to be annoyed that it's my job to remember the birthdays of DH's family members?

[JoshandJamie]

Tomorrow is DH's sister's birthday. It's my sister's birthday the day after. I remembered my sisters and got her a card and have sent it off in good time as she lives abroad. However, I just looked at the calendar and realised that it's DH's sister's birthday tomorrow and I've completely forgotten it (but then again I didn't grow up with her and barely see her now so why would I remember it). And I know DH would completely forget it. So now in my already ridiculously busy day, I'm going to need to dash out, get a card, come up with something scintillating to say and post it (which means a trip to the post office as I have no stamps).

Why is this my job?

[grannyslippers]

Don't know if YABU, but you are not alone.

Was thinking of buying all the year's cards in one go at the 50p card shop and addressing them now, to save the hassle. is that awful.

What makes it worse is that DH's parents and aunts/uncles are scrupulous about remembering My birthday!

[Lizzzombie]

Have just finished writing his mothers birthday card now. Am such a good DiL (to be)!

I have reminded DP to buy her a birthday present for this weekend but I'll eat my hat if he remembers!

[rebelmum1]

Definitely a good idea to get a box of cards! shit that reminds me its my dad's on 19th!

[rebelmum1]

My brother just got a text on the 10th!

[Lizzzombie]

Granny - thats a fab idea.
Wish we had a 50p card shop. I'd save a fortune.

[rebelmum1]

Thank God for Amazon

[rebelmum1]

What's a 50p card shop?

[rebelmum1]

I was going to make my own but the card kist and envelopes end up costing as much.

[minesalargeone]

I did a lovely cross stitched card for my Mum one Xmas....she loved it and put it on her mantlepiece. She gave it back to me the following Xmas with her name crossed out and mine put in its place. I didn't know whether to be grateful or not!!!

[captainmummy]

I don't do birthday cards, but the other day an old lady friend of MIL died, and I (who have met her once) had to write a card of sympathy. Not DH, who knows her much better. Mil assumed it was my job.

[covenhope]

I made a point of never asking when the ILs birthdays are. When it gets to the right month I say "isn't it your mum's/ brother's/ dad's birthday soon?" and leave it at that. If he can't be bothered, neither can I.

What really bugs me is that I always bought presents for his brothers' children (and remembered to post them etc) until after they were 18. Then I stopped, because the family doesn't buy for adults. They instantly stopped sending to our kids who are a lot younger....

But yes I am blamed because it's my job apparently

[helenhismadwife]

I dont do it for dh family he is very good at remembering and chooses better cards than I would, I have enough trouble remembering for my half of the family

[minesalargeone]

I just don't bother with dh's family....that way they don't both with me and my family...and what you don't receive you don't have to say thank you for! Suits me!

[WideWebWitch]

I don't get this, whyever would I remember dh's family's birthdays? THat's up to him. I'm not his PA.

[rebelmum1]

tee hee I like your style minesalargeone

[rebelmum1]

Don't encourage them! They'll only want to come and stay ..

[minesalargeone]

exactly WWW - my dh only just remembers my birthday and as for our kids birthdays....yea he may remember them but he needs a calculator to remember how old they are! But in all the years I've been with him (almost 20) he's yet to go out and buy a card or present for anyone for his family.....

I can remember back to when we'd not long been married and he bought me the following for my birthday: a hot water bottle, a chopping board, tea coffee sugar cannisters and a Soldier Soldier video! I've never forgiven him and still remind him to this day...

[rebelmum1]

I got a frying pan, dustbin and bottle of chanel .. I don't get my hopes up anymore

[minesalargeone]

And aren't men crap at wrapping presents? DH gets through a whole roll of sellotape, is rubbish at doing corners and as for cards I get the same old tosh written inside them. What is the point?

[minesalargeone]

Oi Rebel - your dh and mine related by any chance?!!!

[minesalargeone]

The one and only time he bought me underwear I threw it back at him - it was a hammock style bra with a pair of 'hold you in' knickers....ok, so I'm not a size zero but honestly. He took it all back, got some vouchers and I spent them on the kids!

[rebelmum1]

I have affinity with you minesalargeone - I just deter the situation now and point out what I want! I even ordered it myself this year! I'm half in mind to go away next year for a night with the girls, just to punctuate things. I've stopped bothering with him now though and almost enjoyed watching his disappointment

[Maudy]

DP stayed with his sister all last week while working in London. Her birthday was on Saturday. Did he buy her a card? A present? No, I bought one this weekend and he took it back with him on Sunday.

Its not that i mind buying her one as we are good friends anyway but its the fact that he was there, in her house and it didn't even cross his mind.

[blueshoes]

If my in-laws expected me, and not dh, to be the one to organise cards and gifts for them, I won't do it out of principle. Tis an outdated sexist attitude to expect the wife to do it.