To ask if you still think about your first love?

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Just wondering As I feel like I will never stop loving him.

I met him when I was 16 and split up when I was 20 he was abit older than me he was a great boyfriend though and he still checks up on me to this day.

As much as I love my OH now and we have two DCS together the love I still feel for my first boyfriend feels so much more deeper.

I don't know if their is something wrong with me or what??

What a very sad story abbey44 I hope you have had support around you

Rarely. My parents/grandparents were war traumatised and both his parents were from countries that inflicted a lot of that pain (Japan and Germany). I think I had some Stockholm syndrome or something because he behaved pretty heartlessly.

Oh @abbey44 that's incredibly sad. I'm sorry for your loss

Yes, I do from time to time.

At the time I thought I’d been so wronged in the relationship with my first love, but now I can see that in some ways I behaved very badly. I also thought I’d never get over him and I have.

18 until 21 ish for me, off and on.

Aged 14-16 my high school boyfriend. I didn't until recently when he was killed in a car accident. I went to his funeral out of respect and his family were very inviting and supportive. We would have stayed together if it had been for me moving house

I googled mine and he doesn't come up at all so I assume he has either died or emigrated. I hope the latter.

@abbey44 That's so sad. Makes you realise how precious life is.

Yes, strangely enough I was talking about him the other day! Met when I was 18, he was 28 (my mum was handling his divorce) and only lasted a year, before we decided we we're too different. I would've changed my whole life plan to be with him, never felt the same about anyone before or since. He went on to marry someone who looks just like me, has similar background, works in similar job. I find myself wondering if we could've made it work.

I never stopped thinking about my high school sweetheart, he was my first love and we were infatuated with each other to the point of obsession.

We grew apart in our early 20's and I got married (lovely man but platonic, friendship relationship) and he got engaged.
We met up again 4yrs ago just to catch up and he left his fiancee a week later and me and my husband separated very shortly after. He said he realised he'd always been in love with me.
4yrs down the line we're married with a beautiful little boy and a baby girl due in January.
I'm still very good friends with my ex, and him and his fiancee came to our wedding, and we're looking forward to theirs next Summer.

@MaryShelley1818 So your ex and your husbands ex are getting married ?

I am married to mine. Went out for 3 years from 17-20. Work took us in different directions and then 4 years ago we rekindled, married 2 years ago and although there have been some incredibly tough times (health, redundancy, etc) we're very happy.

Hes one of my closest friends, so yes I do. Our relationship meant a lot to both of us, he was the first person I had sex with, the first person I lived with and we were going to get married. I do sometimes wonder what it would be like if we had got married, but in a curious way, not in a longing/regretful way.

Almost daily. I will never love anyone like i loved him even though he betrayed me in the worst way. I would have done anything to try and make it work

I've thought about mine a lot this year. I found out he died from Covid in April by looking at his wife's facebook page.
It hit me hard. We were only together a few short amazing months when I was 16 and he was 24. I'm now 53. We would bump into each other periodically over the years and have a brief catch up. The last time was about 18 months ago when I sailed past him in car waving and he ribbed me on FB about not giving him a lift. I so wished I had stopped now as that would have been my last opportunity to talk to him.

Yes. Similar to pp, we were both 15 and are still together today at 41.

Yes my ex was lovely just a commitment phobe. I met him when I was 17 and it was absolutely love at first sight....bam! Being a grown up (20 years on lol) I can see now that he has some kind of post trauma issues from issues growing up but at 17 (to 23) I couldn't see that. He was just perfect except for all that. I wasn't though, I definitely wasn't grown up enough.

I'd have married him if he could commit....it would have been a total car crash probably because of me!. I'm
Glad we ended it mutually so when I see him or his mum we can still hug it out and have a lovely chat.

He's just such a decent human and I know if I needed help he'd be there even after all this time.

Luckily I married the love of my life (trying to convince myself as he sits next to me huffing his morning breath!)

Yes. Funnily enough, it was 30 years ago this summer when we first got together when I was 16 and he was 17. It lasted a shade under 2 years and was the classic case of splitting up when we went to Uni.
We were very much chalk and cheese but it was a sweet, innocent time.
We haven't stayed in contact at all and he did find me a couple of years ago through FB and sent a friend request.... I declined it as I'd like to keep the past in the past.

From what I've seen on FB and LinkedIn, he has matured VERY well for his age .

Lots and lots, nearly 30 years on. Nothing has ever compared, sadly.

Facebook doesn't help as he moved overseas met the 'perfect' wife.

The old MN saying 'comparison is the thief of joy'.

[quote userxx]@MaryShelley1818 So your ex and your husbands ex are getting married ? [/quote]
Haha...most definitely not!
My ex is getting married to his fiancee (not my husband's ex).

I was never that into mine really. I just thought I'd better have a boyfriend or I'd end up a nun! We were together for two years but the relationship had a distinct limp from the start. Then I met my now DH and that was the end of that! Ex is married with three kids now. I haven't seen him for about 16 years but friends occasionally tell me about his life.

DD is 16 and is currently in her first proper relationship. She's really scared of becoming obsessed, so keeps him a little bit at arm's length. I don't think they'll be together forever, but I hope they have happy memories.

I can’t remember loving him at all, I know I obviously did at some point but that feels completely alien to me. The love I had for him. I don’t think even was real love, I look back but with relief that it ended. I with with him for 6 years from the age of around 17 but fell out of love with him way before the relationship ended and never felt a single pang of any emotion for him since.

Yes! I was 17. Not seen him in for years. I was t very nice to him and it didn’t end well I stalked him on SM though. I still think of that time when we were together and get sudden waves of nostalgia. Even 30 odd years on.

Yes I do, which is annoying because I wish I didn’t. But I think it’s normal

Yes! I was just 14. Haven’t seen him for 34 years. Still think of him