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To call out my work colleague on her unacceptable view

263 replies

Marg33t · 27/09/2020 17:19

She posted today on Facebook that she was sick of hearing about the death of one police officer as there's more important things going on and it's a risk they accept.

I've got family members in the force and quite honestly they are hero's doing very difficult work that not many people would do. I can't stand this anti police sentiment. I've got a meeting with her and many others tomorrow afternoon and I'm worried I won't be able to keep my cool. Would it be unreasonable to send her a private message to say how offensive her post was? I want to say nothing, but I m not sure I can

OP posts:
Pollypocket89 · 28/09/2020 09:57

Anti blue lives? What.

It's a view different to your own, not wishing people dead

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 28/09/2020 09:58

You're trying to get it deleted because you know you've been petty and vindictive over a difference of opinion and you're getting, rightfully, pulled up on it.

Cadent · 28/09/2020 09:59

@Marg33t

Ok thanks all, I've decided to let it go and unfriend her.

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

This was a really shitty thing to do. Shame on you.
Caelano · 28/09/2020 10:00

Go on then, post the screenshot you’ve taken here if you’ve got the balls.

Course not.

Your attempt to try to drip feed that this colleague posted something so awful that it brings the company into disrepute, is an embarrassment to you. It’s clear she wrote something you don’t agree with, and for some reason (perhaps your own deep rooted unhappiness/ bitterness/ chip on shoulder - who knows?) you want to ‘dob her in’ like some spiteful little school kid.

Really, just stop now. And reflect on what it is about yourself that means you can’t deal with differences of opinion and would rather try to ‘punish’ those who don’t think the same as you.

Hadjab · 28/09/2020 10:02

YABU for using the phrase anti blue lives

DueNumberTwo · 28/09/2020 10:02

Wow, you're truly shocking. I doubt HR will care anyway she hasn't actually said anything that brings the company into disrepute.

thedancingbear · 28/09/2020 10:03

'Anti blue lives' is a reference to 'Blue Lives Matter'

which is in turn a pro-police reaction to 'Black Lives Matter'

So a bit racist really.

pooopypants · 28/09/2020 10:04

'unfairly flamed'!?!? You're being a brat because you've been called out, didn't get your own way and PP aren't fawning over you with fake 'aw huns'

Get a fucking grip OP. And stay off FB if you can't handle opinions from other people that may differ from yours.

S00LA · 28/09/2020 10:07

I'm trying to get this deleted as unless people know the situation with all the details I'll be unfairly flamed

Right. So you can’t cope with people disagreeing with your views on an anonymous forum. I thought you said that people should accept the consequences of their speech.

Yet you are trying to get her fired from her job for saying things you disagree with. At least she has the courage to put her name to her views.

Free speech is a very precious thing and I have little time for those like you who try to silence others while demanding that right for yourself.

Florencex · 28/09/2020 10:09

Im trying to get this deleted as unless people know the situation with all the details I’ll be unfairly flamed

You have provided enough details already and if she had really said truly nasty things you would have said so in the first place, not only after you have been called up on your despicable behaviour.

I commented a few posts ago without seeing your update that you reported her. You have posted enough to show how vile and intolerant you are. I cannot believe that her comment could possibly be against social media policy, it isn’t remotely offensive.

All you will have done is shown yourself to be spiteful, vindictive and intolerant of anyone that does not think exactly like you. This will come back to bite you as it definitely says more about you than her. You really should take some time to think about how you can be a better person and how to behave in the workplace.

Cadent · 28/09/2020 10:09

@thedancingbear

'Anti blue lives' is a reference to 'Blue Lives Matter'

which is in turn a pro-police reaction to 'Black Lives Matter'

So a bit racist really.

That’s disgusting. Have police really appropriated #BLM into Blue Lives Matter? What a twatty thing to do.
Hadjab · 28/09/2020 10:10

@SinisterBumFacedCat

Jesus, freedom of speech yes, but if you say something to provoke there are going to be consequences. A bit like some of you jumping at the chance to call the op the C word (classy) because you disagree with her posts. If the colleague is also friends with clients it is right that the company knows she is posting deliberately provocative rants.
There’s a difference between “provocative rants”, and posts that most companies would consider to be breaching social media policies. We can only go by the original post, but that barely even counts as provocative. It wasn’t inciting anyone to violence, it was expressing a personal sense of exasperation - one that OP does not share, but still not an excuse to possibly put someone’s livelihood in jeopardy.
thedancingbear · 28/09/2020 10:11

Have police really appropriated #BLM into Blue Lives Matter? What a twatty thing to do.

The police haven't. Most of them aren't that stupid. It's people like the OP who are driving that agenda.

Hope there's none of this 'blue live matter' shit on your FB feed, OP.

MolyHolyGuacamole · 28/09/2020 10:15

OP, I hope you get shat on by a bird, horrible thing to do

Caelano · 28/09/2020 10:17

Agree with everything you say @Florencex.

Another thing that’s so offensive about the OPs behaviour is that it detracts from things which really are unacceptable, such as racist or homophobic behaviour, or extremist views which break the law. Those are the things that should be ‘called out.’ Treating a difference of opinion in the same way minimises the real issues. We should aspire to being a society where we can be tolerant of those we disagree with, but united against abhorrent, criminal views.

So well done OP. Not only have you shown yourself to be utterly spiteful but you’re doing a disservice to intelligent, informed debate. Hope you’re proud of yourself.

changerr · 28/09/2020 10:18

If OP's work has any sense, SHE will be the one who is disciplined, not the person posting on FB.

Heffersclub · 28/09/2020 10:21

Maybe she's right? Perhaps you're in the wrong, one of those people who think wearing a uniform makes someone a 'hero' overnight?
Perhaps you're both entitled to your own opinions and there is no right or wrong here and you shouldn't bring personal arguments and differences into a workplace.
Delete or hide her feed if it bothers you that much. I choose not too generally because I don't want to end up in an echo chamber of my own views and preferences.

DueNumberTwo · 28/09/2020 10:21

Actually op if you've shared anything about 'blue lives matter' on your wall then I hope you realise how offensive that is considered by a lot of people

Rocinante39 · 28/09/2020 10:24

It is possible to disagree with someone without calling them out.

FrankieDoyle · 28/09/2020 10:25

Her views aren't awful, or unacceptable. Dont be so pathetic.

HR won't care or do anything.

Grow up.

SquashedSpring · 28/09/2020 10:30

@Marg33t

Ok thanks all, I've decided to let it go and unfriend her.

Work has a social media policy that I think she's breached so I've sent screen shots to them so they can deal with it while I try to stay professional and not mention it to her.

I don't see how reporting her to her employer will make the world a better place for police officers or anyone else.
pickingdaisies · 28/09/2020 10:37

So you've done the right thing by screenshotting and reporting her perfectly rational post - anonymously. Just because you didn't like it.
Shame on you, OP. Shame on you.

Cadent · 28/09/2020 10:38

@changerr

If OP's work has any sense, SHE will be the one who is disciplined, not the person posting on FB.
Yep I hope work get to see any ‘blue lives’ posts on OP’s social media in return.

The fact that you can’t speak about police people being ‘heroes’ without stealing from Black Lives Matters is pathetic, OP.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 28/09/2020 10:44

@DueNumberTwo

Actually op if you've shared anything about 'blue lives matter' on your wall then I hope you realise how offensive that is considered by a lot of people
Why is it offensive?! Blue lives do matter.

Glad you've defriended her op.

This tragedy happened on fri. It hasnt been mentioned once on daytime TV as far as I've noticed. Not even on the front pages of the papers. Other people are murdered and the msm feature the incident for days, if not weeks.

Branleuse · 28/09/2020 10:47

Somebody has been mean on the internet?