To ask if you still think about your first love?

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Just wondering As I feel like I will never stop loving him.

I met him when I was 16 and split up when I was 20 he was abit older than me he was a great boyfriend though and he still checks up on me to this day.

As much as I love my OH now and we have two DCS together the love I still feel for my first boyfriend feels so much more deeper.

I don't know if their is something wrong with me or what??

Yes. I was 16 too. In my case this person does not exist in my life anymore, and I know for a fact he is not the person I had known him to be anymore.

But I still think of him. Maybe it is all in my mind.

Still happily married and all of that, but the connection I felt then I never had again with anyone else.

My relationship with this feeling has changed over the years (or shall I say decades), and still evolving. I do think I met him in a very formative time in my life and shaped me in many ways.

Mine took my virginity and gave me chlamydia

Yep.
Think of my first boyfriend
First one I let get away
The lover I couldn't commit to.
All three.

Been with DH more than 30 years and knew he was the one. Still think of them. They were all lovely; I just wasn't ready.

Yes I do and occasionally google him. I think I had a lucky escape. Im not even sure if it was love tbh. I think it was limerence.

Yes, and we're still good friends too.

I'm married to mine. We were both 15 and now we're both 50.

I dream about him all the time and in my dreams I love him more than anything. In real life I vaguely know Him and don’t fancy him

Occasionally, but mainly with relief that we didn't end up together as we just weren't well suited for the long-term. I have some nice memories and I was devastated when we broke up but now I look back and know it was the best thing that could have happened.

Yes. I think we were a great match in so many ways, but we met at a wrong time, too young. I really thought he was the one then. I used to think regularly for many years after about what would/could have been and that he was the one that got away. Now I think about it occasionally, probably because it brings a dose of excitement. It was young love, we were free, carefree and full of energy and plans. Life felt so light, as if everything was possible and we'd conquer the world together. And then I grew up quicker than him and realised he was a commitment-phobe, a liar and a manipulative cheat. But there'll always be a part of me that will be fond of the memories.

Yes sometimes. Last spoke a few months ago.

We were together for 3 years and split up when we were 17. We remainedfriends for years, occasionally continuing to sleep together. He stopped speaking to me for years and got a new girlfriend. I was confused by the radio silence but figured out it was because he still had feelings and hadnt said.

I think he will probably end up marrying his current gf and she seems good for him. I will always love him but we weren't a good match long-term.

Yes. You grow around your pain, you never really erase it, in my view. You have different kinds of loves throughout your life - if your first love was meant to last, it would have.

@Fallowdeerhunter

I dream about him all the time and in my dreams I love him more than anything. In real life I vaguely know Him and don’t fancy him

I dream about my first evey 6-12 months and it's always the same type of dream and I wake up feeling annoyed that I'm dreaming about him.

I do and stalk him on social media though he is pretty private and doesn't post much. He is married with kids as am I.

Nah, mine was a right dickhead in the end. He was caught cheating on the gf after me when he gave chlamydia to a ton of other girls. Rank. I still laugh when I think about him. I was devastated at the time when he dumped me, though.

I think it’s an idolised love, you never had the reality of life; paying bills, running a. home etc
I met my first love (17-20) again after 25 years and thank fuck I didn’t accept his proposal!
He’s so self centred and full of himself and is a serial cheat to his wife, I don’t keep in touch.

Yes I still think of mine. I would say we are friends though not overly close these days. I was 16 and he was 18 when we met.

He's a good and thoughtful man but we just weren't on the same intellectual level and I ended up getting the ick. He has a lovely partner now and I wish them both well.

Yes, I think of him quite often, but I’m pretty sure it’s just the idea of him, or what I thought he represented that I really yearn for. I projected so much onto him!

Yes. No longer love him but he is still special.

Haven’t seen or spoke to him for 30 years and no mutual friends. That has made it easier for me to move on even though I was devastated when we broke up.

There is nothing wrong with you OP

Occasionally my first love, and another ex from my early 20s that had a big impact on my life. At this point (after many ups and downs over the years) I'm on friendly terms with both on the rare occasion we ever have reason to speak. I'm glad as I think fondly of both and would never wish either any harm.

My EXH however barely even enters my peripheral thought and is immediately dismissed should he stray there. Wouldn't piss on him if he were alight.

No - he comes up in conversation occasionally with a mutual friend we still share and I'll ask after him, but we were together from 16-18. We're different people now, it was very much a first love that was destined to not last! He was a nice boy though, bless him.

Mine was from age 13 to 16. Now late 30s and we are still mates. He is my oldest best friend.

Yes, occasionally. We were together for five years.

Thinking about him is always followed by massive relief that I eventually left him. It wouldn't have worked out. Any arguments would lead to him having a massive sulk and not speaking to me. I cannot bear sulkers.

I still think of my first love sometimes.
We met up a few years ago while we were both single and the spark was there, but I think that was very much a rose tinted spark. We would never have worked out, he’s all tin foil hat and anti vaccination. But I’ll always love him in some way, I think that’s fairly standard for first loves, I can remember the first time he told me he loved me, how it made me feel, almost 20 years ago.
But I’d much rather have my lovely DP and our babies.

Kept in touch with him over the years, would meet for coffee and once my first DH and I had him to dinner when he passed through our town. A year after my 22 yr marriage broke up, we went for coffee and he moved in right away. We’ve been together again for 13 yrs now, married for three. If we had married when we were young, it would not have lasted. But now that we are older and have learned from our life experiences, we enjoy every moment we have together, and spend every free moment together. He makes me very happy and I try to keep him very happy!

Yes.
We were together 18-20 and he was my first big love. I spent years after we broke up absolutely convinced we’d get back together eventually.
Last saw him when I was 25.... 15 years ago.... it was then I realised we weren’t meant to be. I still have a special love for him though.
We’re friends on Facebook and it’s nice to see he’s happily married with 2 kids, same as me.