Called a guy out on a lie. Friends said I humiliated him. Did I?

[Chairlove]

Met a guy OLD. On his profile Said he was 42, owned a cat and had a post grad degree. I am 39 and my profile is accurate and recent pictures. His pictures looked staged, but cute. Talked via text for a few weeks and seemed good banter.

We met last night. He looked older than his pictures and seemed to act older. Within 10 mins we were talking about my 40th and I wasn’t able to do what I planned. He then said he was 50! I questioned him on the age of his profile and he said it said he was 50. I disagreed and got his profile out to show him.

He didn’t look embarrassed and said it was a mistake. He then talked about a cat visiting him, I questioned it says he owned the cat. He said he didn’t and didn’t put that in his profile. Again got my phone out and showed him. I also questioned his pictures as now thinking on a different date.

He then says at least you know now for our second date. Getting annoyed I then got his profile out again and started to ask questions. No degree, not height he said etc. It was lies.

I finished my wine (I paid first round) and said sorry don’t want to see you again. He asks why, reply you lied! He said was a mistake. Still he lied, as the app asks you to confirm your age once you input it.

I left. Phoned my friend and they said I shouldn’t of got the app out to show him. Just leave. Said I humiliated him. I personally think he deserved it. Granted he was the third bad date in a row.

What do you think?

I mean yeah he's an idiot and you shouldn't date him, but you didn't have to get your phone out to show him. I would have walked out after the cat thing, that's weird.

Seriously all you had to do was have a drink, say polite goodbyes and then decline further dates if he contacted you. If you spend every bad date arguing with men and pulling them up on things you will end up worn out and jaded.

If the date had been everything he’d claimed to be, but the OP wasn’t feeling a spark, then yes, she could have had a polite drink and then never seen him again. That’s nobody’s fault. This is someone deliberately lying and wasting her time.

You did exactly the right thing, OP.

He humiliated himself by being too fucking weak to be himself. Arsehole.

Being a liar must be much more socially acceptable than I assumed.

@katy1213

And he let you get the first round. A liar with no manners!

your right

OP, you’re a Legend!

To the other posters minimising his lying, why would you do that?
Are you so used to being lied to that you’ve convinced yourself that it doesn’t really matter that much?

He didn’t deserve to be treated with respect because he’d already been disrespectful to the OP before they even met, by telling an outrageous pack of lies on his profile.

No wonder so many men lie and get away with it.

I think you did the right thing OP. Why should you put up with not one lie but multiple lies?

The worst part is it seems he had no shame at all! Lucky escape OP.

Stripesgalore - i'm always stunned at how comfortable mumnetters are with lying too :(

What a nobber! Definitely what @DeliciouslyFemale said!

Whats the matter with your friends?

You were honest he lied.

Set your friends up on a date with them if they are that put out .

said I shouldn’t of got the app out to show him. Just leave. Said I humiliated him

Oh FGS! Why do the feelings of a man who deliberately and repeatedly lied need to be spared? Why are you entitled to expose this time wasting arse?

Good for you!

Bloke sounds like a fucking idiot and I don't blame you for getting stuck in

I did die inside a little for him with each new revelation though

I would have made him pay for his glass of wine, the lying git.

I did die inside a little for him with each new revelation though

But he wasn't dying. Shameless.

OP you are my heroine

Well done, OP! If he hadn't denied his lying, you wouldn't need to present the evidence. What a tool. Hope the next one's better!

Your friend seems to care more about you 'humiliating' a guy they have never met, and unlikely to, than for you who has wasted an evening on a lying twit. How odd

@EasyAndy101

Bloke sounds like a fucking idiot and I don't blame you for getting stuck in

I did die inside a little for him with each new revelation though

Why die inside for this liar??

He literally wrote the lies himself with his own 50 year old catless thumbs

Not sure your friend has good boundaries...
If he had tackled the age thing differently - been honest and said he can't get any dates at all with his genuine age and been upfront from that point I would have probably carried on with the date. But the fact he tried to deny, and then it turns out its one of many lies - well I think you were spot on with your actions

Why would he lie about having a cat? That's really weird.

But he wasn't dying. Shameless

Yeah that's the bit I can't understand. How wouldn't you just run away when the first lie is exposed.

I said I'm dying inside a bit, I'm not actually sympathising as such. I couldn't imagine ever being in that situation but I would feel ashamed

Your friends are strange!!! And so it that guy for lying. You did what I would have done!

Good on you! You pulled him up on his fabrication

I do think he deserved it unfortunately. The whole profile was full of lies!

Good for you. What a lying wanker.