To ask if you still think about your first love?

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Just wondering As I feel like I will never stop loving him.

I met him when I was 16 and split up when I was 20 he was abit older than me he was a great boyfriend though and he still checks up on me to this day.

As much as I love my OH now and we have two DCS together the love I still feel for my first boyfriend feels so much more deeper.

I don't know if their is something wrong with me or what??

My ex is getting married to his fiancee

With you!! That would have been a cosy situation!!

Yes I do. It seems fairly common based on this thread. I guess there is something very special about first relationships. They leave a lasting impression.

We ended up in college together, then I changed to different course/college. We kept in touch for a while, had mutual friends, etc. We could easily have got together again, but he started a relationship with someone he told me he was very serious about, and deliberately kept a distance. That probably helped us both move on.

I have no doubt if we met for a coffee or drink together we’d get on great still. I’d love to do that to catch up, but I’ve always got the sense his DW doesn’t like me, so best to keep that distance (have both moved from home areas to different part of the country).

We had some fun times (and silly fights!!)

Yes, I think about him daily. I was 21, he was 42, it was only 6 months but extremely intense. I am so sad that I may never feel that way again.

Went out with my first bf from 16-18, knew he'd never be forever. I went out with him because he was the first person to ask me! I did get feelings but more fondness than love? I've occasionally looked him up and he's happy. I occasionally see his mum and she's nice. I'd hate to see him, think he still hates me for dumping him!

The next one, my uni bf. Together 19- nearly 23. I loved him, I finished with him still loving him and did it because I could see we were starting to want different things and would drift. It broke me. He never did social media but he's an academic so is Google-able. I did it a couple of times at my lowest ebbs and kept a couple of screenshot pics. I spent years regretting leaving him - although I knew it was right- and had to have counselling for the nightmares, random crying and "grief akin to ptsd due to guilt". Not looked him up since well before current DP. It's not healthy for me. Last time I checked he looked happy. That makes me happy. Current partner is the one for me. He's sleepy spooning me as I type and meeting him after 6.5 years in the wilderness confirmed I was right, even though I went through some shit in the middle. I compare it to a long con on the rv show Hustle. Set it all up and waited very patiently for a fucking massive payoff!

Yes all the time! I'm still with him! He was my boyfriend at 14! Met him when I was 12! Broke up when we were 18 for a year (being 18 and being together for 4 years was a rarity!)
Back together, married at 25 and now we're 31!
When you know you know 😊

Yes I do. We are still good friends. He was the one that got away, and I didn't see it at the time. Although there have been others, there wasn't another like him.

I think about him all the time.

Occasionally. I was with him from 15 to 17, and was devastated when he dumped me. I don't think I've ever been as obsessively in love since, in the way that you are at that age. I met my husband at 20, and it just felt so right, no game playing, I trusted him implicitly and still do nearly 40 years later.
My first love is in touch with me on Facebook, and seems very happy. He's been married years but never had children, whereas I've loved being a mum. No regrets at all.

DH was my first (and only) real love. He died 29 years ago, when the kids were babies, and I still love and miss him.

Don’t think of my first love at all. Do think about someone from a bit later in my life all the time. The connection I had with them has never been repeated. Saying that it was a two year relationship with lots of the good things, lots of sex and lots of fun. I doubt it would be like that after 20 years. It would be what we having for tea, can you try to stop snoring and shall we have a shag as it’s been a while. I prefer the memory version!

I think about him daily and would dearly love to rekindle a relationship with him. We live relatively close and I would love to bump into him but unfortunately it doesn't happen.
There were issues beyond our control which would have been difficult and we'd have had to undergo genetic testing before having children. That was a concern, one of the things I didn't think of in my teens was that he was extremely wealthy in a very non showy sort of way and my lifestyle would have been so different.

I do sometimes, but 11 years on I usually think, thank fuck that it didnt work out
I see why it didnt, at the time it absolutely broke my heart, but if I had married him, I dont think I would have been happy. I'd have spent my life unsure whether that day it was actually that he was working late, or if it really was another man or woman, as he had a habit of not keeping his privates to himself.
I wish we could've been friends, as at the time we were together he was the only person who was there for me.

I met mine at 15, and we were together for 6 years. We broke up because he joined the army. We bumped into each other 2 years later and have been happily married now for 13 years.

I did have other boyfriends in the time we were apart, but my feelings never came anywhere near my feelings for DH.

That's such a lovely story!! Stay safe.

Not my first boyfriend no as I was only 15/16. However I often think of an older guy I saw on and off between the ages of 18-22. He was 25 when I met him and nearly 30 when we stopped seeing each other. My god, I was absolutely obsessed and would’ve done anything for him. He didn’t treat me particularly nice but so didn’t care as he was so tall, dark, handsome, rich and intelligent. And smooth as fuck. He completely bowled me over. He moved for work and went on to marry someone who’s pretty much my doppelgänger. I still FB stalk him from time to time if I’m bored. But I think about him often, even dream about him sometimes which I hate as I always wake up feeling really disconcerted. Obviously he’s happily married with 2.4 children. But my god that was an intense time, I call it my ‘summer of love’ as we met in a baking hot summer and spent most of it shagging in the countryside

I felt a similar way to someone else actually, almost exactly the same scenario, tall, dark, handsome, very wealthy. Had lots of high society socialists dripping off his arms We had brief flings from when I was 23-27, the last time (from 26-27) was something more meaningful, but in the end, I knew I could never trust him not to stray, so I left him. He seemed devastated and proposed and I said no and 3 months later met my now husband who is everything he and the first guy were....except he saw my worth the minute he met me. He didn’t need years to figure out I was the one for him.

So I still think about both these men lots, and still sometimes speak to the latter, but I definitely haven’t done too bad for myself with DH, in fact I think I lucked out

Socialites not socialists

Yes, we're still in touch and went to each other's weddings.

Yes, annoyingly. I’d rather not think about him at all but the way he treated me and how it ended have had a long lasting effect on me and my future relationships, so I still have a lot of bitterness and resentment towards him.

But I am also well aware I dodged a bullet. I hear from mutual friends although he’s doing well with work and is filthy rich, he’s still unable to commit to anyone and doing a shitload of drugs.

I think of mine occasionally and think thank fuck I didn’t end up with him.

Have seen FB pictures of him and he looks incredibly dull.

I do think of him, but not in the same way you do. I remember the intoxicating feeling of falling in love for the first time. That was special.

I also think how glad I am that I backed out of marrying him. We are Facebook friends now and the way he behaves underlines our incompatibility. He isn't an awful person, but he wouldn't have suited me. I am much happier with my current DP, and my ex appears to be with a wife who suits him better too, so everything worked out for the best.

Yes but I married him so probably not your target audience! I never really had serious boyfriends when I was a teen/early 20s. Two 'serious' (to me!) relationships but didnt love either and they werent particularly long.

Got together with DH at 28 but had known him since 16. On some level was probably in love with him the whole time. 35 now married/children etc and still very much in love.

Yes I still think about him the odd time but I think it's important not to let him contact you too much or you end up fantasising over what could of been instead of what is. It's annoying I feel like they still have a hold on us after all these years but I think we are only human in that we care for people that where good to us and wish them well as long as that's all it is. Maybe give it a break if your starting to yearn for him. Best of luck

I can't identify a first love. I had lots of crushes in my teens and twenties, and several long term boyfriends. I think I was more into having a bf than falling in love.

One that stuck with me for years was a guy I met when working at a holiday camp during the summer when I was at uni. He was tall, goodlooking and charming. We kept in touch for years (by post, this was decades ago!) but we never lived near each other. He joined the marines and used to visit me sporadically. Very romantic and exciting but I kind of knew we weren't truly suited. Eventually we lost touch but hooked up again on Friends Reunited and had a boring chat about houses and gardens. He stopped replying but it was ok as the myth had vanished by then. I imagine him now as bald, fat and boring!! But still think of him occasionally.

The guy I have never truly forgotten was the boyfriend I had before I met DH. The only other person I have ever imagined being married to. We've always kept in touch and still meet up from time to time, though now live 300 miles apart. Nothing ever happens (I wouldn't let it but think he would). He wasn't perfect- I broke it up - but there's an indefinable pull and I do still think of him a lot. But sometimes he annoys me when we meet - too judgemental and slightly over bearing, so I doubt it would work.....but can't help wondering... (He's divorced and has not got a new partner, as far as I know).

Aww it's so nice to see I'm not crazy!!!