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Are you coping?

160 replies

Hellin301 · 26/10/2020 19:33

There are very few threads indicating that people are still struggling mentally with the Covid situation.

Does this mean people are coping better now or are you still struggling day to day?

OP posts:
Peace43 · 26/10/2020 19:37

We are in lockdown in Wales again. Yes, I’m struggling. I am sad and I miss my family. I’m a lone parent so have linked with my boyfriend but I still feel isolated and trapped.

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 26/10/2020 19:37

I'm coping much better now, but hit rock bottom in March/April, weirdly feel okay and hoping I will continue to feel like this for a while.

A few of my colleagues (nurses) who coped well to start with are really struggling now though.

sooqpuas · 26/10/2020 19:38

I'm struggling with the constant worry that things are going to get worse.

Dnadoon · 26/10/2020 19:40

Yes coping but mightily fed up !

Bluewavescrashing · 26/10/2020 19:40

I'm better mentally when I'm at work (infant teacher) but really need the half term break. Spending time with my DCs, early nights, lazy mornings. There's too much thinking time though... I'm not wishing the time away at all and we are trying to do some nice things together but once I get back to work and get my head down again, I won't have time to feel anxious.

nancybotwinbloom · 26/10/2020 19:41

I'm better than I was in proper lockdown but I'm still struggling with spending too much time with my DH.

He's lovely I'm a crank.

I like my own company though and I need it to feel right mentally.

SparklesAllOver · 26/10/2020 19:41

In a tier 1 area but gradually feeling more depressed and hopeless about the current situation.

Toilenstripes · 26/10/2020 19:42

I’ve been fortunate to not have struggled during the pandemic but I realise I’m in the minority.

nancybotwinbloom · 26/10/2020 19:42

Are you coping op

NatalieH2220 · 26/10/2020 19:44

I'm coping but had enough of it all. Was hoping it would all be over by the time DS2 came along but with only 4 weeks to go that's not going to happen now.

thevassal · 26/10/2020 19:45

I'm the opposite - wasn't too bad in the first lockdown but am really really struggling now. Not sure if it's the weather, the constant onslaught of extra work, or just the loneliness of wfh and living alone for nearly 8 months...not helped by being in Wales and the minor things that were keeping my sanity together like being able to go to the gym and for walk outside have been reduced....

veeboo · 26/10/2020 19:49

I am struggling. I had a baby in March. I have had very few visitors to the home as family live far away in areas with higher restrictions and now we go into tier 3. This was obviously not the plan. Friends wish to meet outside in parks but I find that so impractical in this weather with a 6 month old it feels more hassle than it's worth. I knew having a baby would be lonely but some days it is almost unbearable. I am lucky to have a supportive partner but hebis a keyworker who works away from the home.

Crunchymum · 26/10/2020 20:07

I've had to deal with the sudden death of my mum in covid times. Thankfully it wasn't in lockdown proper but its been horrible nonetheless.

I feel like I'm doing OK, but this situation made my poor mum's last months on this Earth shit. Her mental health (she was a life long sufferer of panic and anxiety) nosedived and due to her health anxiety covid meant she barely saw any of us from Mid March onwards.

Her cause of death wasn't covid related, her will to live most definitely was.

DressesWithPockets · 26/10/2020 20:15

Yes my mental health has suffered on and off since March - and I'm one of the lucky ones: jobs not at risk, neither of us vulnerable etc. I just go stir crazy in the house all the time and am grumpy about not seeing friends and family. It's impossible to plan anything. I have no idea how people whose jobs are at risk and/or who have health problems are handling it.

Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 20:17

Not coping at all, but generally don’t bother talking about it on here because you just get the cries of ‘it was so much worse in the war’ and ‘FFS people are dying’. Easier to keep my despair to myself.

bumblenbean · 26/10/2020 20:20

Yes I’m struggling. It’s totally shite. Ive always suffered from anxiety and struggle to keep things like this in any kind of perspective.

I do have times of feeling more positive - summer was a good stretch - but there just seems to be constant doom and gloom headlines. I do feel like the media are exacerbating feelings of panic and depression - admittedly things are genuinely pretty shit, but I find they do give a disproportionately negative perception.

Winter’s def going to be hard but I’m trying to be hopeful for spring.

Halliehallie9828 · 26/10/2020 20:20

Coping fine here Smile

ilovebagpuss · 26/10/2020 20:20

I’m struggling a bit I’ve had Covid twice if the science is to be trusted. Work in Care Homes. I’m just at the end of the isolation period from my second positive. Family all shut in and inconvenienced DD’s off school again nothing much to do. It’s been ok but reminded us how weird life is now. Test and Trace breathing down my neck every 5 minutes. Fortunately we haven’t been ill although I’ve had a low grade something and been waking up with heart palpitations in the night.
I suppose I’m just totally fed up had a few tears today as it’s DD’s birthday still in isolation, we made it nice but it made me sad not having people around.
My work is shit too adding to my low mood.

AmyandPhilipfan · 26/10/2020 20:22

I hate the uncertainty of things. When will things get better? Will Covid ever go away or will we just live with the risk? I was meant to go on holiday with my mum and toddler in May. Just us 3 to have a nice little toddler themed break. It was cancelled and you think, there’ll be other times. But will there be? She’s 76 now and while she’s well she’s also staying indoors and away from people. Is this her life now for however many years she might have left? And she lives a long way from me so I can’t pop in or even just wave through the window! I hate not knowing if we’ll ever get back to our regular visits or if this is just life forever - never seeing each other and my now 3 year old growing up with no memories of the grandma who loves her so much!

SpeedofaSloth · 26/10/2020 20:23

I am struggling a bit, TBH.

Gormless · 26/10/2020 20:30

Got through the first few months remarkably well; struggling horribly now. No motivation. No purpose. No end in sight. It’s really tough.

Kittenbittenmitten · 26/10/2020 20:31

I don't know really. I care for my children (laundry, food, outings) and go to work PT but I've struggled to recreate the routine I had pre-lockdown. I still enjoy myself but the daily routine feels like wading through mud. I think it's because I've got used to doing less. The house needs a really good seeing to but I just can't. Once the children are in bed, it's a massive relief. I sometimes wonder if I'm depressed but then I think it could be a normal response to this scary situation.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 26/10/2020 20:32

I'm coping ok, I think. I think I'm almost gaining resilience? I think sometimes being tested can bring out the best in people, I do feel like it has sort of pushed me into a "keep calm and carry on" sort of mentality. I see people all pitching in and helping each other, my community have been very supportive of each other.

acerred · 26/10/2020 20:33

When it was lockdown it was actually better and so were the summer holidays. Since September and back to school it's been worse.

Kittenbittenmitten · 26/10/2020 20:35

@Ignoringequally. Those people need to fuck off, it's shit to try to invalidate someone's feelings. What's your situation like? Flowers