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Having a baby in your room after 6 months?

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Pumpkinx3x · 25/10/2020 14:12

Hello,

So my baby girl will be 6 months at the end of nov. Her nursery is set up and everything but I’m starting to not want her to go in?

The room gets pretty cold in winter, putting the heating up makes partner and my room too hot so there’s no balance.

But also she’s exclusively breastfed. Obviously she will be weaning at 6 months but in the night I’m the one to feed her meaning I’ll be the one up every night. She refuses bottles and even if she would magically take them having to go sterilise the bottles, heat them up in water etc compared to just putting her on the boob. So yeah maybe I’m just being lazy...

Partner wants her in her room at 6 months but obviously understands where I come from.

Question 1; have you waited past 6 months to move over?
Question 2; how do they sleep in your room? Next to me cots last till 6 months and we have a cot bed which won’t fit anywhere in our room?

Thanks

OP posts:
SideEyeing · 25/10/2020 14:14

I waited til about seven months as that's when she started to naturally feed a bit less at night, when she was able to independently roll both ways with ease and frankly I just hadn't felt ready at 6m. Funnily enough she took to it really well and I think prefers having her own place! I think it's totally up to you and what works for your family.

Boom45 · 25/10/2020 14:14

Mine were both really poor sleepers and I wasnt about to go wandering about the house every hour all night so they stayed in our room until they slept better at about 18 months. It worked for us.

SideEyeing · 25/10/2020 14:15

Oh - she was in a next to me in our room, a normal cot in her own

Boom45 · 25/10/2020 14:15

Also. Making your life easier when your up every night feeding a baby isnt lazy, isnt lazy. Its sensible.

Camomila · 25/10/2020 14:17

DS2 (9m) is still in with us, he's in a travel cot (so a bit smaller) with a proper mattress (you can get them on amazon).

DS1 still comes in most nights too (age 4.5)

Amigoingmad29weeks · 25/10/2020 14:17

My girl went to about 9 months in her next2me - she was little and had plenty of room even then. It's not a necessity.

Peace43 · 25/10/2020 14:19

My DD is 9 and still sleeps in my room a lot of the time. She can sleep in her own but I have a Kingsize bed and it’s just me and the dog so plenty of room. She has spent the odd period of weeks or months exclusively sleeping in her own room but she always ends up back in mine. She co-slept in my bed from when she was first born.

Personally I don’t mind this but lots of people don’t want to share their bedroom with their baby / child for years.

Mylittlepony374 · 25/10/2020 14:20

Both mine were in my room until well over a year old, about 18 months I think. It was when they were old enough to be excited by their 'big kid bed' and new blankets etc etc.
This was my choice more than my husband's, he wanted them out much sooner but I was breastfeeding at night for most of that time so it was easiest for me.
They either slept in cot (40 euro ikea one, was narrow) or in our bed, following safe sleep guidelines, or on a little cot mattress on the floor. They (now 3 and 2) often sleep in our bed now still. We have a king size so there's enough room for us all. I love it.

angelikacpickles · 25/10/2020 14:20

My DD was in a cot in our room until 13 months. My DS was in our bed until he was 3 and half.

If you are doing all the night feeds then I think it's much easier to have them in the room with you at least.

JellyTeapot · 25/10/2020 14:22

DS1 went in his own room just before 6 months because we had to send his rented cosleeper cot back.
DTs were still in with us at almost a year because their new bedroom hadn't been built yet. It also made night feeds much easier!
Do whatever works for you.

LadyMSM · 25/10/2020 14:23

My dd was 16months when she went into her own room

She was due to have major surgery at 15months and we spent quite some time in hospital and so on release from hospital i put her in her own room

Keep your child in with you as long as feels right there is no hard and fast rules

She slept fine on her own since then and is now 5 and sleeps happily in her own room each night

GalesThisMorning · 25/10/2020 14:24

It doesn't work Grin I moved both of mine into their own room at 6 months and then moved myself onto a futon on their bedroom floor at 6 months 1 day.

You'd think I'd learn.... do what works for you. If it ain't broke, don't break it. If you are getting anything that even resembles a good nights sleep with an exclusively breast fed baby, then keep doing that. Honestly. Dont listen to what people say, do whatever you can to get as much sleep as you can!!

SaffieSoph · 25/10/2020 14:24

Both mine stayed in with us longer. First, really good sleeper so didn’t see the need to move her (didn’t have a nursery ready for her either). Second one, awful sleeper so didn’t want to move him until I didn’t have to get up lots in the night!
Do whatever is easiest for you that you feel comfortable with.

HelloDulling · 25/10/2020 14:24

DS must have been 8 months. In a regular cot, next to our bed.

pincertoe · 25/10/2020 14:25

We kept dc2 in our room till 11.5 months. She woke every couple of hours and we didn't want her to wake ds. However going back to work I need more sleep so put her in with her brother and within 3 nights she slept through (and ds is turned out is a very deep sleeper)

Amrythings · 25/10/2020 14:25

DS went into his room at a bit after six months, when he pulled up on the next-to-me and gave us heart failure.

He slept better in his own room, I think we'd all been waking each other up. But he also more or less slept through by then too - he'd get a feed when I was going to bed at eleven and then usually be out until at least six.

lyralalala · 25/10/2020 14:27

Mine all stayed in my room until they weren't feeding or waking regularly in the night. It's much easier to just deal with them in the same room.

I had to move my twins a little earlier than I wanted, but they got to a point where they couldn't cot share without disturbing each other and I couldn't fit two in my room.

If she still fits and is under the weight then she can stay in the next to me until she doesn't.

Clarabellawilliamson · 25/10/2020 14:27

DS2 stayed in our room till we moved house when he was about 14 months. When he outgrew his next to me (or could stand up or something, I can't remember!) we got the Asda rafferty compact cot which we just squeezed in, his normal cot didn't fit.
Once he was in his own room he slept better, but it's not something we could do until we moved house!
With DD1, there was a single bed and a cot in her room, so after her first wake up I could just sleep in there with her. There is a LOT to be said for not traipsing from room to room in the middle of the night!

micc · 25/10/2020 14:29

My DD was in with us until about 9-10 months until she got her own room. We lived in a 1 bed flat so didnt really have an option Haha so I wouldnt worry if you dont feel ready. We moved her in to her own room when we moved. She was ok going into her own space. At first she wasnt happy, but one day we had to build a wardrobe in her room we put her in her cot and had toys in there so she wouldn't be around us building but be with us. We were talking and playing with her in her cot and in her room for a while and that night she slept through! I think she just needed to know we were there.. it was a weird unplanned thing that worked Haha. She was half breast fed and half bottle fed at that time :) Our flat can get pretty cold too, we have a heated airer (drysoon) and we have it in the corner of her room with a dehumidifier. I think the sound of the dehumidifier is relaxing and the dry soon really warms up the room.

Just move her when you feel comfortable and ready :) theres no right or wrong time. It depends on how you and baby feel

zaffa · 25/10/2020 14:32

DD is ten months and still in our room and I don't think we will be moving her anytime soon. She is in our bed though as she hated her crib and her travel cot and her cot bed doesn't fit in here (loved the Moses basket so I kept her in it for far too long)
It would be nice to have our bed to ourselves and the cats really miss sleeping on it too but she's so little and I'm due back at work soon so it's really not a good time to try and make yet another change for her. It's something we will think about in the new year I think but we aren't in any hurry. I sleep at the moment and that is definitely not something I want to mess with

hypochondriacseveywhere · 25/10/2020 14:34

Do what's best for you. All my three were in their own rooms between 2-3 months as we kept waking one another up. Been great sleepers ever since.

CarrotCakeCrumbs · 25/10/2020 14:37

My youngest is still in our room at 16 months, I am planning on moving her into her big sisters room at 18 months. It's easier because I'm breastfeeding and I'm of the opinion that if something is working theres no real need to change it. She does have a toddler bed in our room though so I suppose that helps.

NeverAMillionMilesAway · 25/10/2020 14:37

Do what works for you all.
I would get a routine started with weaning first, personally, but it's up to you if you want to move her to her own room. There is no right or wrong age.

riotlady · 25/10/2020 14:38

DD stayed with us until she was 8.5 months, I wasn’t even breastfeeding, just wasn’t ready to let her go into another room yet! If it works for you then go for it

SettingFloundaries · 25/10/2020 14:39

We moved DD at about 8 months. We had already had to get a small cot because she grew out of the Moses basket at 4 months (massive baby) and the big one wouldn’t fit in with us. We got something from mamas and papas that was in the middle and not too much £££