Would you stay with a man who...

[razydazzlyself]

You have a baby with, but who doesn’t contribute financially (at all)?

He has no excuse to bring in a wage according to your updates, so you would be financially better without him, he's taking money from your baby.
I work, my Dh is home, but he does everything in the house and can't work due to illness. He earns his keep in this way rather than a paycheck. But if I had to work and do it all and was on the edge, he'd either have to work or leave.

No excuse not to.!

I did. More fool me.

If he was a SAHP then no problem at all. Or unable to work or find work but trying.

No.

Write the figures down, show him how you're struggling and tell him what you need him to do, to pull his weight.

You shouldn't have to do that but it looks like you do have to, to take the pressure off yourself.

One that's done you'll have more energy for yourself and your baby, and for considering your future.

Absolutely not.

I wouldn’t have got as far as getting pregnant with one.

@maddiemookins16mum

I wouldn’t have got as far as getting pregnant with one.

Please tell us how you think this comment is helpful to the OP.

As for OP question, if I were earning a comfortable amount for us all to live off of, and he were in a SAHD role, yes.

However, seeing your updates, no. Sorry

God no.

I would have 0 respect.

I'm sorry. No I wouldn't. Op reading your updates, this does not seem like a partnership. You are clearly frazzled to the ground. I think that if someone truest cares for you and sees you struggling, they would offer to give much more support.

Your issue isn’t that he doesn’t contribute financially, it’s that he apparently doesn’t contribute anything.

Confused about you saying he looks after the baby when you work, but he actually doesn’t because the baby is asleep. Seems a strange comment to make.

no.

Would your work or financial situation improve if you were a single parent? Would you miss him?

@razydazzlyself

I can’t give any more information away as I’m pretty sure it would be outing. But no, it’s not a reverse.

I doubt it would be outing.

Cocklodgers are common as muck, dime a dozen, can't sling a cat without cluncking one.

They're everywhere and not one of them is as unique as they think they are.

Get rid of him.

I may have missed some of the points but 'great dad, 50/50 childcare,he works' but you earn more. I look after our little one so my partner can work, and I work from home. I don't contribute anything because after my outgoings my low income let's me have £30 a week, enough to pop the shop, buy my little one essentials and toiletries etc. It doesn't go far. So after reading these comments I should contribute more ? I don't think you are being fair if he doesn't earn as much as you that's not his fault at least he is employed and he is pulling his weight with regards to housework and childcare. I've got to do all that while I try to work from home and feel so guilt I'm not contributing enough !

After reading all your updates, your situation is not fair at all. You are working yourself raw whilst struggling with PND AND doing the vast majority of the childcare AND doing 50/50 housework? I’m not surprised you feel like you can’t cope OP, he isn’t supporting you or stepping up to being a parent.

Is there someone you can talk to in real life for support? It sounds like you’re coping with so much and being taken advantage of

Also I know it’s a side issue but I do hope he’s not letting his mother be vile to you and challenges her when she is?

Quite honestly I think you'd be better off without your partner. You don't say why or in what way his mother is vile to you and that is of course your business but I bet she doesn't know how little her son contributes financially.

I hope you come back and tell us how you are getting on.

No.
If you carry on like this you will get very ill.

No op. You should tell him to leave. Sort childcare for your work. You'll be rid of his mum too.

No

"Great dads" don't sponge off the mother of their children, letting her work to the point of exhaustion just to break even. They share the burden and contribute financially to make sure their own flesh and blood have what they need, and their mother is physically and mentally well enough to care for them.

Surely you see this waste is taking the piss, and couldnt give a shiny shit how ill you make yourself trying to pick up his slack. Why would you even consider staying with such a man??

great dad my arse

It would depend why he wasn't contributing. If it was because he couldn't, e.g. because of disability, fine. If it was because he didn't choose to, absolutely not.

Why is housework 50:50 when he works fewer hours than you and does not take on the bulk of childcare?