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Ginger & worried about the future.

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Noimusntforget · 28/10/2020 15:54

Our gorgeous toddler Dd has red/ginger hair, she’s very pale, with blue eyes and barely there eyebrows and eyelashes.
We’re both dark haired, with tanned skin and blue eyes, our girl doesn’t really look like us yet. Where we are (not in the uk) ginger hair is seen as very unusual and special, but we plan to move back to the uk in the next few years. I have a red headed friend who was bullied for years. When I look at my sweet, innocent girl, I feel fearful for the way she might be treated in a few years.
Anyone else have a red headed child? Is her colouring likely to change at this stage (2.4 months old)
Her hair and colouring is stunning and special to us, but people can be arseholes in life and I feel sad if she’ll have to encounter that.

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BigBigPumpkin · 02/11/2020 11:39

@Childrenofthestones

Red haired men can't even donate sperm, as sperm banks everywhere, including the world's largest one in Denmark, are rejecting them because there is no call for it. That tells you all you need to know about the general attitude in society towards red hair.

Well, it is a mutation that results in a higher risk of skin cancer. Why would you opt for it in your child?
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contrmary · 02/11/2020 11:46

I think it's a cyclical thing, go back twenty years and bullying ginger people was rife. It's at a lower level nowadays but will probably come back in a generation or so. Children react against what their parents did, hence the lower levels of bullying, the tolerance of LGBQTI+ issues, BLM, avoidance of binge drinking than were normal and accepted in the 1990s. When the current generation of children grow up, their own kids will be the opposite again, so I would anticipate more anti-ginger sentiment.

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BlueTitsRock · 02/11/2020 11:55

I think you need to get a grip and rather than worry about the future because of red hair, instill some confidence in your DD.

Red hair is beautiful.

FWIW, I am a readhead and freckled. I was never bullied about it. Pretty much the opposite. I used to get loads of compliments.

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BlueTitsRock · 02/11/2020 11:55

gah, redhead, not readhead!

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ISpeakBecauseICan · 02/11/2020 12:51

Both my DC (primary school age) have beautiful red hair but neither of them have been bullied for it 😊

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