Shouted at in Lidl

[WheresTheFire]

This morning I went to Lidl, I had a large trolley full and queued up behind a lady. I didn't put anything on the belt and kept back.
An elderly gentleman was behind me with 3 or 4 items in a basket. He had a walking stick so I asked him if he wanted to go in front of me. He thanked me and put his shopping on the belt.
He was at least a metre away from the lady and we all had masks on.
Well, the woman went ballistic, shouting at us and wagging her finger shouting at us to keep away and dont we know theres a virus about and it's not funny etc etc.
I'm afraid I shouted back saying if shes that worried maybe get her shopping delivered.
I felt so sorry for the gent, he didnt know what had hit him.

@rayoflightboy

It wasn’t her elderly family member, so why are you asking how I would react if it happened to an elderly relative of mine?

Yes, I do think that the best way to react to anyone who goes “ballistic” is to not engage them

Oh wow op, well done to you. We are not animals, people should learn to communicate with respect! If they don't know how to, then they should not be out living in a civilised society. I would have reacted the same way if I was ever confronted in a disrespectful way, good on you and shame on that person!

A lot of people are enjoying the power that Covid is bringing. Checkout operators in particular are loving bossing everyone about. Asda are especially bad.

Frankly I'm just annoyed that she thought it ok to shout at an elderly gentleman who was struggling trying to queue for his shopping with a basket and walking stick.
If that was my dad I'd be so sad that he had to go through all that just to buy some teabags😞
No way was I going to keep quiet and let him be abused. I wish I had offered him a lift home but I guess that would be against the covid rules.

Some people just love shouting. I am close to someoen who has a temper and very little self control, covid has given her an excuse to shout at someone maybe twice a day, its awful. She then tells us all about it like we are going to say well done, when in reality we are embarrased of her. These people are not getting too close, or ignoring covid, she just loves having a go at people.

She was rude and inconsiderate.
Well done to you for letting him go first and sticking up for him.

@ripples101

It wasn’t her elderly family member, so why are you asking how I would react if it happened to an elderly relative of mine? hmm

He was somebodies elderly father though.

And the woman who shouted and went ballistic was someone’s mother or daughter.

Your point @rayoflightboy is, well, pointless.

The woman was wrong for shouting. I’ve said that all along.

@ripples101

Your logic makes no sense. The shouty woman was the aggressor, the elderly man was the victim of her tirade.

As @rainywindows says, her relatives would be embarrassed of her. Whereas if shouty woman had spoken to my elderly mum like that - and my mum would have been upset for days afterwards - I would have responded with cold rage.

@ripples101 your reply makes no sense.

The elderly man was the victim shouty woman was the aggressor

Shes in the wrong,no matter what way you try and swing it.

Again, I’ve said all along the woman who shouted was in the wrong. My point is simply - don’t engage with her at all. Don’t lower yourself to her level, don’t have a go back, just ignore her.

@ripples101

Again, I’ve said all along the woman who shouted was in the wrong. My point is simply - don’t engage with her at all. Don’t lower yourself to her level, don’t have a go back, just ignore her.

Why should she?!

I'm.sorry but I cannot just ignore someone raging at an elderly man, and I would like to think that if it was my dad someone would be looking out for him and fighting his corner.

At the end of the day the lady that shouted you shouted at you because she was scared. The one thing that this virus has caused is is a vast amount of unreasoned fear. With all the headlines and news reports with questionable stats and facts, it's easy to see why people are scared. She however handle the situation completely wrong - in times like these it's even more important for a decent amount of civility.

Well Done. I would have done the same! You were courteous and she appeared to be over anxious. You maintained distance and there was no touching. So yes. Get your shopping delivered if you are so worried

@CatSmith

She shouted..... and?

I really don’t get the point of your thread.

Catsmith Op is just telling the world what a wonderful person she is, sticking for an elderly man. Horrible thread

I dont by any stretch of the imagination think that I'm a wonderful person😆The thread was about my (albeit naive) shock of woman ranting and raving for no good reason.
Cant see why the thread is horrible but hey ho, I'm over it now. Maybe next time I'll just stand by and let a frail person be verbally abused.

@VeganVeal

I dont think Aldi deliver do they?

We do in some stores as a trail and there are rumours of a full click and collect service coming

@Shedbuilder

What a patronising put-down, OP. I hope you really are sorry for using it.

Every time I've asked people who've reached round me and touched me, or brushed past me, or bumped into me to stand back and give me space they've used that patronising line: 'If you're too scared to be out in public maybe you should get someone else to shop for you/ have a delivery.' It's a mean and nasty thing to say to someone who is just trying to observe guidelines and it says a lot about the people who use it.

This.

She shouldn't have shouted, but it is reasonable to want other people to observe the rules.

I'd rather have someone shout at me than infect me, or cause me to infect others. Behaviour which puts other people at risk is worse that behaviour that upsets people. (Though she should have found another way to convey the message.)

@bruffin

Op is just telling the world what a wonderful person she is, sticking for an elderly man. Horrible thread.

What are you still doing on the thread given you were troll hunting?

The hypocrisy of people telling OP to be passive and yet being passive aggressive themselves is hilarious.

Covid has given the losers of society some power.

Ah, yes - the power to be frightened of being infected by a stranger when you are trying to finish your shop. Great power indeed.

@ArcheryAnnie are you being deliberately obtuse? People have been video taping people not wearing a mask and calling them ‘retards’. Some people think they do have power to be aggressive towards anyone they see as non-compliant.