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AIBU not to have let her in without a mask.

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Trialanderror02 · 23/10/2020 10:54

I know masks are a touchy subject and I am not against people who are exempt from masks. I don’t judge or shout at people in the supermarket 🤣
Today I had British gas turn up at the door for meter readings, she was a little rude when I wouldn’t let her in the house ( CEV house ) as she was not wearing a mask. She explained that she was exempt but right now we are in teir 2 no household mixing etc was I unreasonable not to let her in without a mask. She kept telling me she was exempt so therefore did not require to wear a mask
Which like I said I would usually accept but not when they are coming in to my house. I do not take DD ( CEV ) in to shops etc.

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pontiouspilates · 23/10/2020 10:55

Not unreasonable at all IMO. You don't have to let anyone into your house.

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 23/10/2020 10:57

Nope not unreasonable. They'll have to send someone willing to wear one.

MootingMirror · 23/10/2020 10:57

Your house, your choice. I understand people have disabilities but it's exactly the same as you deciding not to let anyone in for any reason. Unfortunately, there are far too many people claiming to have exemptions when they don't and it means that anyone with a genuine exemption is treated with a lot of scrutiny. Also, whether she has an exemption or not, she's just as likely to give you Covid.

Sparklesocks · 23/10/2020 10:58

I don’t think it’s unreasonable, it’s your house and you need to feel comfortable. And you can submit meter readings yourself, it’s not like it was an essential call out for a broken boiler etc.

2020canfuckitself · 23/10/2020 10:58

You have to do what's right for you and your family

wink1970 · 23/10/2020 10:59

Not unreasonable, and personally I think exempt people should carry a form/ wear a lanyard, and if I'm brutally honest I think they should only be issued by medical professionals, but I understand that last bit might be hard at the moment.

EL8888 · 23/10/2020 11:01

Your house = your rules. It’s a pandemic! I would make a complaint about her rudeness, another person who doesn’t like being challenged. It’s not all about her

EL8888 · 23/10/2020 11:01

@wink1970 l completely agree

flaviaritt · 23/10/2020 11:02

I’d have let her in and just kept my distance. The masks are only useful in close proximity. She’s exempt and trying to do her job.

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 23/10/2020 11:02

Her employer should find something for her to do that doesn't involve going into people's houses if she is unable to wear a mask. Can't imagine many people will be happy for her to come in without one atm.

FinallyHere · 23/10/2020 11:03

Let's face it, no one would give a seconds consideration to a surgeon who claimed to be exempt from wearing a mask.

Snufkin2 · 23/10/2020 11:04

I agree that I think too many people are claiming exemption making it harder for those who have genuine reasons. However the medical profession has enough to do just now without having to get involved.

faelavie · 23/10/2020 11:05

Not at all unreasonable. Your house, your rules!

I have let people in without a mask before we went into Tier 2 (washing machine repair man!) but just kept my distance and wiped down surfaces. But that's my house. You have a right not to let people into your house without a mask.

flaviaritt · 23/10/2020 11:05

Let's face it, no one would give a seconds consideration to a surgeon who claimed to be exempt from wearing a mask.

Well, no, but doing a meter reading is quite a bit different to taking out someone’s appendix.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 23/10/2020 11:05

I refused entry to a meter reader. I simply told him he couldn’t come in and he went away. Completely unnecessary because we submit readings each month anyway. What a waste of time.

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Trialanderror02 · 23/10/2020 11:06

@flaviaritt that did make me chuckle 😂🤣

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Noitjustwontdo · 23/10/2020 11:06

Not unreasonable at all. Usually find people who say they’re exempt actually aren’t at all, they just cba wearing one.

nether · 23/10/2020 11:08

As you are ECV, then it is totally reasonable to refuse to have people in your house other than when essential, and even then it is a reasonable adjustment for you to require the person sent PPE (such as mask) to protect you.

Other possibilities are an estimated bill, or providing your own reading

An exemption from wearing a mask does not mean you can put the ECV at risk (anywhere, let alone in their own homes)

tattooedmummy1 · 23/10/2020 11:08

Your house, your rules. You don't have to let someone in if you're not comfortable to do so.

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Trialanderror02 · 23/10/2020 11:10

As I said I am a not a busy body who goes out of my way to moan and people not wearing a face mask. However my DD is not even back at school because even the LA realise. She is up there with the most vulnerable in terms of illness. Like my mum isn’t allowed to even walk in my front door even socially distancing and with a mask. I just find it odd they would send someone exempt from mask wearing around multiple people’s houses.

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WhereamI88 · 23/10/2020 11:14

YANBU. Her health issues don't trump yours. If others are fine to let her in the house, that's up to them. But you absolutely do not have to do that. She's going round lots of people's houses without a mask, she could be a Covid super spreader.

everyothernamewastaken · 23/10/2020 11:16

Yanbu.

Also exempt from wearing a mask doesn't mean that person couldn't infect someone. So if your household is very vulnerable you're entitled to feel worried about it.

SqidgeBum · 23/10/2020 11:17

My husband works for an energy company and goes in and out of peoples houses, similar situation to this. They are told to wear masks all the time. YA 100% NBU. If she is in and out of peoples houses on a daily basis, she could be a super spreader. You were right. If she is exempt she her manager needs to sort another role for her that isnt so risky to her and others.

ChasingRainbows19 · 23/10/2020 11:17

It’s your house. Your rules. You have good reasons for not letting her in, contact the company and ask for someone that is prepared to wear a mask as you have a vulnerable household.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/10/2020 11:18

She can be exempt. It makes no difference to you.

I am in and out of houses all the time. I am not exempt but cannot usually wear a mask and do my job - I dictate note as I go! So other procedures are followed.! It's not as if there is no notice or knowledge of the many and varied possible sutiations she may encounter!