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To ask if you see your neighbours having too many people over at christmas will you report them?

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ShesMadeATwatOfMePam · 17/10/2020 18:55

Just that really. Will you actually report your neighbours if you see they have over 6 people at christmas, if the rule of 6 is still in place?

Yabu: yes i will report them
Yanbu: i wouldn't report

From my point of view, i wouldn't report.

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whatkatydid2013 · 19/10/2020 10:37

No. I expect I won’t notice what anyone else is doing as we will be focused on our day and enjoying it with our 2 kids & (if allowed) my parents. If we still can’t meet indoors by then we will arrange to have a walk with my mum and dad one day and separately the kids & I will have a walk with my brother, SIL & nephew.

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bibbitybobbitycats · 19/10/2020 10:41

No chance. I would not report anyone for anything covid related, unless it was something like an employer forcing people to go into work when they should be self isolating.

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jacks11 · 19/10/2020 10:52

If they were having a large party with lots of people, I would consider it. A few extra people? Nope.

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jacks11 · 19/10/2020 11:03

Though I would only report serious breaches (a large party, for example), the lack of compliance with restrictions is of some concern. if so many people keep finding reasons why restrictions don’t apply to them I can foresee my January/Feb being busy (HCP). Covid is spread by prolonged/frequent close contact. We know spread within households and when visiting other households is a really common way the virus is transmitted. My fear is if everyone mixes “cos it’s Christmas”/ insert other reason, that transmission will rise, more people will be in hospital and more deaths. It may also mean even tighter restrictions. I understand the desire (I want to see family and friends too), but I think we do need to be careful.

If your visit/visitor is a vulnerable person, and you feel it imperative to get together then my plea would be for you all to be very careful in the few weeks leading up to your visit to minimise the risk of being able to pass it on (not trying to be patronising- a significant number of patients I have treated have caught it from visiting family or being visited).

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TheGinGenie · 19/10/2020 11:05

Absolutely not

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SpaceOP · 19/10/2020 11:10

Rule of 6 is unenforceable because it's just incredibly stupid. Family of 5 can only see one grandparent at a time when it doesn't take a genius to work out that from a risk perspective, seeing Granny and Grandpa simultaneously is no riskier than seeing just Granny. Yes, seeing Granny, Grandpa, Nana and Oupa all at the same time IS riskier, sure. But the rule of 6 has ridiculous consequences for two households being able to meet and that is why most people I know have not been complying to the same standard as they did during the rest of lockdown.

So like others, I certainly won't be reporting small infringements that actually make sense and I certainly wouldn't judge them. I wouldn't report a neighbour who had 10 people from 3 households round either, but I might judge them a little.

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Dogsareus · 19/10/2020 11:16

No, under any circumstances. And I don't plan to break the rules.

Anyone who reports someone else is a total dick with no life.

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LulaLuna · 19/10/2020 11:17

Defo not. I am doing what i can do to protect my family and that is as much as i can do to help.

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augustusglupe · 19/10/2020 11:26

Not in a million years. I just want to relax, unwind with our own family. I won't have time or indeed any inclination to be snooping on the neighbours.

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pawsies · 19/10/2020 11:26

Even if people do report are the police actually going to do anything? I'm sure there's not enough officers to go round and check up on people.

It seems like a good way to sour neighborhood relations and not achieve what you want to do which is to stop families meeting.

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Noitjustwontdo · 19/10/2020 12:04

I have better things to do at Christmas than stand watching my neighbours so no, I won’t be reporting anyone.

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 19/10/2020 13:19

No, assuming I'm invited too, otherwise I'll be putting ants 🐜🐜🐜 through their letterbox and writing a stern letter to the Parish Magazine.

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Thesearmsofmine · 19/10/2020 13:21

No. The majority of my neighbours are Muslim, I didn’t report them at Eid.

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Frownette · 19/10/2020 13:24

No.

I hardly hear a peep out of the neighbours anyway so doubt that they'd be having wild gatherings.

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Jaxhog · 19/10/2020 13:28

It depends.

If they have 1 or 2 extra people and keep to themselves - then no.

If they have a big party - then yes

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FilthyforFirth · 19/10/2020 13:29

Never in a million years. Christmas is special and after this shitshow of a year people deserve to be able to celebrate it however they want. We have cancelled our big family get together but I would not judge anyone else who carries on.

I am still hoping that we may get a reprieve for Christmas but given the total incompetance of the government not expecting it.

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ellyeth · 19/10/2020 13:33

No, I wouldn't report them.

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Pinkfluff76 · 19/10/2020 16:24

No

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Harls1969 · 19/10/2020 17:09

No, because I'll be too busy to notice. I'm just hoping that we stay in tier 1 because I really want to see my daughter on Christmas Day

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CherryPavlova · 19/10/2020 19:02

The idea of 'reporting' and anyone being remotely interested is quite funny. I'm imagining SAS hit squads rushing a semi in Cheltenham whilst Grandma watches the Queen and Grandpa snores in his chair.

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CheeseAndOnionIcecream · 19/10/2020 19:35

No,I would never snitch on my neighbours,even if I didn't like them (which I do,btw!). How depressing to think that we are turning into a nation of tittle tattles and curtain twitchers. Quite frankly I think (and hope!) that most people have got better things to do than telling tales on their neighbours. And as a previous poster has said,we don't always know the circumstances involved with the extra visitors.

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Beaverdam100 · 19/10/2020 21:40

No way. Anyone whi would do such a thing need to get a life.

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Beaverdam100 · 19/10/2020 21:41

@jaxhog shame on you.

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NRatched · 19/10/2020 22:08

@Bluesheep8

Nope. We'll be breaking the rule anyway.

And right there is the reason restrictions will just go on and on.

Meh, really the reason restrictions will just go on and on, is that there is unlikely to be a vaccine for a while yet. As a vaccine is the only realistic way out of this for us now. Even if everyone did follow the rules, restrictions will continue until there is a vaccine.
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GuyFawkesHadTheRightIdea · 20/10/2020 10:34

@CherryPavlova can you imagine? Doris sending in his goons wearing Santa hats just to keep it festive, people kicking off in their cracker hats, waving a Turkey leg in one hand and a copy of the Christmas telly guide in the other, gaudy Christmas sweater flashing away while it plays jingle bells 😂

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