"Don't worry, we can just do it at mine instead"

rainbowrain107 · 2020-10-15T13:02:35+00:00

Lunch booking for group of 6 friends in London booked for Saturday. Obviously, can't go ahead now as the restaurant likely to be funny about 6 adults traipsing in. However the organiser has already announced to everyone that she'll just host at hers instead. This attempt at lockdown just isn't going to work is it?

Shoxfordian · 15/10/2020 14:03

Yeah your friend doesn't seem to understand it

Jeezoh · 15/10/2020 14:04

I would decline her offer but am sure many wouldn’t, I think the time has passed for mass compliance unfortunately.

AfterSchoolWorry · 15/10/2020 14:05

What a dope!

BiddyPop · 15/10/2020 14:13

Yup. We have been going nowhere except local shops for food, driving dd to school and sports training (parents not allowed out of the car at either place - only the participant/pupil), and I still have my Cubs meeting but in the open with social distancing and only half at a time (so group of 15 including leaders - which is allowed). Not gone to restaurants, pubs are still closed here, no gatherings of friends or coffees in neighbours house/garden.

But ILs have just had a family gathering for a cancelled communion - but the food from caterer and the bouncy castle were booked so the 3 DSisters came together with their families and had a great day - about 19 people. When we're all to meet no more than 1 other family and max group of 6. And all DParents hanging around the side of pitches for training in their town, lots of play dates and other activities......

The notion of personal responsibility seems to have passed so many people by.

DameFanny · 15/10/2020 14:14

Oh dear. What have you told her OP?

Feefifo9 · 15/10/2020 14:15

They missed their window to get track and trace working. Now most people are passed caring... compliance will only reduce over time.

Hadjab · 15/10/2020 14:15

Technically, you can still meet in her garden if she has one

picklemewalnuts · 15/10/2020 14:16

I think you need to reply pretty promptly 'No, sorry, that can't happen either. It's such a shame.'

There may well be a few people hoping someone else will say it. Some people genuinely don't understand, others assume their POV is the norm. We have to speak up.

Nottherealslimshady · 15/10/2020 14:17

YANBU

I dont see why everyone cant just bloody follow the rules for a few weeks in the hope of having Christmas with our families

Toptrumps2020 · 15/10/2020 14:20

Some people dont get it, some people are too selfish to alter their behaviour. I live in an area that has had extra restrictions in place since lockdown got lifted. Some of my work colleagues, who also live in the area, are pretty brazen about discussing how many visitors they've had at the weekend etc. They don't even make any attempt to excuse their behaviour, it's like they've decided that the rules just dont apply to them.

TheDuchessofMalfy · 15/10/2020 14:20

I was also going to say you can meet in the garden

NoGoodPunsLeft · 15/10/2020 14:21

@Hadjab

Technically, you can still meet in her garden if she has one

Yes, or a pub/restaurant outdoor seating (preferably with heaters)

SEPrimary · 15/10/2020 14:21

The second peak will be far higher. People are done with keeping away from family and friends and don’t think they are personally at risk.

I’m fearful that this will be a very long, dark winter as once the restrictions come in, they will only tighten and not loosen again until late Spring as people refuse to comply and schools remain open keeping the tap “open” at least in part, unlike the summer.

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rainbowrain107 · 15/10/2020 14:25

I've not replied yet. Don't think it will be hosted in her garden - far too cold!

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Dozycuntlaters · 15/10/2020 14:35

I dont see why everyone cant just bloody follow the rules for a few weeks in the hope of having Christmas with our families

What about those who don't have families. What about the 95 year old I have befriended though age concern who faces another couple of weeks of total isolation if I can't go and see him. He has no family, he has nothing to look forward to through another lock down. What about those who need to go to work otherwise they face losing their houses. What about those who suffer from mental health conditions, what is it going to do to them. It's not so simple as stick to the rules. These restrictions will cause far more harm than covid will, but hey, as long as some people get to see their families for a jolly at christmas what does it matter.

lyralalala · 15/10/2020 14:39

@Dozycuntlaters

I dont see why everyone cant just bloody follow the rules for a few weeks in the hope of having Christmas with our families

What about those who don't have families. What about the 95 year old I have befriended though age concern who faces another couple of weeks of total isolation if I can't go and see him. He has no family, he has nothing to look forward to through another lock down. What about those who need to go to work otherwise they face losing their houses. What about those who suffer from mental health conditions, what is it going to do to them. It's not so simple as stick to the rules. These restrictions will cause far more harm than covid will, but hey, as long as some people get to see their families for a jolly at christmas what does it matter.

If the 95 year old lives alone and only sees you then you are his support bubble and you can still see him.

TheFuckingDogs · 15/10/2020 14:40

Well said Dozy! It’s not as simple as let’s all lock down now so we get to have our nice middle class John Lewis Christmas for many people

Dozycuntlaters · 15/10/2020 14:40

If the 95 year old lives alone and only sees you then you are his support bubble and you can still see him* I hope so but during the last lock down no one but carers were allowed in the sheltered accommodation where he lives, plus the charity I do it through said not to go. To be honest, I don't think they like that I go there now but all his clubs are shut and I go there and cook him a nice meal every week which he massively looks forward to.

Averyyounggrandmaofsix · 15/10/2020 14:42

Has anyone guaranteed this will all be over by Christmas then?

Inkpaperstars · 15/10/2020 14:45

Sorry, I am a bit behind the times....has London been put in tier two?

Hardbackwriter · 15/10/2020 14:48

I live one of the new tier 2 areas too and so far I've had seven people (including my own parents and my PIL) tell me that they're going to ignore it and one friend say that 'she's happy to go ahead but gets it if I'm uncomfortable' when I said what a shame it was that we now can't meet up in London as we'd planned on Saturday

BigSandyBalls2015 · 15/10/2020 14:49

I'm in London and due to have lunch at a friend's house in Sussex on Sunday - I've text her and said it's not possible now …. her response was "why not, I'm not in London so it's not mixing London houses".

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rainbowrain107 · 15/10/2020 14:51

@Inkpaperstars

Sorry, I am a bit behind the times....has London been put in tier two?

Yes

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rainbowrain107 · 15/10/2020 14:52

@BigSandyBalls2015

I'm in London and due to have lunch at a friend's house in Sussex on Sunday - I've text her and said it's not possible now …. her response was "why not, I'm not in London so it's not mixing London houses".

I guess nothing stops Londoners heading out of London to go to a restaurant?

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Hadjab · 15/10/2020 14:53

@BigSandyBalls2015

I'm in London and due to have lunch at a friend's house in Sussex on Sunday - I've text her and said it's not possible now …. her response was "why not, I'm not in London so it's not mixing London houses".

Technically, she's correct - whilst travelling between tiers is not recommended, it's also not prohibited