To ask how you cope with aging?

[malificent7]

So I am only 42 but wanting botox. In many ways I feel more comfortable in my skin but I am sad that it may be too late to have another baby ( not sure I want anothet but would be good to have the option.)
Also I wish I looked like the beautiful young girls I worked with ...but with my knowledge now!
Yes, i know the patriarchy makes us fear aging so how do i embrace it?

I just get on with, it's life, what did people do before botox, fillers etc.? Fine if that's the way you want to go but I have a good skincare regime, eat healthy, exercise (I was once VERY overweight) and my skin has improved dramatically. I'm 46 now, I was very pleased when a new 40 year old colleague thought we were the same age

Being grateful for the opportunity to age. It’s far better than the alternative. Concentrate on the value of what’s inside, the outside is simply a shell -keep it as healthy as you can, but it’s only a house to shelter you.

I cope with it by not giving a fuck.

Fillers, botox etc look wank. IMHO.

@Hingeandbracket

I cope with it by not giving a fuck.

This.

You should give it a go, OP. Best thing you’ll ever do for yourself.

I second @Hingeandbracket

Ageing is a privilege!! Being yourself and happy in yourself and confident is far sexier than anything else !!
I'm 46 and think I'm doing ok, Botox and fillers made your face weird!! 🤷‍♀️

By enjoying me now I have a number two haircut, nice face cream I wear what I’m comfortable in, so nice not to care anymore about what others think.

It's up to you if you want botox etc. Personally I think it looks awful and very rarely can look natural. Eating healthily and looking after yourself physically will make you look better as well as flattering hair and make up if you so wish.

Just use it as a reminder of your mortality and the passing of time. Try to enjoy each stage. Not sure I’ll be saying that when menopause hits etc. Wear your wrinkles with pride and shine from the inside out or if that’s not your thing get Botox! 😜

I agree with some pps, see it as a privilege, some people aren't as lucky to see this age. I'm having tests at the moment and am hoping with all my heart it is not serious and I get to see old age.

You do have to get to a point of accepting yourself as you are and be happy about that.
Dress yourself in clothes that you enjoy and feel comfortable in. Get a good haircut. Update your makeup.
Don't fret about what you can't change.
I think your early 40's is a tricky time, you're still young enough for certain things (like babies) but very aware that the time to do so is getting limited.
I'm of an age where babies are off the cards now and it was quite liberating as I had wanted another but DH did not. I feel relieved of the pressure now.

In my case, deteriorating eyesight means that when I look in the mirror my reflection is in soft focus and I continue to look great!

Not well! I'm early 30s and have found lots of white/grey hairs today... depressed!

Get botox if you can afford it and it makes you feel better.

You could always try for another baby if your situation allows.

@Ihatefish

Being grateful for the opportunity to age. It’s far better than the alternative. Concentrate on the value of what’s inside, the outside is simply a shell -keep it as healthy as you can, but it’s only a house to shelter you.

Love this so much. I lost my best friend when she was 29 and my cousin sadly died when she was 33. I'm 42 now and I'm so grateful to be here and seeing my children grow up. How many children do you have ? If you really want another then go for it. You will age without or without a baby but it's Breyer to be happy and without regret. 🦋

By looking at what the alternative is.

With or without
Better

I’m not bothered about looking old. I’m having trouble with feeling it. I’m 36 and already have health issues starting to arise. Like OP I feel old in regards to having another child as I had fertility treatment for my first at 30 so know my chances are so much less. Feeling that pressure of time. As for looking my age or older I couldn’t care less

Easy: stop assuming that your value as a person lies in how young you look.

Seriously, I was expecting this thread to be about genuine aging problems, like joints getting fucked up, bladder falling apart, stomach reflux, etc.
But wrinkles? Who fucking cares? What do they stop you from doing? Nothing, unless you let them.

I disagree that Botox and fillers always look fake and bad. Good ones are pricey though. Look at any woman in the public eye, the vast majority have had some kind of intervention, be it a little bit of Botox, some filler, maybe something more invasive. Yes you can always see the overdone horror stories but there are far more who look fabulous for their age and their secret isn't just yoga and green tea.

The nice thing about getting older is not giving a flying fuck for other people’s approval.

They are the stripes you’ve earned, OP.

I embrace it.

I'm 46 and feel great, who cares about younger women at work, don't compare yourself to anyone else, just be happy about having the priviledge to get older, I lost my lovely aunt when she was 46, the same age I am now.

I look after myself mentally and physically as no one wants to 'feel' old and I don't feel any different to how I felt in my twenties, if anything I am happier, more content, more solid emotionally. Because I look after myself physically, I look great too.

And going back to those younger gorgeous women at work, you can be an 'older' gorgeous woman you know

Dye my hair to cover the greys.
Only downside of ageing is joints, not as they used to be. Menopause is so annoying, ive got grumpier lol

Meant to say any woman over 40, sorry.

Although I do think if you're comfortable then brilliant. Some people aren't and I don't think it's shameful to get a little bit of help.

Agree with the not giving a fuck comments. Am 51 and I’ve been growing out the grey hair since lock down started, on the basis that I could always dye it again, and really like the softer look - has a few highlights currently to break up the ungrown out colour, but will ultimately be grey all over.