Ginger & worried about the future.

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Our gorgeous toddler Dd has red/ginger hair, she’s very pale, with blue eyes and barely there eyebrows and eyelashes.
We’re both dark haired, with tanned skin and blue eyes, our girl doesn’t really look like us yet. Where we are (not in the uk) ginger hair is seen as very unusual and special, but we plan to move back to the uk in the next few years. I have a red headed friend who was bullied for years. When I look at my sweet, innocent girl, I feel fearful for the way she might be treated in a few years.
Anyone else have a red headed child? Is her colouring likely to change at this stage (2.4 months old)
Her hair and colouring is stunning and special to us, but people can be arseholes in life and I feel sad if she’ll have to encounter that.

To be honest i don't think people are so negative about red hair anymore. My children have friends with ginger hair and none of them have been bullied

Most UK primary schools are very supportive environments these days. Not much bullying goes on. If it does its usually unintentional. I've never seen kids being teased about their hair colour/wearing glasses/being overweight/ special needs as they were when i was at primary school n the 80s. Your DD sounds beautiful. There are lots of redheads here anyway so she will have good company. :-)

I have 2 red headed boys, although both of them say they don't like their hair, they have never been bullied, I think they just feel they stand out more which is why they don't like it. But if it wasn't hair colour, I'm sure it'd be something else... Girls in particular can add shades to their hair as they get older if they want too but if you're positive to her about the colour then that attitude and self confidence will rub off on her too. I get it though as I had the same concerns

My 19 year old has never been bullied, long red hair & blue eyes. She has never been a target because of her hair, actually the exactly the opposite, she has been very much admired for her hair and looks. Maybe bullying of this nature was the case 30 years ago in the playground but happily, certainly in our experience, times have changed. We made sure as her parents that her self esteem was high and that she was raised to be proud of her hair and heritage (Irish)

What a sad OP. Posts like this will keep feeding the nonsense that people with ginger hair are some how less. Make a stand. Assume all will be well. Stop feeding the crap.

My youngest was ginger when he was about 1. He is now 5 and blonde. For what it's worth none of my kids have ever commented on their ginger school friends hair . It's just not a thing.

DD (15) wishes she had red hair and pale skin because it's the 'coolest'.

Redhead here- apart from the odd comment at school growing up, thankfully I was never bullied for my hair colour. Now in my 20s I absolutely adore my hair and the compliments that come with it. I’m sure your girl will grow up to be gorgeous and appreciate her natural hair.

I am not a redhead, sadly, but one of my best friends is. I don’t think she was ever bullied. I went to school with her and we all thought her hair was beautiful.

My DC is one of several redheads in her class. They call themselves "the gingers". Don't think there has ever been any bullying. Our main problem is that well meaning people will often come up to her in the street and compliment her on her beautiful hair. She suffers from anxiety and possible ASD so this can really upset her sometimes.

My son was quite ginger but has brown hair now.

He was bullied, but not because of his hair. He was bullied because he was very short until he was about 14. And heightism is still acceptable discrimination.

I really have no idea what the issue is with red hair, it's so lovely! Envy?

I don't think girls are bullied as much for it. It definitely doesn't impair them when dating as women IMHO. Whereas ginger men maybe aren't seen as quite as attractive as non-gingers, IDK.

Lots of gingers in my family, all proud of the fact. My DDs best friend is ginger, so is her brother, their mum (Also ginger) has told me they have never had an issue with it. My cousins little girl has the most awesome ginger hair and so so beautiful. I don’t think kids get teased for having ginger hair like they use to do.

My brother has ginger hair and it seemed to be more the freckles and the patches of pigment that got comments ( like solid joined up freckles that got him noticed. However he was sort of famous for it at school and quite a comedian.)

Ginger hair does seem to be more desirable for girls. Freckles I don't know they do fade as you age.

Another friend is very ginger, no freckles and her hair is stunning.

My daughter had dark brown hair until about 4 months and now has white blonde hair. So baby hair can change.

I must admit I was worried my kids might be ginger. It's a sad thing to say, but having had Ginger parents and a brother I do think it gets a lot of attention in the UK, not all positive ☹️

Don’t make this into some giant thing. I’m in my mid fifties and ginger. I get far more compliments about my hair than I have ever had negative, and even those were just friendly ribbing. Honestly please don’t start imagining your kid is going to have some awful life because of her colouring.
Teach her to be strong and resilient and confident in her own skin( like you should teach all kids basically)

I have red hair as did my mother. I have 3 children - a boy and 2 girls. My son inherited my red hair. I can honestly say he was never bullied because of it (neither was I - i'm in my 50s). My son is in his 30s now and sometimes his friends tease him about it - posting his photo on FB on Kiss a Ginger Day etc - but it is all good-humoured and has never been a problem in our family.
My hair colour is fading now and I have it coloured red as I'm so attached to the colour. Occasionally i go a different colour but always come back to red because it's who I am

I am a 55 year old redhead. I spent years being bullied about my hair and that included my family. I was the only one to have red hair. I dyed it blonde from 20 to 40 when I finally embraced my natural shade. It upsets me to this day that it is ok to bully redheads.

The bullying I received has blighted my life! I totally hate my looks and no matter how much my wonderful husband tells me he loves my hair/freckles I will always hate my looks.

I'm a redhead and was fiercely bullied BUT I absolutely love my hair and pale skin now and wouldn't change it for the world! Also there are way way way more models and actresses with red hair that people look up to and think are beautiful. There is also more of a culture of acceptance and not picking on someone because of the way they look (or at least its a culture we are striving for). Prepare for the bullying but certainly don't worry yourself silly about it. Just be there for her should she need you

as a red head , i have found out that the UK is a horrible place to live, you have to have very thick skin up till you are about 16 its really bad.I never felt bullied but got fed up of it all. People think red heads have a temper!and wonder why

My friends DD was bullied at school for her red hair. She just stood up to them.

One of my DD's school friends has red hair. It was very orange when she was a toddler. It's now darkish ginger.

My son is 12, his best friend is ginger, he has always been the most popular child in the class, and apparently now very popular with the girls.
I always thought the jokes about ginger kids were just jokes, as everyone knows that actually red hair is the most desirable colour?

In my social circles I would say there's a stigma about not wanting a child to have red hair. I don't know why. It's just like brown hair to me, very ordinary.

If you have the choice where to go come to Scotland - I've never heard anti-ginger sentiments here.

I am a redhead, pale with freckles in my 30s and was bullied at school. They did weaponise the ginger but I was also a bit of an odd child and others with my colouring did fine.

People love it as an adult. Hairdressers always comment. Romantic partners like it. A fellow female student at uni once told me she would stare at all the colours in it when she sat behind me at lectures.

My lg was red head when born, hair/eyelashes and eyebrows. Beautiful, but we were surprised as no redheads in our family. She started turning blonde just over a year old and has stayed that way!