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To ask what's the loveliest thing a partner has done for you

150 replies

Songsofexperience · 26/09/2020 22:33

Struggling a little bit at the moment. So many posters -too many- seem to have had bad experiences in their relationships. I'd like to believe there's hope out there. Please restore my faith in humanity!

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Aquamarine1029 · 26/09/2020 22:35

My husband has done more lovely things than I could possibly count. He's wonderful.

Wilkolampshade · 26/09/2020 22:38

Calmly and gently washing me down after a traumatic birth. When I think of it now I can see how full of love we were in that moment.

lilfoxfur · 26/09/2020 22:40

Ah mines a good one. A goldfish has more common sense but he's so kind and loving. Most recently I've had surgery and he took care of me so well after. He makes the best cups of tea too! And he puts a hot water bottle in my bed before I get it 😊

SistemaAddict · 26/09/2020 22:47

Left.

LetsPlayAGame20 · 26/09/2020 22:48

Let's me lie in when he's off, despite he gets up and goes out the door early each day and had tonnes of work on.
He did 15 hours today. But he's just got in and said. You look shattered. Everything ok.?
Me. Yeah the baby slept crap last night and up early, dds been a royal pain in the bum and dsd had me running round park for 2 hour s whislt holding the baby

He said he appreciates I do 99%of the house stuff and childcare so I get to do as I pleas when he's off

Fwiw. I enjoy doing all the stuff. He has long hours so when he gets in I wnat him to have some time with the dcs, not do chores and things

He makes me tea at the drop of a hat because one pet hate I have is making a cuppa.. I would rather go without than make my own tea, no idea why.
It's a joke now that that's his job to do.

Although he's pants with money.. He's had to give me is bank card he's that bad and probably couldn't tell you how much utilities we pay etc.

BillywilliamV · 26/09/2020 22:52

He’s done endless lovely things over the years and now he is going to bring me up a cup of tea!

PurpleFlower1983 · 26/09/2020 22:54

My husband is wonderful generally but the way he supported me throughout the birth of our daughter was amazing.

thenightsky · 26/09/2020 22:58

He had to do a speech at a work dinner about the person who was the most positive influence in his life. He talked about me!

Advice79 · 26/09/2020 23:01

@thenightsky that is so lovely x

Cuppaand2biscuits · 26/09/2020 23:03

Goes out to work every day to earn the money to pay the bills and the mortgage so that I only have to work part time and get to spend most of my time at home with the kids which is exactly where I want to be.

jakeyboy1 · 26/09/2020 23:03

There are many things but he held my hair back when I was being sick last night and looked after me. Feeling very lucky today.

Lockdownproblems · 26/09/2020 23:03

My partner thinks he is the dogs bollocks when he puts his coffee cup in the dishwasher "for me". He also thinks hes a hero if he doesnt cheat on me (again) when some silly slut messages him.

Dullardmullard · 26/09/2020 23:07

@Lockdownproblems

My partner thinks he is the dogs bollocks when he puts his coffee cup in the dishwasher "for me". He also thinks hes a hero if he doesnt cheat on me (again) when some silly slut messages him.
You need to leave then as this will erode your self esteem
SchrodingersImmigrant · 26/09/2020 23:10

When my parent died and I texted him about it he came home with all my fave "naughty" food😁

Dullardmullard · 26/09/2020 23:10

When it was discovered I had gallstones and feeling like shit. He left Me in bed to rest. Sorted the house, made meals and fed the dogs that we usually do together.

TylluanBach · 26/09/2020 23:11

Sent me a photo of a rainbow he saw at work and said 'This one's for you love'.

Had a crap couple of days, was a small thing but put a little light in a heavy heart.

WiggleSquiggle · 26/09/2020 23:12

Honestly my husband is just a wonderful person. He’s very naturally thoughtful, and though he thinks he’s not romantic I find the ways he makes my life better on a daily basis very romantic.
For example he’ll make me a morning cup of tea, do the early wake ups each weekday before work with the DC so I can sleep, he’ll make sure my clothes are clean and dry or put them on to wash or dry if I’ve forgotten so I don’t have to panic when I get up, we’ll cook together and he’ll cut the meat as I don’t like the feel of it, he’ll buy (and hide for me) my favourite chocolates and he’s just generally as lovely person.
The one that stands out as a bigger gesture is when we were first together we were LD. I had a big family crisis, a bereavement and became redundant within a few days and was just having a truly shitty week.
I told him how everything hitting at once was getting me so down and just broke into tears. He decided to drive 6 hours straight to me, late at night, to help and ended up taking me back to his home to have a break and recharge. He could hear in my voice how much I needed help, and he just turned up at my door to do whatever I needed him to.

ncailleach · 26/09/2020 23:12

Exh was horrible but dp is lovely. We're together 11 years now and he's been supportive in too many ways to mention. My eldest and him are peas in a pod and ds really relies on him in times of stress. When I was single people would spout platitudes about plenty more fish bla bla 🙄 but it did happen for me and I couldn't be happier 🙂

Nicknamegoeshere · 26/09/2020 23:13

Delivered our baby daughter at home. It was a planned home birth and we had and Independent Midwife supervising but he did 99% of the care in labour Smile His first baby (my third). She is four months old today.

pinkstripeycat · 26/09/2020 23:14

It’s so lovely to hear there are good, kind, thoughtful men out there. I think most of it is just normal behaviour but I’ve never experienced it. I’m obviously not good at picking, neither is my sister, mum or nan.

StCharlotte · 26/09/2020 23:14

My family adore cricket. DH had a friend who worked at our local county ground and they arranged for a match day in a box, with a behind the scenes tour and souvenirs for my whole family. It turned out to be the last time all my siblings and I were together before my sister died. It's a lovely memory.

WiggleSquiggle · 26/09/2020 23:14

@thenightsky

He had to do a speech at a work dinner about the person who was the most positive influence in his life. He talked about me!
Oh that’s very sweet!
Mumski45 · 26/09/2020 23:18

My DH was working abroad for a few weeks when I was at home with baby DS. I was having a bad day with DS and hadn't managed to plan a meal. After a short phone call with DH my favourite Indian takeaway turned up at the door with my tea - I nearly turned them away thinking they had the wrong house before I realised what he had done. It was even paid for.

PleaseGodLetItEnd · 26/09/2020 23:19

In a good relationship it’s an accumulation of small things rather than a big gesture (the rotters love a grand gesture, in my experience). My lovely DH is considerate of me in the decisions he makes every day, without having to make a song and dance about it. Which would for make a shit romcom but makes for a lovely life.

WiggleSquiggle · 26/09/2020 23:20

@pinkstripeycat

It’s so lovely to hear there are good, kind, thoughtful men out there. I think most of it is just normal behaviour but I’ve never experienced it. I’m obviously not good at picking, neither is my sister, mum or nan.
We all make mistakes, my ex for instance, was a massive fucking prick. Grin