To ask how you cope with aging?

[malificent7]

So I am only 42 but wanting botox. In many ways I feel more comfortable in my skin but I am sad that it may be too late to have another baby ( not sure I want anothet but would be good to have the option.)
Also I wish I looked like the beautiful young girls I worked with ...but with my knowledge now!
Yes, i know the patriarchy makes us fear aging so how do i embrace it?

By telling myself I'm still here.

I'm 58 now and just glad to have a relatively fit and healthy body. I'm not bothered by the odd wrinkle it's natural and there are many beautiful older women around.
People should just rejoice in a healthy body as you can't buy that.

I get Botox every six months.

Last time one of my eyebrows went up and the other didn't go up till a day or so later.
I always end up looking like king the merciless for a day or two till it settles down.

I can't be fucked getting it then I look in the mirror and think maybe one more go lol.

I'm 60 op. 42 would be incredible. Make the best of it and enjoy it.

Read Caitlin Moran's latest book (More Than a Woman). She writes beautifully about how to embrace ageing.

Just think that in 5/10 years time you’ll wish you were as young as you are now. Say that to yourself every now and again.

Basically nobody cares what you look like except you - and maybe your partner. That’s a good starting point. If your body is healthy and functions well, the rest is all frills.

I was miserable at 42, trying to raise young teenagers and cope with an alcoholic DH. I'm now in my late 50s and life is a hundred times better. I've a lovely partner, brilliant grown up kids, the mortgage is paid and I've an exciting new part-time career. I look older than I did, but don't give a stuff, because I'm happy.

I'm 60. Apart from experimenting with make up in my teens I have never worn it since as I hate the way it makes my skin feel. Instead I carry a small tub of moisturiser with me and use it several times a day.

*I don't smoke, drink or eat meat, and try to go for a walk every day. - that's my health routine if you can call it that as I do these things by choice rather than
*I Don't do fashion - do the charity shops instead and cut/stitch/change the clothes I buy, to how I want them to look on me.

Yes, i know the patriarchy makes us fear aging so how do i embrace it ?...... by not giving a stuff what anyone else thinks, that's how!.

I plan an adventure every day, no matter how big or small.
Each year I set myself a new achievement to aspire to.
I ride the hell (distance not speed) out of my motorbike as often as I can.
Love my freedom.

Coping is just as much an attitude approach as it is physical. If you believe you are/look/feel old, then you will be.....and vice-versa.

I always assumed I'd get Botox when I was older, but now that some of my friends have had it I'm not so sure. They don't look the same! And the lip fillers look awful, like they've had an allergic reaction rather than a natural look. Plus I don't think it's a good idea to inject something into the body that wasn't already there.... think I've talked myself out of it!
I saw pics of Jennifer Anniston in the news today and I had to double check the name - it doesn't look like her any more!

I read something the other day that I think is prob true- 40 is the old age of youth, 50 is the youth of old age. Enjoy!

it's said that the health you have in your 50s depends on the things you started doing in your 30s, health in 60s depends on habits you started in your 40s, etc. So my coping with aging has to do with that kind of long term planning.

If you want to try botox and fillers, go for it. The idea that they always look bad is stupid. Only the bad ones look bad. The good ones you don't know-- so you wouldnt know. They are temporary beauty interventions, same as other ones.

It can be hard to get your head around aging and who you are as an 'older' person. It probably takes time to work it out. Give yourself a break and do what you want to do to feel better, while your head catches up.

I cope by looking up older women and aspiring to look like some but not the others. It also handily reminds me to keep up the good habits like eating well, taking vitamins, watching my health, etc.

I'm 55 and ageing isn't bothering me at all so far. I adopted a lovely dog last February and I love walking with her everyday.
I've become very interested in my garden and I still have 2 teenagers at home.
Laughing and hanging out with friends the same age is very levelling. Some if us have enjoyed much better health than others.
Everyday I'm thankful im healthy and not got any aches or pains. Im thankful im still here! Every dog has their day and im not that sexy young thing anymore. Im happy to leave it to the younguns.

I find it really hard. I’ve never been a looker and I don’t have much in the way of lines or wrinkles but I just think I look hard now. I struggle with it a lot. I’m 47.

@UnfinishedSymphon do you mind if I ask how you lost weight?

But yes, I would rather be here and look old than not be here

Aging is something I'll do in my 70s and 80s, right now I give no fucks.

I have spent the past week working with people younger than me who are dying of cancer...i know i should relax and enjoy.

Ladyfoxtrot I followed the WW no point plan as I couldn't be doing with weighing and pointing everything. Lots of lean meat, fish and poultry, smaller amounts of carbs and tonnes of veg. I split my plate into 1/4 protein, 1/4 carbs, 1/2 veg. I use a little oil for cooking, butter on my bread but I've completely cut the junk out, might have takeaway once a month if we don't go out, but it's healthier versions. I snack on veg or protein so cherry toms, boiled eggs, slice of chicken etc., and every meal is bulked out with veg, I blend veg too and add it to pasta sauces etc

my neck is the issues in my appearance. its terribly wrinkly, any advise ? nothing else bothers me, just my neck. Weird I know 🌺

I am mid 40's, I just figure my body is doing what it is meant to do so wearing makeup/skin care/fake tan etc. or surgically doing things to body is not going to stop my age.

No way on this planet am I having botox/facelift/whatever it is makes the forehead look weird or those scary bee stung lips (no I am not up)

My only daughter died five years ago. I love DH and I love DS, but I don’t mind aging at all. I am ready to “go home” when my time comes and spend time with her. Aging is a privilege though, and I am happy to grow older. Keep it all in perspective. Not one of us will live forever, and if you are growing older, you are luckier than many who didn’t get to. The best part about growing older is becoming “invisible”. At work I can sit at my desk and watch the younger people and all the drama in their lives, and it is amusing. I enjoy seeing the young people flirt with each other, and see them leaping into younger, hopeful lives. I would not want to go through it all again.

The best part about growing older is becoming “invisible” I really appreciate your post @LostInAutumn, but I find the invisibility thing really difficult. How do you accept it? I am so sorry about your daughter.