I've hurt my friend's feelings?

[LittleMermaidRose]

I have an extremely needy friend that I've posted about before, I'll call her "Christy", who do I still keep in contact with but I have distanced myself from her a lot, as she has become increasingly selfish and emotionally draining. I have always supported her through everything but she hasn't been there for me when I needed her.

"Christy" has just told me that I have hurt her feelings deeply and made her feel like I don't care about her - this because I went out for coffee last week with another friend, "Marie".

What she doesn't know, is that this coffee date wasn't planned. "Marie" actually surprised me after work, as I had mentioned to her that I'd been having a hard time recently.
Apart from "Marie", I haven't really seen any other friends lately (lockdown).

Have I been insensitive here and do I owe her an apology or an explanation? I honestly don't think that I do, but perhaps I'm being bitchy?
"Christy" hasn't bothered to ask me out to lunch or anything or ask how I am so it's not as though I've been blowing her off.

OP,
Well done for taking time to process.

Take that time.

Take lots of time.

Do not look at her messages.

Space is good.

Well done!!

You’re handling it just right. Take all the time you need. The more, the better.

Well done 🌺

That's good OP

Mentally healthy people value themselves, their time, boundaries and their own wellbeing

I'm glad you realised she crossed a line berating you for going out with a friend. It's your life not hers and you are not her puppet

The right thing to do is ignore her for a while and see how you feel. I wouldn't get dragged into long discussions about her feelings or your feelings, you don't owe her that if you don't wish to have any more conversations about it. You've stated your view and boundaries. She respects them or not. If you don't like her much anymore but don't want to block her make her LC as an old acquaintance that you keep in touch with every now and then