckly skin I cannot stand.

I’m ginger. Very early 40s now so school feels a long way off and it was a bit of a thing when I was at school but not horrifically so. There are upsides though definitely. I’ve never had people struggle to remember who I am. Lots and lots of people have approached me over the years to tell me how beautiful my hair is - way more than abuse (been some of that too - and being shouted at from vans in the street which was pretty horrid as a a teenager). I do remember being sad about a ‘compliment’ as a teenager being told I was the prettiest redhead they’d met. Not another species FFS!
Had a lot of male attention and boyfriends over the years so that’s never been a problem and if anything that has just increased as I’ve got older. You have to watch out for the men who have a thing for redheads though - had to brush a few of them off in pubs and clubs over the years.
I have just started to get a few white hairs at my temples and I’m genuinely gutted. Never dyed my hair ever so not looking forward to that. Sounds like a complete ballache.

I was pale blonde as a baby and child, gradually darkened to dark brown as I aged.

Both my dc the same.

I longed to be ginger (not in UK)

My DP is 32 and a red head, he was never bullied.
My DD is 16 months and a red head, we only ever get compliments about her hair.

I hope times have changed but I doubt they have. People havent.

It will depend a lot on her personality too. If she is popular and outgoing she will get less stick. But she might be bullied, yes.

There isn't much you can do about this except raise her with good self-esteem. Maybe she will be fine, maybe not. Just be there for her.

I’m a redhead with a mop of curly auburn hair and apart from being called carrots at school I’ve never had a problem. The only issue I’ve had is getting burnt to shit on holiday altho all my freckles come out. I have to use total sun block.