AIBU to buy this romper for a baby girl?

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As above...please help settle a lighthearted disagreement between me and my friend!

It’s perfectly possible to dress a girl in pink without reinforcing stereotypes. I have a 6yo who loves wearing dresses and will always choose one over leggings. She loves unicorns and princesses and hair bows. She also loves Lego and dinosaurs and cars...

I dressed her in pink, white, blue, green, red, purple, cream, grey, black, etc. as a baby. The only colours I avoided are orange and yellow because she doesn’t suit them. Now, I buy clothes I think she’ll like.

DD2 is now wearing DD1’s old baby clothes. She will still grow up to be her own person and allowed to wear the clothes she likes.

"because you are forcing out dated and life limiting expectations on children by telling them they can't wear clothes that are a certain colour or style because of what is between their legs. It starts with clothes as a baby and goes on to toys/hobbies/jobs, which is why women generally earn a lot less than men, because the top earning and powerful jobs are not for women, they should be having a babies and cleaning the house while the men get on with that stuff, and why so many men suffer with mental health problems, because they are told they should 'man up' and not express emotions because that's for women.

It's not just about clothing it's about the gendering of everything and limiting people because of what is between their legs."

This. Can't believe we're still having to have this conversation in 2020.

I have! 😂😂

That's so cute, I think it's suitable for both a boy & girl! 😁 You should definitely get it!

It's unisex but I wouldn't put my dd in it if it was bought for her.

Only on MN would people say this is unisex. It’s not.
It’s a traditional boys romper (bloody lovely it is too).

Ooh, I think it's gorgeous, and would have been thrilled to recieve this as a present for a boy or girl. My daughters lived in JoJo rompers like this when they were small.

Boy or girl. But I wouldn't put my kids in it because of the soldiers.

Personally I wouldn't put my dd in it but I love pink and she only wore pink for years, until she had a choice in what she wore and chose.

I do think it is unisex however it would not be my choice of gift. Seems old fashioned. I would imagine that the child would be dressed in it once and a picture sent to you.

It's gorgeous

I think it's really cute! I love children in gingham and nice collars. I don't like dressing babies in "older" clothing like jeans, or clothes with tacky slogans. I would have said it's for a boy or girl. Either would look sweet in it.

Thanks everyone!! Certainly given me some food for thought, I think I’ll get something softer like a baby sleep suit that might get more use. This will be my friends first baby and I’m not sure what she’ll be like about dressing it so I’ll go for something a bit less polarising!

I tend to buy things I like and assume that other people have the same taste! But for a baby I’ll be more sensitive.

The thing is though, it's only recognisable as a traditional boy's romper by English people, perhaps even of a specific class, because it's a specific cultural association, it's not universal. If you're sending it to someone in another country and they don't have those associations, they're probably going to make the broader association of gingham and a rounded collar being "girly" and wouldn't think of it as a boy's item at all. So I think if you want to send it abroad you could easily do that without causing offence.

I think blue and white checks are lovely and will look fine on boy or girl.

Just bought 2 for twins.
And yes, I would dress a girl in it, but maybe not as a present, not everyone has the same taste.

Not my usual style but if someone bought that for one of my girls I'd have put them in it. I much prefer rompers to dresses though!

It’s adorable!!

It does not look unisex

I do like what you've chosen it lovely but I think why your friend might be thinking it's boyish as it has soldiers on it.
This romper is more girly and is on sale.
I do love both of them though. X

Just out of curiosity, why are so many people against gendered clothing?

i think I'm going to start a campaign with really sticky stickers and go round the pink/blue girly/boy sections of clothing stores and slap the stickers on the clothes. The pink ones will get "i have a vagina" and the blue ones will get "i have a penis"

White babies look lovely in pastel pink, it makes their skin look pink and healthy. Babies with darker skin look lovely in any colour but can really carry off things like bright yellow and bright orange which make white babies look sickly and jaundiced. I dressed my babies in whatever if felt like at the time, and it was often black. They looked like baby goths.

@Brefugee it makes even less sense when you consider that not much more than 100 years ago the colours were the other way round!

Absolutely, Brefugee! Look at baby pictures from the 1950s and 60s and there was far less gender difference.

My DS had this, which looks like a similar thing. He looked adorable in it, but it needed ironing. Never buy baby clothes which need ironing.