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shesfancy · 2020-09-23T14:27:10+00:00

Okay, I haven’t yet been to a restaurant or coffee shop since lockdown was lifted, but I don’t understand at all, how they can be safe. I considered a drive thru coffee a few days ago but changed my mind. I mean how can it be safe drinking from a cup someone has touched moments before? Surely this is worse than being less than 2m to someone? I’ve made the decision to not eat or drink out for the foreseeable, DH said I’m being over the top. I don’t think it’s safe and I’m sticking with that. AIBU?

AlwaysCheddar · 24/09/2020 20:28

Spot on!

SomewhereEast · 24/09/2020 20:29

If you're willing to accept that this will be your life for at least another six months, then you do you. I wouldn't blame your DH for losing the will to live though!

Lunar567 · 24/09/2020 20:54

If you haven't been how do you know?

Please, stop scare mongering. Are you from BBC?

Candyflosscookie · 24/09/2020 21:03

I’m not anxious. I just see a genuine risk.

You need to google viral load. And understand transmission.
It's a minuscule, negligible risk.
Your DH is right, you're being completely OTT.

ChodeOfChodeBall · 24/09/2020 23:28

@Malteserdiet

I’m sorry but this is utter madness. This is a virus that most people need to take a test for to find out if they even have it. This is a virus that 99.9% of people survive and where the average age of death is higher than the average life expectancy of both men and women in the UK. And this is a virus that will never go away and must be incorporated into daily life along with all the thousands of others that we have all lived with forever and never once thought that maybe we shouldn’t buy a bloody cup of takeaway coffee and Milton all our shopping just in case we got infected! Just madness!

This ^^

A million times over.

Boobissue · 25/09/2020 06:45

I’m sorry but this is utter madness.
This is a virus that most people need to take a test for to find out if they even have it. This is a virus that 99.9% of people survive and where the average age of death is higher than the average life expectancy of both men and women in the UK. And this is a virus that will never go away and must be incorporated into daily life along with all the thousands of others that we have all lived with forever and never once thought that maybe we shouldn’t buy a bloody cup of takeaway coffee and Milton all our shopping just in case we got infected! Just madness!

Agreed!

Littered5 · 25/09/2020 06:57

@borntohula

I work in a restaurant and don't feel as though I'm risking my life by going to work.

This is interesting. The people who have had the option to stay at home or WFM and have not been out much seem to have got overwhelmed the most.

It’s not sustainable for your mental health OP I suspect you know this already. We can’t just focus on Covid and let everything grind to a halt!.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 25/09/2020 06:59

Restaurants and coffee shops are infinitely safer for me than the alternative of being locked in my bloody house on my own (again) for months.

While ever I can, I'll be going out to work, the gym, to eat, to drink and anything else I can think of.

You can shuff your fucking virus up yer arse. Sideways

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 25/09/2020 07:15

@Malteserdiet

I’m sorry but this is utter madness. This is a virus that most people need to take a test for to find out if they even have it. This is a virus that 99.9% of people survive and where the average age of death is higher than the average life expectancy of both men and women in the UK. And this is a virus that will never go away and must be incorporated into daily life along with all the thousands of others that we have all lived with forever and never once thought that maybe we shouldn’t buy a bloody cup of takeaway coffee and Milton all our shopping just in case we got infected! Just madness!

Please place this post on every MN thread. Even the ones which aren't about Covid, because someone always goes on those too to announce that we're in a global PANDEMIC dontcha know and how very dare you be talking about chrysanthemums when people might DIE.

Faraway20 · 25/09/2020 07:45

How has your stance on coronavirus affected your husband? Is he under house arrest too?

Browneyesbigbum · 25/09/2020 07:47

You can do whatever want to do @shesfancy.

You sound paranoid and over the top to many but others will be equally worried and thinking as you do. If it makes you feel ok and you can live like that (shopping washing) then so what.

I do think many have lost a sense of perspective when the word safe is used.

BedknobsNoBroomsticks · 25/09/2020 07:51

[quote shesfancy]@applepineapple

People touch your items in the shop. The delivery driver touches the items to load into the van. I think you're being OTT

I wash my shopping with Milton before it’s put away.[/quote]
So you are one of the reasons why I struggle to find Milton for my child's steriliser. Thanks OP

Browneyesbigbum · 25/09/2020 07:52

Good point made further up. The people that don't have the option to stay at home but have to get on with it and get out to work to live seem to have a better perspective on things.

I do worry about the negative consequences on mental health of some of those locking themselves away. Often their comments are very paranoid and over the top

Ilikewinter · 25/09/2020 08:01

Oh wow, sounds like youre living a wonderfull life and i wish you all the luck with it......but what i really want to scream out is for the love of god get a grip.

ekidmxcl · 25/09/2020 08:10

There is a genuine risk op, that is true. You just need to try to balance things (ie worry vs shit time) so that you can carry on with your life. I take it you have no school age kids? Because my God, sending 2 of them into secondaries with thousands makes a mockery of any precautions anyone might take. Positive tests are rising exponentially and there are thousands of asymptomatic children.

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shesfancy · 25/09/2020 17:29

@BedknobsNoBroomsticks

So you are one of the reasons why I struggle to find Milton for my child's steriliser. Thanks OP angry

Yeah, because what I did, was go to all of the supermarkets across all of the UK and bulk bought.

Honestly! Wind your neck in.
I have as much right as anyone to buy a bottle of Milton, and for reference (not that it’s ANY) of your business but I’ve had said bottle of Milton since last year BEFORE the pandemic!
Only takes a very small amount to mix with some water once a week for shopping!!

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shesfancy · 25/09/2020 17:32

@Faraway20

How has your stance on coronavirus affected your husband? Is he under house arrest too?

@Faraway20

Yeah. Handcuffed, in the cupboard under the stairs.

NO ONE is on house arrest. I go out plenty.
Just not to restaurants or coffee shops.

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Boobissue · 25/09/2020 18:44

@shesfancy so where do you go? If you go out plenty?

I mean you still Milton your delivered shopping and won't risk a drive thru coffee!

So where do you actually go?

Do you have children?

IamaBluebird · 25/09/2020 19:04

Hope the handcuffs were soaked in Milton.

Faraway20 · 25/09/2020 19:38

@IamaBluebird

Hope the handcuffs were soaked in Milton.

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shesfancy · 25/09/2020 19:47

[quote Boobissue]@shesfancy so where do you go? If you go out plenty?

I mean you still Milton your delivered shopping and won't risk a drive thru coffee!

So where do you actually go?

Do you have children? [/quote]
@Boobissue

I’ve been plenty of outdoor places, farms, zoos, picnics.
Friends / families gardens.

You don’t seem like a particularly friendly person, just judgemental!!

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Boobissue · 25/09/2020 19:52

You don’t seem like a particularly friendly person, just judgemental!!

You sound ridiculously OTT and not able to risk assess!

As lots on this thread have pointed out.

Your poor children now winter is coming, locked up in a sterilised house.

You don't sound like a particularly good parent, reduce your BMI so you are not so at risk? And forcing your family into isolation.

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shesfancy · 25/09/2020 22:48

@Boobissue

You don’t seem like a particularly friendly person, just judgemental!!

You sound ridiculously OTT and not able to risk assess!

As lots on this thread have pointed out.

Your poor children now winter is coming, locked up in a sterilised house.

You don't sound like a particularly good parent, reduce your BMI so you are not so at risk? And forcing your family into isolation.

@Boobissue

You don't sound like a particularly good parent

There you go again being all judgemental.

I don’t think my baby particularly minds that at 5 weeks old she doesn’t get to go in coffee shops and restaurants.

I’m a first time mum, 5 weeks in! So because I avoid things I’m not comfortable with I’m
a bad parent...

Cheers! Typical Mumsnetter.

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hahoohayou · 25/09/2020 22:52

@Boobissue

You sound ridiculously OTT and not able to risk assess!

You don't sound like a particularly good parent

What shitty thinga to say!

The OP has stated she’s done several outdoor activities.
Perhaps she’s not able to asses risks very well but with a small baby that’s pretty understandable.
Show some compassion and kindness!

Aragog · 25/09/2020 23:06

I'm clinically vulnerable and have eaten out several times now and always felt safe.

We sit in households and not within 2m of other tables generally, def at least 1m.

Staff wear masks and usually SD where possible too.

Sanitiser everywhere.

We've also stayed in hotels and been on holiday, albeit not on a flight - we went by train.

The place I feel elastic safe really is in school where there's no SDing as they're little children.