Sweets in graveyard...?

[LadyHalesBroach]

I’ll set the scene...

Currently sat at a table having coffee in Kew Gardens enjoying five mins peace.

Table next to me are a bunch can of SWLondon Mums.

“Isn’t it sad that Tarquin and Hyacinth-Petunia (I think those were the names...) can’t go trick or treating this year, poor darlings.”

“I’m taking them to the graveyard and hiding sweets behind all gravestones instead.”

I’m sat here like what?! Maybe it’s because I recently lost my mum, but if someone came and stuck haribo on her gravestone, I would a)kick off either child or parent and b) eat her sweets.

Or am I being over precious?

YANBU it's in really poor taste.

No idea what it has to do with them being from South West London though.

YANBU - cemeteries aren't playgrounds.

Not a safe place, either - old tombstones can be unstable.

I don’t u derstand your SW mum reference (I’m not London based). But...thats really crass and ignorant behaviour. Enjoying graveyards is one thing (history, calm etc) but to use gravestones as a “spooky Halloween toy” isn’t on.

You’re right I shouldn’t tarnish all with a brush, not all of us put sweets on graveyards

Idiots.

Not being over precious at all. I’m so sorry for your loss. 💐
Sadly some people are insensitive, thoughtless, self centered idiots.

Regardless SW London or not....
you're totally not over precious about this!

Peoples graves aren’t a prop! What the fuck.

No idea what it has to do with them being from South West London though.

Did they were badges??

But yes obvs it's wrong.

One of the ideas for a charity run I am doing was “run through a graveyard”. I found that a bit sick too, as in those graves are real people.

Oh & as a born & raised SW Londoner the only people I know with dc names like that aren't from SW London. They just spend a bit of time here in between the home counties 😁

Yanbu about playing in a graveyard. Hugely disrespectful.

Yabu about the description of the women and their children. Reverse snobbery comes to mind.

If it's St Anne's on Kew Green, they're all long dead! And the church ladies used to - perhaps still do - serve teas to customers sitting on the graves on sunny afternoons. Rising up like a Spencer painting!

@BrumBoo

Yanbu about playing in a graveyard. Hugely disrespectful.

Yabu about the description of the women and their children. Reverse snobbery comes to mind.

100% reverse snobbery.

I’m from Glasgow and there was a case here a few years ago about a child who was killed by a falling gravestone.

It’s not a safe place for a child to play

@Pelleas

YANBU - cemeteries aren't playgrounds.

Not a safe place, either - old tombstones can be unstable.

This. I grew up on Cemetery Rd, tombstones often toppled!

amp.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/jun/18/family-glasgow-boy-ciaran-williamson-crushed-gravestone-compensation

If the graves are all a few hundred years old, I don’t know think it’s as bad.

But I’m Irish so I don’t know what SW London mums means or how it’s relevant.

I think we need some witch hazel to dab on the bruised feelings engendered by this thread. Sadly I can only find this emoji

Haribo? In a graveyard?

"Call the police...!"

Wait.

"We are the police" (in a squeaky voice)

It was a thoughtless suggestion but there is no need to be snobbish about it