am I or Dh being unreasonable about internal doors not fully closed

[DoorWars]

I'm prepared to be told I am so here goes.

We have long pile carpets so doors don't "swing" as such. I tend to just push a door and then walk away, To be honest, it doesn't bother me and its an effort to remember as the first 20 years of my life were specifically spent leaving internal doors open so the cats and dogs didn't start howling at closed doors.

"DH" has a thing about doors being made to be shut. The one that drives him nuts is the one to the laundry cupboard. I put laundry in the basket and just push it behind me - and its always slightly ajar. This for some reason gives him the rage.

He's now threatening to take the door off the hinges if I don't learn to close it because there's no point in having it. Except it is closed its just off the latch.

So,

AIBU - I should make the effort to close the door even though its not something I actually think or bother about

AINBU - its a bloody door

Threatening to take the door off if you dont do as you're told is so freaking controlling

I’m fairly sure I’ve threatened to take the door off snd ram it up his arse at some point, he is of the opinion I’m not controlling just leaving rhe door open repeatedly really pisses me off. 😂

I have a weird thing about wanting to have all doors closed too 😬

I don't think he's unreasonable wanting the laundry door closed...but doors to other rooms are fine to be ajar if you ask me.

I know a child who fell and hit their face on an open cupboard door. It damaged their eye so I always make sure doors of all kinds are closed, and drawers too.

Cupboard doors and drawers shut. Walk-through doors are different. Dp leaves kitchen doors ajar as well as leaving chairs askew and curtains not straight, I'm amazed we've lasted 35 years really. If I'm in bed and he is still pottering I can feel myself getting slightly murderous seeing the wardrobe door not totally shut and his underwear drawer not closed fully as he's left a sock poking out, As soon as he goes in the bathroom I leap out and correct everything. We have had words in the past and he sometimes remembers if he sees the look on my face

DP leaves everything open. Drives me mad!! He’ll leave kitchen cupboards and drawers open, the lids off things, like the tea bag canister etc, milk out of the fridge.

I try not to let it irritate me and he gets defensive when I ask him to close them “I hadn’t finished with it!” etc (he has!) so YABU. I have to remember to lock all the doors at night, as he doesn’t even bother to lock his front door at home, doesn’t worry about locking his car and has no concept of fire safety. So all the stress is on me to go round closing doors at bedtime, making sure cats are where they should be, tumble drier is off etc. It’s a bit exhausting to be honest.

However, your H threatening to take the doors off is a bit U too. He’s treating you like a child rather than saying “it makes me feel uncomfortable when that door is left open, could you try and close it please”. But then maybe he’s tried that and you haven’t done it as it’s not important TO YOU. How do you react when he continues doing something that bothers you?

Sorry if it’s been asked already, but what is a laundry cupboard? I’ve never had one in any house I’ve lived in but I like the sound of it

Get your doors properly fitted to accommodate the carpets, you both sound daft.
As for the ppl leaving kitchen cupboards and drawers open, sort yourself out!!

Oh my god my DH does this and gosh. He is lucky I like him so much when I have to do "door" for third time in 2 hours😑
He doesn't even close bloody water bottles properly!

Sorry. I am with your DH. If you aren't closing them, you don't need them.

If you have to open something to go through it, assume it was closed for good reason and close it behind you. Common sense!

@efeslight

Put the wood in the hole!

Put t'wood int' oil

What? You need to shut the door to keep the heat in, assuming it's what I call an airing cupboard. There's no point having one if you leave the door open surely?

Open closet doors and drawers drive me mad, looks so untidy. Unfortunately in this house it’s mostly me that leaves them open. 🙁

Oh my days I was going to say YANBU but then you said a cupboard door and that just set me off thinking about when my husband cant shut his wardrobe doors or drawers that extra inch shut!! We have built in wardrobes with various drawers underneath and they (on his side) are always open just a smidge. Sometimes with pants or something peeking out the top! I know its minor in todays troubled times but after 24 years of marriage he still does it!!! But then its the same as shoes right outside the shoe cupboard or dishes ontop of the dishwasher etc etc 😩

Tell you what. I'll swap your DH with my DP and then your DH and I can sit in a warm, draft free room, without any risk of going to the kitchen/bathroom and taking out an eye/testicle on an sharp open cupboard door corner.

Have a read of this, if you haven't already. www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Would drive me mad, if it opened into the landing then I am sure I would stub a toe on it every few days and that would be taken out on DH for sure.

Why can't he shut it, it only takes a second,

Sort the doors, then close them.

YABU.

I never close any internal doors

Am always going between rooms, with piles of washing, cups, feeding dog etc

It would drive me nuts having to open and close them all the time

Also, my dog likes to roam

So it is one door that opens out into a hallway. It sounds quite irritating and I don’t know why you don’t shut it.

I cannot believe I am reading this about kitchen cupboards. I can honestly say I have never been in a kitchen where people have just left cupboard doors open!

I would leave it open and let him remove the door. Whilst it is off you could shave a bit off so it closes properly and easily.

But I would hate the kitchen cupboards to be open, that would drive me mad and I would have to have very tidy cupboards to leave them open.

I’m with your husband - looks so messy with doors open plus it’s safer from a fire perspective if internal doors are closed.

This would do my head in OP! I'm with your DH.

Why not just close it all the way? Not a big effort really is it and will keep the peace.

If you know it annoys him just close the door to make him happy. Make life easy for yourself don't create unnecessary stress.

I close the kitchen door at night because i heard most fires start in the kitchen. I don’t mind other doors open but doors that open outwards (I have 3) the handle can catch on your clothing more easily so I try to keep those closed only for That reason!