Having a baby in your room after 6 months?

[Pumpkinx3x]

Hello,

So my baby girl will be 6 months at the end of nov. Her nursery is set up and everything but I’m starting to not want her to go in?

The room gets pretty cold in winter, putting the heating up makes partner and my room too hot so there’s no balance.

But also she’s exclusively breastfed. Obviously she will be weaning at 6 months but in the night I’m the one to feed her meaning I’ll be the one up every night. She refuses bottles and even if she would magically take them having to go sterilise the bottles, heat them up in water etc compared to just putting her on the boob. So yeah maybe I’m just being lazy...

Partner wants her in her room at 6 months but obviously understands where I come from.

Question 1; have you waited past 6 months to move over?
Question 2; how do they sleep in your room? Next to me cots last till 6 months and we have a cot bed which won’t fit anywhere in our room?

Thanks

Our youngest was in with us for 17 months before we had space to move her out. I stopped night feeds around 6 months (as she was weaned when 4 months was recommended and was on 3 reasonable meals plus daytime feeds) and she stopped all feeds just after a year.
She (as with the older ones) was in a bedside cot but with the side up. When we moved her she went straight into a toddler bed.

It worked for us.

I wanted our baby in with us as long as possible. He was in our room until he was 16 months. We only moved him then because he was going into a toddler bed and we wanted him to get used to his own room first.
I didn't see the need to move him at all. And we had plenty of room. (All this there's not enough space is rubbish. Move the furniture if you have to to make space for the cot).

I think DS was about 20 months when he moved to his own room. I had a bedside cot by my bed with the side down until he was 18m. After moving house I had to move the cot across the room and it was soon after that he moved to a toddler bed in his own room.

We co-slept a lot and it didn’t really occur to me to move him while he was young and bf.

14 months (was walking at 10) and 18 months, from bed sharing to own beds and rooms, neither liked the cot much. I went with what my individual child needed and they both transitioned well and are great sleepers.

No advise just my experience, trust your gut, there is no time limit on this

My second DD stayed with us in our room for 10 months , I had PND and was waking in the night to feed her so it was logical and I fell asleep much easier afterwards. At 10 months she just suddenly decided to stop breastfeeding and started to sleep through ..I think that's when we moved her .

Different stories with my two kids.

When DC1 was ten months old they started having very disturbed sleep and crawling around a lot in our bed. I moved baby to a cot in our room; there wasn't another room where they could sleep. They never did sleep well for years but it was nothing to do with the sleeping arrangements.

DC2 slept happily in our bed until 6.5 years old, then decided to move into a bedroom with older sibling. No problems at any stage.

You are definitely wise to make things easy for yourself. If your baby settles well on the breast and you don't want to be getting up in the night, keep her in or near your bed! It isn't just about you getting up. If your baby has to attract your attention from another room (even with the help of a baby monitor) she will come more fully awake before you get to her. That means you have to settle her again afterward. Better if she can just start wriggling in her sleep and you can put her to the breast without her waking completely.

Ds was in our room until 11 months. He was bf and despite eating solids non-stop during the day he also fed a lot at night. So it was easier to have him in rather than him wake everyone up by crying.

He had a cot on my side but also co-slept a lot, as then I could doze and feed and not be too exhausted.

He started sleeping through at 11 months without needing a feed so I slowly transitioned him to his room then. He’s 17 months now.

Why will she ‘obviously be weaning at 6 months’? I sense from your post that there’s lots of things you feel you should do (Wean, move rooms..).
I felt the same but honestly just follow your gut/mothers instinct and keep your baby in with you as long as you want. Feed as long as you want.
Good luck you are doing a wonderful job!

Ah, I’ve just realised you may not mean ‘wean’ in the sense of stopping breastfeeding but introducing solid foods? Didn’t make a hot of difference to the amount of breastfeeding at night with mine 😂

I told DH when he does the breastfeeding he can decide where the baby sleeps! I wanted to make my life as easy as possible and I had no intention of getting out of bed during the night. So we coslept and I breastfed on demand until 2.5yo. Sometimes in our bed and sometimes in the bed in the baby’s room because DH would whinge that he didn’t have enough room.

Wow! Thank you for all your responses! Feel a lot better about it now.
Will definitely take it all on board! Want her with me longer!

@WizWoz this! He gets boobs, he can decide! Oh the amount of times he moans there’s no room 😂😂

@worriedwellworrier ah yes! Weaning, I’ve heard sometimes they want less milk at the beginning so just have to take it slow! I have no intention of giving up breastfeeding right now! Thank you!

I had my pfb and only when I was nearly 40. I waited ten years for him.

I’m glad of two things - with age comes confidence to not feel under pressure by others. Also to wait that long I want to soak up every moment of his littleness - even if I am knackered.

He moved out of his next2me at 6 months and cane straight in with us. I couldn’t have put him in his own room then, he just seemed still a little baby and I needed him near.

At 3.5 he is still with us. In the middle. We all get a great night’s sleep :)

He is a really independent child - lovely, funny, enjoys learning, sociable. He enjoys playing and chilling in his room. Perhaps he’ll transition when he starts school... if he wants :)

I think, just go with your gut. They are only little for a short while so everything is temporary :)

18 month old still in my bed. She can sleep wherever she likes as long as she sleeps.

12 months went on her own
24 months I moved back with my parents. Back in bed with me
Age 7 in with me about 50% of the time.

All mine went in their own rooms at 6 months. It wasn't really difficult because they were already used to settling alone in their cots at night since birth. So it was just a case of moving the cot and tbh dark is dark so they wouldn't have been aware they were in a different room.

Ds1 went into his own room at 19 months. Ds2 at about 2.5 (they have to share).

I do have a really big bedroom though..for ds2 I took the side of his cot bed, the matress was the same height a my bed, so used it like a bigger next to me

DS was in his cot next to our bed until he was 18 months. I liked having him close. He went into his own room when we moved into a new house. We never co-slept with him because I was always afraid of SIDS. I had PNA so I was a bit irrational about it.

My tot went in her own room at 6 months, but if she was restless of feeding alot at night we just co slept. She wouldn't ever take a bottle.
There's no rush, do what works for you