To ask what does your current partner not know about you?

[PunkyPirate]

I am ready for all the 'there are no secrets in our relationship' but surly there must be something your other half doesn't know?

For example, mine doesn't know that I had an affair when I was married to my ex husband with a man who is quite well known in football.

I'm not proud of what I did, but I was 21 at the time, in an abusive relationship and flattered that this older man complimented me and showed an interest in me. It was the first and last time I was unfaithful and definitely not something I can see myself doing now I am older and a little wiser and in a healthy and happy relationship.

@BitOfANameChange

My only long term relationship was my ex, 30 years together untiI I left in secret. I never ever told him I was bi, because I know that he would have tried to coerce me into a threesome, a recurring fantasy of his. He was sexually abusive and raped me twice, although he would never believe it was rape.

It actually feels good to type that out, I've never told anyone in RL, and struggled to find the words on here before.

It's never 2 men and a woman, always 2 women and the man.. Never see a bloke on telly say oh I fancy Ted let's have a 3some

Sorry for your awful experiences

BitofaNamechange

Im glad you left 🌺

That I slept with another woman when I was at university.

Nothing that I can think of. We were very good friends, for about 4/5 years before we got together though,m.

How down i am

I believe in God or "Something"

From a strongly atheist family, when i was younger I poured scorn on bible bashers, etc. The whole family think religion is ridiculous.

But in the back of my mind growing up, there was always some part of me wondering.

I have been researching online. Have never read the Bible but am trying learn about it. and have prayed in my head. nobody knows but me.

@BlueThistles

BitofaNamechange

Im glad you left 🌺

Thank you, and so am I

DC and I are doing well, and while I haven't dated since I left, I've been working on myself and maybe next year, when things might be more settled.

That my elderly father is " disengaged" because he has a serious mental health condition as a result of being hideously abused by clergy throughout his childhood and is now heavily medicated. My husband is a darling but would most definitely say something I found challenging due to naivety. I wouldn't want to have to deal with that.