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To ask if you see your neighbours having too many people over at christmas will you report them?

429 replies

ShesMadeATwatOfMePam · 17/10/2020 18:55

Just that really. Will you actually report your neighbours if you see they have over 6 people at christmas, if the rule of 6 is still in place?

Yabu: yes i will report them
Yanbu: i wouldn't report

From my point of view, i wouldn't report.

OP posts:
AGoatAteIt · 18/10/2020 08:26

No way- unless we’re talking 50 odd drunk adults piling in making a racket. I wouldn’t have reported neighbours breaking the rules at Eid either. I value the good terms I’m on with my neighbours.

Bluesheep8 · 18/10/2020 08:42

I'd bitch about them on Mumsnet but I wouldn't report them.

Grin same here. I think that goes for most of us!

Coldandwet123 · 18/10/2020 08:49

@FlippinNoah

What would Jesus do?
Well He 'broke the rules' by healing a woman on the Sabbath and was crusitcised by the Jewish leaders. Like the lady on another thread who wants her friend to come for Christmas Dinner because she is very ill. Surely nicer to be compassionate.
PutThemInTheIronMaiden · 18/10/2020 08:57

@FlippinNoah

What would Jesus do?

Turn the water into wine and have a rule of 6 piss up.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 18/10/2020 09:01

Well Jesus would mainly raise eyebrows at why are his birthday celebrated at different time than he was born...

CarolineBingley · 18/10/2020 09:14

No way! On Easter Weekend (during the strict lockdown), it was quite clear that a number of our neighbours had family around, especially our elderly neighbours had their daughter and family round. None of my business!!

studychick81 · 18/10/2020 09:15

Depends on the numbers. One or two extras including children no. 10 plus or big party yes.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 18/10/2020 09:19

No
God no

Ponoka7 · 18/10/2020 09:27

@HeretoThereandBackAgain
" I would. Because it’s all the selfish fuckers who couldn’t follow the rules at the beginning who've put us in this position now."

No it isn't. The rules at the start was to ease the pressure off our health service. We were never going to get rid of the virus. Those of us who were trying to explain that we were going to have to learn to live with it, was being shouted down by those who thought we were eliminating it. We never were and getting our numbers down and then opening up holidays, was pointless.

This is a contagious virus that does well in cold weather. We let it in, in big numbers and our government allowed it to circulate. We all then had to get on with it. Unfortunately it kills the elderly and is a threat to other vulnerable categories. So that's what's happening. We are trying to cut transmission routes, but a level of personal risk assessment should be allowed.

I'm in Liverpool, we can't mix, but we can fly to countries that have no restrictions. So we can't spend a few hours together on Christmas day, with seven family members, but we can sit on a plane for as many hours as we choose with at least a hundred other people, after sitting in the airport with hundreds, for at least two hours. It's quite reasonable to ask why Students have returned to our city, to not physically attend University, but to shop, mix etc in our city.

My neighbour works with her two daughters in a local Care home. Combined they are a gathering of 11, but there's no increase in transmission risk.

Thanks to fall outs and deaths, our family Christmas day will be less than six, but I wouldn't report anyone else. There's enough pressure on Merseyside Police, without this nonsense.

Those saying 'lets see were we are at Christmas', do you think it isn't going to get worse? Are you one of the ones that thought we could eliminate it first time around?

Runningdownthathill · 18/10/2020 09:29

No. That is not the sort of worksI want to live in.

Runningdownthathill · 18/10/2020 09:29

World

fewming · 18/10/2020 09:30

Absolutely not - under any circumstances.

Stillgoings · 18/10/2020 09:41

No I wouldn't unless it was a big new year's party and then I might. Even then though, Id be mad but I probably still wouldn't as don't like snitching

Lavanderrose · 18/10/2020 09:42

@HeretoThereandBackAgain

I would. Because it’s all the selfish fuckers who couldn’t follow the rules at the beginning who've put us in this position now. They’ve destroyed Christmas for a lot of other people, myself included who now can’t travel to see loved ones.
Are you sure it wasn’t the eat out to help out scheme, the reopening of all schools, the get back to work so that office workers can buy their lunch and train tickets to reboot the economy. Are you sure it wasn’t the mass migration of thousands of university students moving across different parts the country? Or maybe the lack of testing & poor track and trace system we have. It’s the Govt that should be blamed.
wasthataburp · 18/10/2020 09:45

Absolutely not. Not under any circumstances even if they were having a party. Not my business and shame on anyone who would report

wasthataburp · 18/10/2020 09:45

Absolutely not. Not under any circumstances even if they were having a party. Not my business and shame on anyone who would report

SecretRedhead · 18/10/2020 10:34

How would people differentiate between a large party a family gathering?

My parents had 6 children so there are 8 to start with. Add our partners, children and my grandparents and our base family group is 21 people.

Are we going to be reported by the MN Stasi if we finally get together for the first time in a year?

wizzbangfizz · 18/10/2020 10:36

Nope

Conquered · 18/10/2020 10:45

Christmas is a time for families, we've all had such a shitty year.

What is 1 day in the grand scheme of things, No I wouldn't report.

My family is everything to me, and we always spend Christmas together.

LazingOnASundayAfternoon · 18/10/2020 10:48

a family dinner/get together - no way

a full on party with blaring music etc that impacts on the enjoyment of my own home - yes but I would report that even if covid wasn't an issue

Iftheclouds · 18/10/2020 10:52

Unless these loads of people no. I think this year has been hard enough for me everyone without reporting them.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 18/10/2020 10:54

As it stands, anyone in Tier 2 and 3 can't meet up indoors with anyone from another household at all, never mind 6. This means our son would have to spend Christmas on his own (I am already in a bubble with an elderly relative) Would be tempted to break the rules.

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 18/10/2020 10:58

Absolutely not and I’m very encouraged to read the responses here

Topseyt · 18/10/2020 11:00

@HeretoThereandBackAgain

I would. Because it’s all the selfish fuckers who couldn’t follow the rules at the beginning who've put us in this position now. They’ve destroyed Christmas for a lot of other people, myself included who now can’t travel to see loved ones.
Don't talk such utter bollocks. The virus was never going to be eliminated.

Travel to see your family at Christmas if you want to as long as it isn't to a huge rave. Or enjoy the self-imposed martyrdom of following inconsistent and arbitrary rules.

Bikingbear · 18/10/2020 11:01

21 people = a full on party.
If one person has the virus they could easily infect half of them. How can 21 people even in 7 family groups socially distance in a house.

Not that anyone is actually going to count the numbers in one house but it would be fairly obvious if a house has 5 or 6 cars outside.

Do people not remember the American family at the start of the outbreak, beautiful photo of about 12 people out celebrating a birthday, within about a fortnight 5 were dead.

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