To ask if you still think about your first love?

[ikeadaimcake]

Just wondering As I feel like I will never stop loving him.

I met him when I was 16 and split up when I was 20 he was abit older than me he was a great boyfriend though and he still checks up on me to this day.

As much as I love my OH now and we have two DCS together the love I still feel for my first boyfriend feels so much more deeper.

I don't know if their is something wrong with me or what??

Oh phew, so glad I'm not the only one! I think about mine quite often. We were together for 4 years (on and off for 2, then properly for 2) when I was 16. He was 19 at the time and everyone fancied him so the excitement that he fancied me and was a bit older was immense! He's married now but unfortunately his DW doesn't like me so has banned any sort of communication which makes me sad as our breakup was mutual with no bad feelings. I dream about him often and in the dream I'm madly in love with him. I am happily married with 3 children so have always thought I was weird for feeling like this.

Yes I think of mine. We were together for a couple of years, over 30 years ago. We've kept in touch a little, and speak or message sporadically. Our relationship was very intense and passionate. I don't think for a minute we'd have been any good for each other long term, but I've never experienced again what I had with him. He once told me that too.

I think what we had is a great memory (and definitely seen through rose tinted spectacles!) But is meant to be left in the past. I wouldn't want to be in that sort of relationship now. I like a much more peaceful life! like the odd bit of contact though and it's nice to be friends, albeit very distant ones.

Yes but I ended up marrying him

I'm married to my first love. We met when we were 15 and got together about 6 months later. We have now been together for 15 years, married for six and have two children together.

I do think that whenever I think of someone from my past that meant a lot to me at the time (old school or college friends) I only really remember the good stuff. I think we idealise relationships and situations that we no longer have. A first love is always going to feel special.

Yes and I wish them the best and hope they are happy

No yearning on my part. My first love was lovely, I have really happy memories and I like hearing how he is doing on FB, but it ran it's course. It was me that moved on first so maybe that has something to do with it. I couldn't at all imagine being with him now. We are very different. I tend to think that if it was meant to be it would have worked out at the time. That being said I do know two people who left long term marriages to go back to their first loves.

@maras2

I think about him all the time. He's lying next to me 52 years on.

Not smug, lovely 😊

Nope. Not at all. In fact when I saw the question I realised I was thinking about my second "love" so I'd completely forgotten about him!

So I guess he was my first boyfriend rather than first love.

Funny a lot of us are mentioning we were 16 when we met them. Makes you think of your children and how important is what goes on at that age - especially the girls.

Yea I often think of my first love (not first boyfriend), we had a very intense relationship the last year of school, tried long distance for a while when I went to uni which of course didn’t last. We got back together a few times/had a few flings but each time one of us was more invested than the other. Then we would bump into eachother every so often but one had a partner or timing was bad in some way. Last time I saw him properly, we almost got together again, however I’d already met my now DH at this point although we hadn’t started dating yet, and I held off thinking if it doesn’t work out with DH I’m sure we’ll cross paths again. Bit of a sliding doors moment... only seen him once or twice since but hear of him occasionally from people. He never did social media, so don’t know what he’s up to. Very happy with DH, but still always wonder what if.

Nah not really. I might have a glass of wine too many and stalk him on fb, but other than that I don’t really think of him. I live my life for the now!

Almost every day, I really did love him & haven’t had anything like it since.

I’m shocked to see so many other people relate though, I honestly thought I was abnormal!

First love was my husband but did go out with a lad before who loved me and I really liked him too but we really would not have lasted such lack of communication. Met him a couple of years ago and had a lovely chat about the old days if we were able to talk to each other better when we were seeing each other who knows🤣. He told me things I would have liked to have heard back then but it was nice to know anyway .

Yes. We met when I was 16 and he was 17, together for four years and then life diverged. We both married other people and lost touch. Many years later, when both our marriages had ended, we met up again and it was lovely. We lived at opposite ends of the country, so it was long-distance, and I had family commitments (looking after my elderly father) to work round, but eventually I was able to plan a move to be with him, something we were both looking forward to so much. The day I got an offer on my house was the day I found he'd died, very suddenly of a heart attack. Two years on, I wonder what might have been...

No I don’t think so...

First guy I was with for a year... don’t think I even loved him. Never think of him.

Second guy I’m still with 12 years on.

There was a guy I slept with for about a year and I think of him every now and again...

No, it ended very badly about 30 years ago. He died 18 months ago of pancreatic cancer, aged 51. My mum showed me the notice in the local paper, asking if it was him. Id forgotten his existence until then.

Yes, I was 19 when we split so only 7 years ago but we haven’t spoken since. It was incredibly toxic but I do believe that I won’t love anyone else with the same intensity - and I think that’s a good thing!

Almost never. I saw this title and had to try to remember who my first love was. My friends from that time have outlasted my loves.

Same here @persona, I still have the same group of friends that I was at school with, all of whom predate my first "love"

No. He’s now got a husband,

My dad is still in touch with his first girlfriend from 60 years ago. They went out at 13 and were each other’s 1st kiss but my grandma wasn’t happy and forbid him to date her.

He has always spoken fondly of her and at how angry he was with his mum for ruining a sweet, innocent romance.

But they are in touch nowadays via Christmas cards and the odd phone call and you can see they hold a special place in each other’s hearts.

I was with mine from 15 to 18 (split up when I went to uni). I think of him occasionally, and fondly, but I am very happy with my lovely DH and DC, so it's hard to imagine that things would have been better if we'd stayed together.

Together between the ages if 16 to 19, he was three years older.

I occasionally think of him, mainly in terms of how I dodged a massive bullet. Cheated on me multiple times, brains kept firmly in his pants, utter lazy arse, expected sex an tap.

Eventually dumped him. I'm utterly mystified why I didn't sooner. It was 30 years ago tho. I could easily see him being a domestic abuser.

I try not to. Nothing wrong with him but we were just ridiculous ott teenagers IN LOOOOVE and it gives me the MASSIVE ick now.

Yes, he was my first love as a teen, he was my best friend from 13 till my early 20s. I havent really seen him for a very long time 20 years and then about 6 years ago I got a job in the same place as his wife that was a bit odd.