To ask if you still think about your first love?

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Just wondering As I feel like I will never stop loving him.

I met him when I was 16 and split up when I was 20 he was abit older than me he was a great boyfriend though and he still checks up on me to this day.

As much as I love my OH now and we have two DCS together the love I still feel for my first boyfriend feels so much more deeper.

I don't know if their is something wrong with me or what??

I always struggle in trying to work out who my first love was. I was one of those teens who thought they were in love with everyone lol!

I think my first love was a boy I used to hang out with but nothing really happened with him although a few years down the line I did take his virginity

For a good 10 years I was obsessed with him, looking out of my bedroom window to try and see him and my heart beating wildly if I caught a glimpse of him.

I was so shy I couldn't directly tell him how I felt although it was pretty obvious looking back. I'm not sure he was all that keen on me but we always had a little bond.

We don't really keep in touch but are Facebook friends and my senses pick you if I see a post of his and do have the occasional stalk on rare occasions :)

Yes. I was 16 and he was 23. We're Facebook friends and it's nice to see he's happy and has 2 dc, the same as me. I'm a very different person to the one I was back then though and he seems very similar to the man I loved back then. I know I could no longer feel the same, he's too intense and hippie mother earthy. I'm a lot more grounded these days.

Yes, we started too early and went in different directions after university. We still talk 35 years later, probably should have got back together at 30 really but we were both otherwise engaged (ho ho).

Yes. Met when we were 16 in 1972, lived 60 miles apart and that was a big deal way back then so it fizzled out. I never stopped thinking about him but met and married my DH. First love got in touch via Friends Reunited 15 years ago and we've been in touch now and again since then. He's a multi millionaire but I wouldn't swap my DH for him as I've come to realise that we aren't well suited at all. Still very fanciable though

I can't really pinpoint a first love tbh. I have 4 exes I think of fondly from time to time. All still considered friends but only see them on Facebook as they're all abroad.

I always hear people ask this and honestly no, never! I stopped thinking about him pretty much as soon as we broke up! I have never given any of my exes much thought to be honest. I don't know why but I am grateful for it!

As the song goes

"Even now you're gone
You'll always be
My only love, my only love
Only love, my only love"

Yes definitely, I was 16 and we were together for over 2 years. I still think of him and often wonder ‘what if’. We were young and stupid but we had so many plans... I was gutted when I found out that he’d had a baby with somebody else not long after we split up. I thought I’d moved on but when I heard that my heart broke again and I literally curled up into a ball on my bathroom floor and cried my eyes out.

He will always be my first love and I will never love anyone like that again...

I think you should stop him ‘checking on you’. Isn’t it a bit insulting? Does he still think you’re sixteen?

I think about my first love all the time. I have never felt a love quite like it since.

Yes, and he grew into a lovely husband and father from what I can tell. I would not have enjoyed dating him in his 20's but in his 30's he seems quite lovely again.

We are out of contact, though I know his wife is often on MN as I read a post on social media she wrote that tagged a very distant acquaintance of mine.

I think about him all the time.
He's lying next to me 52 years on.

Why is your ex boyfriend checking up on your married self? Why do you think this is a good thing?

I don't ask this to be mean but just because I think there is something else going on here. maybe a disconnection and dissatistaction with your dh. or maybe an older man who although he should be in your past likes to feel a degree of control with you.

If your dh said he felt a deeper connection to the girlfriend he had when he was 16 than he did to you - how would you feel? If that girlfriend checked in with him regularly how would you feel?

I think about all my exes from time to time and wish them well (am good friends with one - as in family friends whose families stay with each other- as it happens) but no I don't feel a deep sense of connection to the first one. he is nothing to me compared to my dh and all we have gone through together.

Met mine when we both 17ish, it fizzled out a year or so later - mainly because he was developing a close relationship with a "friend" from school. He went on to marry her, they seem happy (must be almost 35yrs now, eek!). We live in different cities, and before social media I only heard about them via mutual friends, met at the odd party in our home town etc but he, his wife and I are now FB friends. Lovely guy but very passive and, tbh, I find him a bit dull - knowing him now I'm not stuck with the memory of the youthful him 😉 so I'm really really REALLY happy not to be married to him, but happy to still be in contact. It's lovely to be able to congratulate them on grandchildren etc.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I thought I was being weirdly obsessive. Not so much my first boyfriend but I still sometimes dream / think about my second boyfriend. He was a complete prick to me in the end but I still occasionally dream about him!
I haven't seen him for years and years and happily married to a lovely man now.

I don’t know if any of the ones previous to my husband would have really been classed as a first love? I don’t remember being massively distraught when any of them ended- upset obviously but not the whole sobbing, hysterical carry on that you see from others or on TV. However relatively early on if my now husband had ended it I knew I’d be utterly devastated. So I guess from that he was my first proper full on love. And I’m incredibly lucky that he still wants to be with me (despite two non sleeping kids and being very hormonal and pregnant 😂)

Mine i met when I was 13. Together for 16 years. Divorced 6 and a half years ago. Had no contact whatsoever in 2 years and I couldn't be happier about that.

Been with dh 6 years. I would say I actually love him more than my first love. I think I was only with my exh for as long because he was the first everything and it was what I was used to.

He's snoring next to me, so yes think about him quite a bit.

I married my first love - still with him!

I am Facebook friends with mine, but other than a mild interest in any updates, no I do not think about him.

Yeah. He and DH have the same first name. Awkward. But my ex is not the man I fell in love with. He no longer exists.

I had a massive crush on someone when I was 17-18 who didn’t feel the same. There were a couple of drunken encounters and lots of flirtatious moments (mainly instigated by me). Then he moved away, then I did. I am still his friend on Facebook and he has a beautiful younger wife (she was a model) and the most beautiful children and has made a real success of his life. I don’t look him up very often but I do still think I wish he had been more into me as I know I would have been happy with him if he had felt the same.

I bumped into mine in a pub about ten years ago, he walked me back to my mates, you can guess the rest 😬 big mistake

I do occasionally. I have never loved anyone how I loved him, but I think being 16 had something to do with it.
We broke up after 18 months and I only saw him once after that. I was married and pregnant. I was waiting for a lift in a shop with my in laws. The lift doors opened and there he was! The lift was full so the doors closed again and that was it. I have often thought that if we had got married it wouldn't have worked, and I wouldn't have had the career I had.

Yes sometimes but he was a knobhead. It took me 7 years to realise but I was young and naive and didn’t know any better. I occasionally have a nose on fb at what he’s up to and think thank god we’re not together now.